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tak kejam, betul daa tu apa yg acik D buat.. kalau adik beradik acik D takder anak lelaki, yess, tggungjawab jatuh pada anak2 laa sebab anak2 lagi utama berbanding adik beradik mak yg lelaki (klu ikutkan turutan agama, mmg adik beradik lelaki mak laa yg bertanggungjawab, tp sebab anak2 ada, baiklaa anak2 kan..)
tp kes skrg ialah anak lelaki ada, keutamaan tu mmg jatuh pd anak lelaki laa.. patut anak2 lelaki yg tanggung mak tu..
dan skrg saya paham kenapa acik D patut kecewa dgn mak yg lebihkan adik lelaki, dan salahkan acik D..
sampai masanya acik D move on, kalau nak bantu pun bantu apa yg patut.. kesian acik D hadap mak dengan adik lelaki tak guna mcmtu.. bila selalu dh bersuap, itu manja jadinya!
berdoa laa mohon petunjuk pada Tuhan, semoga hati ibu acik D terbuka untuk melihat kebenaran.. |
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eh..maap akak. sy salah paham. saya ingat adik bawah akak tu satu2nya lelaki. sbb baca cerita akak memula, akak no 3 masih perempuan, mak tak mau dah anak perempuan, dapat si no 4 lelaki, sbb tu sayang. rupanya ada adik lagi la ye lepas no 4 tu. ok2..so 3 perempuan dan 2 lelaki. kan? ok.
komen sy hr tu...hanya anak kesayangan mak akak je, yg no 4 tu. tak termasuk yg last, sbb yg last xtau cerita dia. hehe. haa akak ada adik beradik lelaki 2 orang lagi. silakanlah mak, mengharapkan yg lelaki itew. 
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haah .. 3 perempuan 2 lelaki . akak no 3 . yg lelaki no 4 & 5.
yg no 4 ni mmg over manja kalah yg bungsu. 
lepas dpt anak pompuan jer 3 berturut2, dapat anak lelaki kira macam hepi giler la.
akak je sorang anak antara anak2 mak yg tak menyusu badan mak.
mak mmg tak berapa nak mesra sbb mak tak mau dah anak pompuan lagi masa tu .
masa umur 4 tahun akak eksiden patah kaki pun mak tak jaga, mak upah sepupu mak jaga.
sampai setahun la di jaga dgn sepupu mak. mak bz dgn anak boy idaman dia . menyusu badan sampai umur dia 5 tahun
yg bungsu tu jarak jauh gak dgn no 4 like 7 tahun gitu beza , kira macam anak eksiden gitu. so tak manja sangat.
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dewi replied at 18-7-2016 01:54 PM
haah .. 3 perempuan 2 lelaki . akak no 3 . yg lelaki no 4 & 5.
yg no 4 ni mmg over manja kalah ...
Cana life acik d skrg? Semoga bahagia di samping yg tersayang. |
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a lot happen since..
yg tak terjangkau , yg terpikir . betul kata org sekali Allah nak tunjuk , dia tunjukkan semua
terbuka hijab dan segala misteri dan motif
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lama tak tgk cari busy dgn new life ...
update.. acik D nikah tahun lepas, bulan 4. So dah setahun lebih la nikah.
I also donno napa Allah buka hati terima je pinangan org kali ni walau pun baru jumpa sekali , dan kawan pun tak sampai dua bulan pun.
Urusan nikah Allah permudahkan. Walaupun adik acik D yg jadi wali tak dtg masa nikah. Dah siap buat wakalah awal2. I sort of insist on the wakalah . Itu pun sakit hati gak bila dia minta UPAH untuk sign surat wali dan wakalah. tapi sebab nak nikah lantak la mmg kasi duit. dah mmg pesen dia gitu. kalau tak mmg sampai sudah tak nikah.
atas permintaan bakal suami mmg kami buat semua urusan nikah dulu last2 baru kasi tau mak n adik @wali n sedara mara pasal nak nikah ni . exactly less than 1 month notice . Kami nikah hari jumaat untuk ambil berkat Jumaat . ramai yg bising la x setuju ect x cuti la . ramai kawan sek dtg. tapi sedara mara even my sister yg sulung x dtg, adik lelaki yg wali keduanya pun tak dtg. kat situ hati dah terusik. tapi takpe lah dia nya priority dah nampak situ.
buat sikit kenduri "reception" kat restaurant nasi arab je. jemputan dlm 150-200. semua belanja acik D and bakal suami kuarkan. x mintak sapa2
pas tu acik D bz nak uruskan anak yg no 2 nak kawin bulan 9. byk hal jadi dari bulan 4 ke bulan 9 tu.
panjang citer nanti acik D sambung ..
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Tahniahh....Allah mempermudahkan urusan jodoh Dewi, syukur alhamdulillah
wahh, dah nak dapat menantu ke...tahniah sekali lagi
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dah dapat menantu dah tahun lepas september. baru timang cucu thun ni bulan July 
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owh...ingatkan baru nak dapat september ni....alhamdulillah
tentu skrg hidup Dewi makin tenang, happy....seronoknyaa
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ok so sambung citer...
lepas nikah, suami acik D berusaha ubat kan acik D sebab i was really sick.
byk sgt gangguan yg dtg. gangguan misteri. Lepas nikah gak acik tau suami acik ni boleh ubat org rupanya. dia nampak gangguan kat diri acik D masa 1st n only time jumpa tu dan dia kesian kot. dan gagguan tu pun mmg gi kacau dia gak. mmg mencabar sgt awal2 nikah tu . kadang tgk suami rasa benci sgt2. asik nak gaduh. tapi dia sabar je n terus2 ubat acik D. pasang pagar kat rumah supaya gangguan tak boleh dtg lagi.
ni dah masuk part misteri paranomal lak. 1 thing for sure lah, suami mmg ada berilu sikit dan hijab dia boleh buka . (berguru la kot) . Pas tu dia nampak anak acik D yg sulung , dia kata kakak tu special. she can see also. (I do remeber masa kecik kakak selalu cakap sorang2 and ada ustaz kat sekolah dia cakap its normal , i guess masa ni dia tlg tutup hijab kakak) . What i dont know is that hijab also slowly terbuka juga bila dia dah dewasa. so kakak (anak sulung) at the same time is processing the fact. Kuasa Allah sebab dah ada suami , he help her to deal with this gift.
Acik tak cayer mulanya apa2 yg suami cakap . pasal ada yg menghantar dan segala jin setan yg selalu ganggu acik. buat acik marah dan ganggu emosi , most importantly making me sick. but bila anak acik sendiri cakap dia pun nampak. I have to believe.
Dr dulu acik mmg pikir bila sakit gi hospital. ada gak la gi try darul syifa tapi sekali je la tak de gi lagi . sbb tak baik2 pun.
gangguan tu dtg dr mak dan adik lelaki acik sendiri. Very hard for me to accept this fact. even sampai sekarang I really want to believer its not true. tapi mmg benda tu lepas dah halau berumah tangga kat rumah mak sentiasa. balik pada tuan dia . ( dlm umah ada mak n adik lelaki tu je) so either one lah . Yg pasti mak mmg ada guna sihir penunduk dgn acik D . so that sort of explains all the compliance of any permintaan before.
apa pun masa tu acik d tak pernah citer kat org pasal tu. I just focus nak pulih kan diri. tak de balas dendam . tak pe lah org buat kita. Allah ada. Mak tetap mak . that is what my husband say.
but all that change lepas kenduri anak acik D. Bila mak tak boleh nak dictate keputusan acik. tak boleh lagi nak dapatkan kehendak dia semua . hampir2 je kenduri jadi disaster sebab mak .
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Allahuakbar.....
berat sungguh dugaan dewi yea...datang dari ahli keluarga sendiri pulak tu, kdg2 x tercapai dek akal
syukur Allah hantarkan suami untuk dewi, berkat doa org teraniaya tu...alhamdulillah
ehhh x silap rasanya anak sulung dewi disleksia kan? rasanya ada terbaca jea kisah anak pompuan dewi
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haah she is dyslexic.. now dah kerja kat kotel . she can speak bm, eng , korean, japanese n hindi.
she juga yg acik cerita atas ni yg hijab terbuka n can see semua tu. Itu ketentuan Allah yg akak nampak. It is meant to be. kalau hijab dia terbuka semula tu masa i dont hve my husband maybe it will be hard for her to adjust . But acik tgk dia selamba je nampak apa segala pun. mmg jenis tak takut.
it takes her some time also to come to term nenek pak sedara dia buat macam tu . But she has been my pillar of strength also
mana2 pergi she follow n protect me from this gangguan caus she can see . and my hubby teach her how to defend herself n org keliling dia.
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dewi replied at 3-9-2018 05:49 PM
haah she is dyslexic.. now dah kerja kat kotel . she can speak bm, eng , korean, japanese n hindi. ...
Alhamdulillah, akak tumpang gembira, anak2 anugerah istimewa kan, masing2 ada kelebihan masing2...
Happy for u Dewi |
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dewi replied at 3-9-2018 12:30 PM
lama tak tgk cari busy dgn new life ...
update.. acik D nikah tahun lepas, bulan 4. So dah seta ...
Tq for the update, acik d. Iols bookmark citer acik d ni. Byk pengajaran. |
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Edited by dewi at 4-9-2018 10:27 AM
sambungan ..
lepas nikah and berubat. And I know the real situation of how i got really sick n why i am as i am before ie terlalu mengikut kehendak emak. I am a bit depress. But i hold it together sebab i have a wedding to plan for anak no 2.
acik d put my feelings aside and buat macam normal, but deep inside my heart i really hope all that is not true that somehow mak tak tau or mungkin tak sengaja buat sampai jadi gitu. afterall dia tak nampak kan mahluk yg mengganggu tu rupa macam mana.
kenduri mmg dah plan lama. belanja from savings monthly dah kira up to the weeding date. anak acik masa tu baru kerja. so tak byk savings pun so use all her hantaran 10k for kenduri and another 12k from mine . anak acik saved abt 4-5 k so eveything is in order. catering dah tempah , semua dah tempah la kiranya. we decide semua tempah sebab i am a working mom dont have time to do semua. and we also hire wedding planner . to keep things running smoothly so i can be a bride mom pakai lawa2. anak acik even sempat gi bandung to buy kain for the sedondon theme.
trouble start bila nak gi food tasting. mak veto dia nak dictate the menu. acik mengalah. x pe lah she choose lagi pun caterer yg i pick mmg makanan sedap apa pun di pilih. then pilih baju pun she insist dia nak gi to all the fitting. i only got to see n choose from wasap yg anak acik hantar. how sad that is . tapi i am still ok
then mak veto lagi nak soh buat pelamin kat rumah for mlm berinai. we agree nak buat informal berinai je. tapi mak veto lagi. guna kuasa nenek . since we have to use rumah mak. venue nak nikah masjid tu dah pilih lama acik have to give in lagi. so tambah la bajet nak buat malam berinai yg macam dia nak . i cakap cater je makanan for that nite. she tak nak.. insist nak masak . so kena kasi duit kat mak for that lagi. kena sewa homestay for sedara mara.
3 weeks before malam nikah n berinai mak ajak anak acik gi pasaraya nak beli barang untuk masak. she bawak la nenek dia gi this big pasaraya. thats when mak nampak promoter jual this robot vacuum . sha nak sgt2 tapi mahal. beli robot vacuum dapat free air freshner and electric cooker . in total rm4k. my mom manaada duit but she insist nak juga . org promoter pujuk my mom n say can pay monthly. cuma kena bayar cash dulu 4k. pas tu dah dpt the loan they repay the 4k. then mak mintak anak acik the 4k, she know anak acik simpan cash for the wedding .
And anak acik pun bodoh2 ikut je cakap nenek dia withraw 4k for the stupid robot vacuum. lepas balik dr beli brg tu sampai rumah anak acik call me nangis2 . she just sedar dia dah pakai 4 k from the wedding nya tabung. I told her to return the stuff back . but i know in my heart semua tu penipu je. long story cut short. we endup aith useless item and less 4k for the wedding. mak nya respons.. NOTHING. no sorry . NOTHING.
acik D tak tau apa n tak napak apa mak buat nak rectify the situation . tak de kot nak cakap she ask other adik beradik tlg nak cover the lost money ke. instead dia bising kata i am not hands on enough tak tlg dia kat rumah tu to prepared n masak malam berinai nanti.
because of that loss 4k acik n anak have to review our plan for the wedding again. cut a few item out. doorgif yg patut beli je acik kena buat sendiri. no nice rented car with driver for pengantin. pengantin pakai kete sendiri kazen drive kan. acik kena rent a cheap car to use sbb pengantin dah pakai our car.
i worked day n nite for the last 3 weeks nak siapkan doorgift day before nak nikah baru siap doorgif. kete sewa last min pun sampai lewat . patut dpt pagi kete tapi dah tak de sgt kul 2 ptg baru dapat keta. so acik n hubby and anak lagi sorang sampai lewat petang la juga kat rumah mak day before the malam berinai and wedding. sib baik anak acik dah mai ambik doorgif semua day before sebab dia dah cuti so dia balik kg awal sehari with the doorgif.
mlm berinai dgr desas desus kata acik d ni anak nak nikah pun tak reti nak balik awal. org ramai je la sibuk tologn anak acik pack doorgif semua dlm bag. if not majlis jadi apa dah. kesian pengantin mak n kakak tak tlg langsung. 
hari nikah sama dgn bersanding. lepas nikah terus kedewan. suami acik d cakap jom pi awal. dia nak pagar dewan sebab byk sgt gangguan. supaya majlis jalan lancar . so we arrive kat dewan awal tgk wedding planner dah buat semua . just check je and tunggu tetamu
masa majlis tgh jalan acik tgk hp wasap family group , one of my kazen wasap : kalau dtg kenduri salam mak ngah (my mom) duit salam kasi mak ngah je jgn kasi acik . acik d bukan tolong pun kenduri anak sendiri. Kazen ni tersilap post.. she meant to post dlm another wasap secret family wasap group . ter post kat group yg i am actually in.
can u imagine my rage masa tu?
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acik nearly lose it masa kenduri tu. .. tapi sorang pak sedara yg sort of the oldest in the family la .. talk to me and i manage to keep calm .
even tok laki over compensate sbb tak nak acik mengamuk . but we are all tired and angry . sedara mara adik beradik dtg bukan menolong . well not much nak tolg fully catered ada waiter semua .
kawan2 anak pun tgl agih kan doorgif semua. this anak2 have been a blessings. they are like my own children in some ways.
end of majlis duit sedekah yg ada kat acik , i count and kasi kat anak n menantu. sebab acik tau diorang pun berhabis gaji bulan tu sbb nak cover the 4k yg hilang. lagi pun they need the money more . diorang dapat tiket n hotel stay kat bali untuk honeymoon . dah set semua takkan nak gi bali tak bawak duit belanja nak makan n jalan2 at least kan . anak acik cakap yg org kasi direct kat dia ada 1k something n i handed yg i get abt 1k+ . so duit tu la both newly wed guna untuk hani moon and cover deposit umah sewa diorang . they move in new house right after balik honeymoon.
sebelum balik dr majlis acik gi umah mak tgk anak . masa ni semua sedara mara n mak dah gi kenduri anak kazen yg kebetulan nya nikah 1 day after my anak nikah. so rumah mak mmg tunggang langgang la. pengantin berdua je tinggal kat umah kemas umah. acik na anak n hubby left kat homestay tunggu last of the tetamu check out we clean up and head to my mom house.
then we clean up rumah mak lak put everything back in order. pas tu balik.
ingat kan citer nak habis kat situ je .. NOPE. masih gak ada yg tak puas hati walau pun acik D tak retaliate langsung atas apa pun yg diorang dah buat n cakap |
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Edited by dewi at 4-9-2018 10:52 AM
a week after the kenduri, my brother .. yg tak kerja tu wasap anak acik yg sulung minta dia top up hp. anak acik refuse to oblige. pas tu adik acik cakap macam2 over the phone marah dia. cakap she change la semua. most hurtful adik acik cakap anak acik ada affair (incest) dgn my hubby. sebab tu dia berubah tak pandang dah pak sedara dia.
thats when i really mengamuk . acik tabuh semua org dlm family wasap group then we left group. pas tu pak sedara yg paling tua try pujuk , mak sedara makcik bawang pun pujuk . but I dont think i can forgive and forget . not after all that.
acik d block all social media dgn sedara mana tertentu cause it hurts so much. and now i donno how nak move forward with sedara mara adik beradik semua after all that. none of them reach out and say sorry.
yg ada cuma pak sedara sorang tu la pujuk soh let by gone be by gone. tapi nak let go macam ne kalau dah sampai tahap tu org buat kat kita kan .
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Frankly speaking, rasa sesak nafas baca kisah D....speechless
sampai hati diorg buat camtu |
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dewi replied at 4-9-2018 10:43 AM
a week after the kenduri, my brother .. yg tak kerja tu wasap anak acik yg sulung minta dia top up h ...
Be strong, acik d. Someday they'll regret what theyve done to you. Hold on to your beloved ones. |
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acik still trauma .. hari2 acik doa i can get over this episod in my life
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Post time 18-7-2016 11:21 AM
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