Bini aku nak kembali? apa pendapat korang?

aizat · Post time 9-9-2007 11:40 PM

setelah sekian lama buat aku menderita, dia akhirnya ingin kembali. apa pendapat korang?

minah_gesek · Post time 9-9-2007 11:43 PM

boleh minah tahu, apa sbb sbb dia pergi, dulu? ikut jantan lain ker

johan3036 · Post time 9-9-2007 11:47 PM

yup itu pun penting gak utk terima atau tk...kalu itu jawapan nya bg pendapat aku sori..mana tau next time buat lagi..

rourouleya · Post time 9-9-2007 11:50 PM

dia buat ape kt ko sampai ko menderita?? ko diseksa dgn kejam ke???

aizat · Post time 9-9-2007 11:52 PM

baca ini

http://forum3.cari.com.my/viewth ... ;highlight=%2Baizat

MamaIlya · Post time 9-9-2007 11:54 PM

X payah la terima..unless ko ni betul punya sabar and memang bukan kaki ungkit, or else, just say buhbye dah la...

rourouleya · Post time 10-9-2007 12:12 AM

owh begitu critanya.....

bg akula... kalu ko masih cintakan dia apa salahnya terima kembali..... biar dia rasa, ko sbnrnya sygkan dia seblom nih.... cuma dia je xreti nk menilai dari dulu....

bg aku as perempuan klu dilayan baik2 lepas wat salah, sure terasa sampai ke ulu ati... tambah2 lg org cam bini ko tu...

tapi keputusan ditgn ko....

True-X · Post time 10-9-2007 12:12 AM

laa dulu ko kater nak carik calon peganti..

mesti ko sayang kat dia lagi ek...

LostSoul · Post time 10-9-2007 07:05 AM

last time, you said you wanted her... badly.. now when she wanted you back, you tanya nak buat apa? buat apa lagi???

suereen · Post time 10-9-2007 08:12 AM

terima je.....semua org xlepas dr buat kesilapan....mgkn dia br tersedar....pasni bimbing dia betul2.....tp jgn smpi seksa dia lak.....jgn bg setan tepuk tgn....kalo ko amik keputusan cerai, setan2 mesti gembira buat majlis kesyukuran sumer sbb berjaya hasut anak adam lg......lgpun hr tu ko beria nak dia kan......cuba blk....tp bg masa n tgk camna.......

mulberi · Post time 10-9-2007 09:31 AM

Buat solat istikharah.. Minta ALLAH pimpin buat keputusan yg terbaik. Minta dijauhkan dari perkara2 yg menghancurkan hidup. Perjalanan hidup kita ni semua dalam ketentuanNYA.. DIA yg lebih mengetahui & tak tercapai dek akal kita ni..

namakurahsia · Post time 10-9-2007 09:35 AM

wat solat istikhorah la...

cantthinkofany · Post time 10-9-2007 09:40 AM

gua rasa lu yang tahu sebab sebenar lu orang berpisah and guess lu know her better than any of us here...

memang there are going to be two views going to be presented here....

for those forumer yang pernah dikhianati dan memaafkan tapi kemudian dikhianati semula...of course they will advise you to forgive and forget and say babai...there are more fish out there in the sea....enough is enough...mungkin she is not worth it for you to give her another chance...

but most of us here...would rather advice you to evaluate the situation...

1) apakah punca perpisahan tersebut...
2) adakah lu orang berdua sanggup to change your attitude or your thinking in order to prevent the same mistake happened again

kebanyakkan kita selalu mengambil remeh tentang mengapa sesuatu berlaku...this should not be...use the law of trouble shooting...ask 5 times...

sebagai contoh...

masalah...perpisahan berlaku
Why 1...kenapa perpisahan berlaku
Jawapan...bermain kayu tiga ngan office mate

Why 2...kenapa bermain kayu tiga ngan office mate...
Jawapan...tak tahu

Why 3...kenapa tak tahu
Jawapan...tak pernah really sit down to berbincang

Why 4..kenapa tak pernah really sit down to berbincang
jawapan...do see the purpose of berbincang coz dia memang keras hati and still nak menang...

Why 5...kenapa cannot see the purpose of berbincang...
Jawapan...rasa dah tak ngam kot...

Then at the end of it you know...memang tak ngam...then forgive and forget la...

but then if you go through the cycle again...gua repeat the last two questions jer...

Why 4..kenapa tak pernah really sit down to berbincang
jawapan...tak tau macama mana nak memulakan perbincangan

Why 5...kenapa tak tau macam mana nak memulakan perbincangan
Jawapan...memasing selalu membuat keputusan sendiri...

So for this time around...maybe lu should really have a heart to heart talk on the whole scenarios...be truthful in this discussion coz it is going to be the starting point of a new beginning....jika perbincangan ini dilakukan tanpa kedua pihak bercakap benar then it is going to be a waste and both of you will repeat the same mistake again...work on the questions and answers especially the last Why (no 5)...

both of you have to be committed in resolving the Q&A...bukan hanya sebelah pihak...yang lelaki memikirkan...since lu left me...so you have to sacrifice and bow down to me...and yang perempuan lak...I don't agree with what has been derived but since I love him then I should just follow...sampai ketikanya both of you would feel tired and frustrated coz the decision was not a win-win situation....lelaki dan perempuan tak menang coz penerimaan itu bukan sepenuh hati...

stargazers · Post time 10-9-2007 12:13 PM

buat solat istikharah... for sure lapang hati nanti/ Allah tunjukkan jalan terbaik...

kakayau · Post time 10-9-2007 12:36 PM

just give her a second chance... sebab dari thread awak yang previous i can ur wife macam termakan pujukan/hasutan orang yang dekat dengan dia.. u perna cerita yang u perna pukul dia tapi itu dah lama... sebenarnya kisah ini yang buat dia takut nak rapat kembali ngan awak.. sebab setahu saya perempuan ni kan amat mudah memaafkan seseorang tapi dia mengingati kesalahan orang itu selama-lamanya, lelaki pulak sebaliknya...
kalau awak masih perasaan sayangkan dia, show it to her... InsyaAllah rumahtangga awak akan selamat...

hairanaz · Post time 10-9-2007 01:43 PM

pulaaaaakkk.......! macam2....

mummyslove · Post time 10-9-2007 02:44 PM

A good advice from cant...

Aizat...,

Setelah you have found out the root cause... find also what was it between you guys could you avoid mengungkit pasal kisah ini... Dengan sepenuh hati...

Can you cleanse your heart sepenuhnya to forgive and forget?...
Why do you guys get back together?
What are you plans to make it work (get back together or separated - you should have a plan coz ada anak involve)
Sit down to discuss this heart-to-heart... There have 2 hearts broken or maybe more... hati keluarga masing2.. How to make this happen for the best of both parties?

And last and not least solat istikharah... kita umat Islam rugi kalau kita buat sebarang keputusan sebelum buat istikharah... Usaha dulu.. then baru tawakal... Good luck