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Masalah kawan nak kawin-pasal parut & dara
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Post Last Edit by whiteroses77 at 25-2-2010 10:16
Hopefully,i tak salah board.
Macam ni,white ada kawan,umur 28.Dia nak kawin,da ada bf la.Dia da couple dalam 3 bulan la.Masalahnya,dia kata dia tak tau macam mana nak cakap dengan bf dia dengan keadaan dia yang tak 'sempurna'.Dia tak dara lagi,pastu dia kata badan dia penuh parut.Muka dia cun jugak,tapi parut kat badan dia bekas accident,bekas operation,parut chicken pox.White kata buat la treatment,tapi dia kata mahal sebab parut dia jenis yang susah nak jumpa..white tak faham sangat apa maksud dia sebab dia tak bagi white tengok pun.White cakap dulu exbf dia pun kawan white ni yang dump so terbuktilah kalau lelaki tu setia,dia setia jugak walau macam mana pun.Psal dara tu,white tak tau la macam mana nak advise dia.
Dia kata dia sayang bf dia ni taapi tu la,dia takut first night nanti bf dia kecewa.Actually,white baru je rapat dengan kawan white ni,kepala kitorang ngam la.Macam mana nak advice dia pasal parut & dara?Dia kata susah2 sangat,dia nak break je,pastu takyah kawin sampai parut dia sembuh.Tapi dia da 28,adik2 dia da kawin da,lagipun,dia sayang sangat dengan bf dia tu. |
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la..takde sape sudi reply? |
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muka cun tapi badan berparutt?ermmm....bleh runding lagik nieee...
tak dara? ermmm...no comment....sebab eksiden or tuuuttt? |
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muka dia cun jugak la..lagipun,dia pandai bergaya.tapi badan,KO.
dara..hilang pasal tuut tapi dengan sorang lelaki je..i bukanlah nak cakap tak berdosa,tapi i da cakap kat dia,i ramai je kawan2 yang tak dara tapi da kawin da,da insaf,bahagia dengan family masing2..dara bukanlah penentu kebahagiaan.tuhan lagi tau kita,sapa orang lain nak menilai.masalahnya,nak bagitau tak kat bf dia sekarang? |
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sbb ape dia takde dara??
bg wa psl parut tu not really a big deal.. tp psl dara tu yg mslh sbrnya..
parut tu boh la losen hari2 lama2 lenyap la sket2 kesan parut tu.. bg gen kalo parut sbb hal2 camtuh takde la smpi lelaki tu reject dia... janji hati baik
tp bab dara tu concern la gak.. ngape sampi leh ilang dara?? |
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hmmm aku rase... kalau aku ar, aku terus terang je la secara pelan2. sebab tak nak dia terkejut lepas kawin nanti. kalau dia mintak putus sebabkan kekurangan tu, redha je la, maknanya dia bukan jodoh aku.... |
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xsemua org sempurna.. pasal parut tu, teruk sgt ke? xpun cite je kat dia dulu pasal parut tu. at least xde la dia terkejut sgt bila dh kawin nanti. kalo dia xble trima sbb ade parut tu, better pisah sebelum kawin. btul x? i ade gak parut kat tgn sbb xcident. my bf nmpk je. i cite la kat dia sbb ape. dia ble terima je. tp xtahula org lainkn.
cintaila seseorang kerana hatinya bkn kerana fizikalnya.
about dara tu, ntah ek. xtahu nk ckp pe. |
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hmmm aku rase... kalau aku ar, aku terus terang je la secara pelan2. sebab tak nak dia terkejut lepas kawin nanti. kalau dia mintak putus sebabkan kekurangan tu, redha je la, maknanya dia bukan jodoh ...
PrintChez Post at 25-2-2010 10:40 
tu la yang i cakap kat dia,bagitau je,kalau dia tak terima,tu bukanlah jodoh dia tapi dia jawab balik,kalau diorang break,bf dia ni da tau la kekurangan2 yang ada kat dia..malu la..kesian la i dengan dia |
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terima kasih yang sudi reply..ala crocus,setakat parut kat tangan tu,small matter.
yang i pelik tu,dia kata badan penuh parut,mcam mana bole sampai hilang dara tapi i tak tanya la..da la dia sedih gile kalau bf dia nak break.oh ya FYI,bf dia nak datang meninang bulan march ni |
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Nah... dari islamonline.net
Question
If a woman lost her virginity as she made a mistake and repented, should she reveal this to her prospective spouse? Is it in the admittance of sin within that which should be disclosed before marriage? Jazakum Allah Khayran!
Answer
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Dear questioner, we commend your pursuit of knowledge and your keenness to seek what is lawful and avoid what is not. We earnestly implore Allah to bless your efforts in this honorable way.
As regards the question whether one should disclose his/her past sins to the spouse, the answer is definitely no. Since Allah has covered a person’s sins, it is not anyone’s business to seek to lift Allah’s cover of confidentiality. Thus it is unbecoming of anyone to probe into someone’s sinful past.
Elaborating on this issue, we'd like to cite the words of Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, who states:
"Islam teaches that doors of Allah’s mercy are wide open for all sinners, provided they are willing to return to Allah in sincere repentance and respond to Allah’s call. Allah says: “O My Servants who have wronged their souls! Do not despair of Allah’s mercy. For Allah certainly forgives all sins.” (Az-Zumar: 53) In light of the above, we can certainly hope that the Merciful Lord forgives our sins. But one must never take the issue of repentance lightly. It is not simply saying, O Allah, forgive me. Rather, one must first feel deep remorse for the sin, refrain from all associations that led to the same, resolving never to do it again, and finally occupying oneself busy with good deeds.
As for the question whether one should disclose his/her sinful past to a prospective spouse, my firm answer is no. Islam teaches that we must confess our sins to Allah and Allah alone. By disclosing our sins to humans we are lifting the cover that Allah has placed over them."
Excerpted, with modifications, from: www.muslims.ca
The eminent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Muhammad Al-Hanooti, member of the North American Fiqh Council, adds:
"It is not sinful for the girl not to reveal her early actions before making tawbah (repentance) because Allah is the only one who accepts tawbah and who accounts and judges people.
Her concealing of the sins that she committed complies with the guidance of Shari`ah that a Muslim is not in need of revealing what they do of sinful actions. Allah likes evildoings to be unknown and not to be revealed."
Having said this, however, one must make a definite exception to the above rule. If someone is suffering from contagious diseases (such as being HIV-positive or afflicted with AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases, etc.), it is incumbent upon him/her to disclose it to the prospective spouse [without adding details of one’s past sex life]. Failure to do so is a most heinous offense, as it may most likely expose the prospective spouse to unnecessary harm, which is not tolerated in Islam.
link: http://www.islamonline.net/servl ... p;cid=1119503543626 |
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Post Last Edit by Hana at 25-2-2010 11:04
kawan ko tu kena USAHA la reduce kan ketaraan kejelasan kenampakan parut2 tu. parut mmg susah nak buang tapi, boleh reduce.
mana ada lelaki baik sangat "terima seadaanya". lelaki suka body indah2/lawa2 utk dia kiss kiss & explore. kalau ada bendaasing, sure mati stim. lagipun, make love selepas kawen, dah takder setan2 nak menutup penglihatan or buat TERghairah lebih lebih.
kalau belum kawen buat make love, ada setan. setan tu la menutup penglihatan orang2 tersebut supaya syok lebih. ghairah lebih. parut pun tak nampak. pecah dara pun tak sakit. - ayat ini, mcm ada pengalaman ler pulak.wakakakaka.
bukan, ini dari hasil pembacaan aku la.
aku pun heran. badan KO,tapi, takder dara pulak ekk..heran bin ajaib betul. ada jugakk orang nak main ekk..
ke, masa tu, tgh test saham laku ke tak?  |
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main dlm gelap  |
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kalau btl2 dia nak kawin dgn bf dia tue better jgn bg tau kat bf dia pasal dia xde virgin..tp kan laki blh terus tau ker pompuan yg xde virgin??..pasal parut tue small matter jer..g la spa ker sebln sekali, at least blh pudarkan parut tue..kat pasaran kan byk produk utk pudarkan parut, nak hilangkan mmg imposibble la..cam aku ada gak parut ckit2..normal la manusia ada parut..yg bezanya parut besar @ kecik.. |
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11# Hana
..sayang punyer pasal..sanggup ku renangi lautan api, parut bagai..keh keh
tp kan kalau laki parut menimbun2 pun pompuan sanggup terima jerk kan..laki jer demand lbh..uwekk. |
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kens..
lakii yg parott tahap hazaaaabbb..
lg nak demand2 awek nak selicin kulit telor...:kant:
pasal dara tuh..
kalu dah insaff.... tak buat lgik...
better jgn betau future hasben diaa  |
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parut chicken p0x lelama hilang la...i kena chicken p0x in 2007. but it fades away lah after s0me time. lagipun semua 0rg pun alami benda nie. kalau u prasan, artis2 luar negara pun ada parut nie. kalau yg berbekas tu pun lama-lama x nampak sgt. d0nt w0rry...tp kalau parut yg mcm luka dalam sgt mcm kena tusuk pisau ke apa ke, tak tau la..... |
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aku rasa baik member k0 tue berterus terang je ngan bf die. baru kapel 3 bulan kan? makin lama, makin susah nak berpisah sbb rasa sayang tue makin menebal. kalau bf dia ikhlas, insya Allah semuanya akan 0k....dan member k0 tue kena lah berubah jugak..... |
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nak share jugak my opinion...
pasal parut tu, boleh ilang, insyaallah.... paling berkesan ( without going thru surgery and all lah..) , gune Palmer's Cocoa Butter Formula Vitamin E Scar Serum ... boleh beli kat guardian, watson, etc... rega dlm RM80-90 sebotol... continue pakai dlm 3-6 months... kalau parut yg lame2, lambat sket la ilang.... |
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stretch mark pun hilang ek?? pernah dgr jugak pr0duk nie |
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Post time 25-2-2010 10:11 AM
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