mencari redha ibu

Elle_mujigae

ogata posted on 21-11-2013 04:54 PM
Talking about keredhaan ibu ni..

Iols nak share my story la..

Salam....hello ogata...

Now entah I kadang kadang rasa mcam terasa berdosa je…

Rasa berdosa itu sahaja sudah satu perkara yang positif..i mean that;s how we know that it is not right to feel that way to our mom kan...
Cara didikan...Parenting...for me kan.lagi banyak i baca buku pasal parenting ni..lagi kuat perasaan yang i don;t think i can do this..i don;t think i can be a good parent to my kids nanti... sebab there is no clear cut way to raise a child..guidelines tu yes,ada..cuma setiap kanak-kanak kan berbeza...so what is good for this child doesn;t mean it is good for another child..

Blame lawannya forgiveness..
What I am trying to say is....maybe we can forgive ourselves first....kita blame cara didikan parents mungkin sbb kita tak happy how we turn out in certain areas now..... kesian kat our mom kan kalau kita ungkit ungkit cara dia besarkan kita...sedih hati dia..mana tahu lepas kita cakap mcm tu..malam malam dia nangis ke..huhu..

I am sure every mom and dad already trying their best to raise their child...we, human not perfect...ada tekanan dari luar..can effect out emotions...sure there is a glitch here and there....

so ya...past is past...now..it;s our turn pula...let;s try our best to be the best children they ever have!!....
hug them tight..kiss them with a muahhh ..say i love you loudly whenever possible.....

ogata

Elle_mujigae posted on 28-11-2013 10:35 AM
Salam....hello ogata...

Rasa berdosa itu sahaja sudah satu perkara yang positif..i mean that;s  ...

you laki ke perempuan??

owh damn..u buat i nanggis je depan PC ni....

main reason i put the blame on my mom may be sebab penceraian mereka and mom was chirstian...

when i was a kid i expect that ok i nak my parents didik i macam my other cousins yang didik oleh their parents..

semakin i meningkat dewasa i sedar and terdetik di hati i..lain orang lain cara didikan cara pendekatan..

dont expect too much from someone as we know that we are just a human being.

but now syukur la compare to other cousin yang memang lahir dari both parents musllim i kira ok..

Elle_mujigae

ogata posted on 28-11-2013 10:46 AM
you laki ke perempuan??

owh damn..u buat i nanggis je depan PC ni....

I am a girl..........

ala...uols janganlah nangis.nanti iols pun nangis sama.... =(

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but as you said..semakin kita dewasa..the thinking change...we only saw one big mistake the parents did..but we forgot all the other good things that they did for us kan....huhu...

so ya..now i guess we can see the good side of the things that happened kan..... =)

ogata

Elle_mujigae posted on 28-11-2013 10:58 AM
I am a girl..........

ala...uols janganlah nangis.nanti iols pun nangis sama.... =(

girl and married ya???

im not only blame my mom dowh..include my dad pun kena...

yerp..kita nampak salah parents tapi tak pernah nilai diri kita macam mana..

so tak hairan la if dengar orang kata..."tunggu la korang jadi parents nanti"....

Elle_mujigae

ogata posted on 28-11-2013 11:03 AM
girl and married ya???

im not only blame my mom dowh..include my dad pun kena...

eh no la belum kahwin lagi....bf pun takde uols..

"tunggu la korang jadi parents nanti"

betul sangat ayat ni.....scary la jadi parents...lagi lagi zaman la ni....internet exposure tinggi kan..
lepas tu everytime anak silap nanti..orang akan salahkan parents dulu...tak ajar betul betul..sedih kan...
kita mana la tahu maybe parents tu dah trying so hard didik anak dia ke... erm..

takpe..we acknowledge the feeling now,
kita minta maaf dgn mereka and lets start a new chapter... =)

ogata

Elle_mujigae posted on 28-11-2013 11:13 AM
eh no la belum kahwin lagi....bf pun takde uols..

owh i see.....umur berapa??
sama la..

yerp...payah anak sekarang ni..parents bekejaran cari duit...masa agak kurangnak spend dgn anak anak...
anak anak terdedah dengan budaya luar..ye la kan dunia tanpa sempadan..

i jarang blame parents kalau dengar kes kes dalam beruta..sebab kitatahu parents memang didik kita dirumah..cuma diri kita sahaja yang menolak didikan tersebut.

Elle_mujigae

ogata posted on 28-11-2013 11:20 AM
owh i see.....umur berapa??
sama la..

20 something...........

itulah...very tricky stuff..
based on the books that i read for fun about parenting ni...ada yang kata..
-anak menangis cepat cepat tengok..cuz then the baby will feel loved..
-ada yang kata jangan tengok cepat sangat..let the baby cry first then only tengok and pegang dia...cuz thats how we teach patience to them..
-ada yang kata jangan tengok langsung...biar je mereka nangis sampai mereka senyap..cuz thats how we teach independency to them..

how confusing...

so i guess like you cakap tadi..dah jadi parents nanti baru la kita tahu betapa susahnya nak jaga anak ni...

ogata

Elle_mujigae posted on 28-11-2013 11:31 AM
20 something...........

itulah...very tricky stuff..

tu belum lagi campur tangan mak and MIL..lagi haru..

adn i notice they way kita layan adik adik/nephew/niece and anak sendiri agak lain..
i sendir nampak melalui my sis la..

payah jadi parents ni.

Elle_mujigae

ogata posted on 28-11-2013 11:35 AM
tu belum lagi campur tangan mak and MIL..lagi haru..

adn i notice they way kita layan adik adik ...

huhu itulah payah kan... i guess nanti bila kita diberi rezeki hidup berumahtangga..redha ibubapa dan juga ibubapa mertua penting dalam apa sahaja yang kita buat... supaya segalanya dipermudahkan nanti bila kita menjalani kehidupan sbg isteri dan parents...Insyaallah......

NorAddin

mbhcsf posted on 27-11-2013 11:35 PM
i have been meaning to ask you this...

yg penting kan

salam

yap kedua²nya penting ..


Dari Abu Hurairah r.a. katanya;
‘‘Seorang lelaki bertanya kepada Rasulullah s.a.w.;
’’Ya Rasulullah,
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Jawab beliau,
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Sahih Muslim

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bahawa Nabi s.a.w. bersabda;

‘‘Jangan kamu benci kepada bapamu.
Siapa yang benci kepada bapanya,
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