Optimism kid

my-alja

Do you know the facts of being optimism

Optimism is defined as the skill of seeing the positive aspects of a situation

my-alja

the power of positive thinking.....

kena ajar juga anak ilmu "positive thinking"...org2 tua pun kena belajar

my-alja

Self-Efficacy vs. Self-Esteem

So, if well meaning pep talks and broad and enthusiastic praise are not the answers, what is? At least part of the answer is to focus on self-efficacy instead of self-esteem. Self-esteem is about feeling good about yourself. Self-efficacy is the belief that you have skills that you can rely on to help you navigate life, cope with adversity and reach your goals. Self-efficacy is built on the beliefs of self-confidence

my-alja

konsep self-esteem vs self efficacy nie bagus gak!....terjawab persoalan me selama nie...kenapa sesetangah manusia terlalu kental, semangat dia kuat...informal learning thru hard life antara jawapan secara tak lansung pd persoalan nie...me tak pernah lagi jumpa org2 ternama dunia, even NABI MUHAMMAD s.a.w....dtg dr b/groun anak2 yg ditimang bagai minyak yg penuh oleh kedua org tua......b/ground depa semua org2 yg melalui kepayahan dlm hidup in order to be make them strong..

strong character antara matlamat me dlm mendidik anak2 nak hadapi cabaran hidup.....dan selama yg dibuat hanyalah menjadi self-esteem enhancer for them...tiup semangat, memuji tapi kaedah nie bersifat sementara saja...

anak kena ada self-defense utk make them strong without kata2 semangat drp kita...itu sebab konsep self-efficacy nie diperkenalkan oleh psikologist...

read more if u interested..http://www.fishfulthinking.com

tina^^

how to raise an optism kid, since they were small??? i mean very small...mcm my son's age....1 yr gitu and this tiny creature in the belly? coz i believe, in education there will neve be too early, only too late.

how eh??

KakFie

Originally posted by tina^^ at 27-7-2007 05:25 PM
how to raise an optism kid, since they were small??? i mean very small...mcm my son's age....1 yr gitu and this tiny creature in the belly? coz i believe, in education there will neve be too earl ...

off topic....Tina...pregnant ek?  Congratulations....semoga semua okay with the pregnancy.

LoLiPoP

alja...kena tukar tajuk ler..optimism in kids or optimistic kids...

AnitaSabrina

Easier said than done.  I wish there's a manual to raise happy, optimistic and positive thinking kids.

I always tell my boys `please don't wake Grumpy up when you wake-up tomorrow morning!'  They can be so grumpy and irritable at a drop of hat.  Could be in the genes - I'm a Type A personality (my analysis that is).

my-alja

hahaha...my son is also one of the kind ...used to call him mr.grumpy

agreed,nothing is easy when it comes to "mendidik"...we r cultivating the root of the tree

my-alja

Originally posted by LoLiPoP at 28-7-2007 03:52 PM
alja...kena tukar tajuk ler..optimism in kids or optimistic kids...

alahai ...salah ke yang

tapi maksudnyer boleh paham kann ...i pun just cut and paste from the website

my-alja

tell him a limit...cukuplah utk age yg camtu ...and let him play and explore things....

err..ikutlah tina ekk, i dun really like a formal learning for this age

p/s...preggy ke?..congrats

my-alja

tambah skit pasal..positive thinking, frankly memang tak mudah nak buat..bukan setakat khatam buku dan dapat ilmu nie...

kena byk buat latihan ...tapi me setuju gak dgn pendapat, bergaul dgn org2 yg mengamalkan positive thinking..aura tu akan sampai gak dgn kita, me ada 2 org setakat nie ...bila tgh biol, me akan tepon dia to boost up my feeling

my-alja

Positive Thinking for Kids

By Elizabeth Pantley

During their growth and development, children go through many stages of self-doubt. They are always comparing themselves to others, and they often see themselves as coming up short. As parents, we can offset this natural tendency in our children by giving them the skills to think more positively. It is important that you really listen to your children, and help them overcome their negative thoughts and beliefs. This is, of course, easier to do if you practice positive thinking yourself.

Our world is so full of negative feedback. We need to arm our children with a positive attitude, so that they can stay focused in the right direction. Let's look at some typical negative statements from children, along with some positive responses from their wise parents:

I can't do it.
Take your time and try again. I have confidence in you.

Heather hates me.
Sounds like you're feeling rejected by Heather, and that must hurt. I know you want Heather to like you. Remember that you're a very lovable kid and a terrific person, no matter what Heather, or anyone else, says or does. And, you know, she may have a problem that has nothing to do with you.

I'm just no good in history.
You've brought up Cs before-I know you can do it again. Besides that, honey, nobody is good at everything. And look at this A in math, you've always done well with numbers!

I'm so clumsy. I'll never learn to rollerblade!
It's tough learning something new. Remember when you first tried to ski, how hard it was? But you stuck with it, and now you're really good at skiing.

There is real value in discussing positive thinking and self-esteem with your children on a regular basis. Sadly, these subjects are not yet included in the school curriculum. There are good books written for children, as well as adults, which demonstrate the use of positive thinking. Reading a book together is a good launching pad for starting a conversation. Pointing out positive versus negative attitudes from news stories or life stories is an excellent way of showing your children just how this all works in real life, too.
A great web site for finding lots of wonderful positive messages is: http://www.greatday.com

Modeling a positive attitude is one of the most effective ways of teaching your children. Children learn what they live. So start presenting your thoughts in a positive way, Oh well, I burned the dinner-guess that means we get to eat cereal for dinner!

Parents always hope that their children will have a positive outlook on life, but most often how this happens is left to chance. When you take this matter into your hands, and look for ways to guide your children's thoughts in a positive direction, you will see very exciting results.

my-alja

susah gak kalo hari2 kena melayan anak2 yg selalu cakap..."adik tak pandaiii...nanti adik buat salah, umi marahhh!"...

kekadang fikir, perilaku kita sendiri yg buat anak2 ditanamkan dgn sifat negatif dr kecik...

apa jawapan korang kalo anak cakap..."dia tak pandai"...cemana cara korang counterback his/her complaints

[ Last edited by  my-alja at 9-3-2008 12:58 PM ]

Shahir

Originally posted by my-alja at 9-3-2008 12:57 PM
susah gak kalo hari2 kena melayan anak2 yg selalu cakap..."adik tak pandaiii...nanti adik buat salah, umi marahhh!"...

kekadang fikir, perilaku kita sendiri yg buat anak2 ditanamkan dgn sifat  ...

Alja...biasanya me pun slalu gak dpt dialog cam tu dan me slalu counterback cam ni:

"Sapa cakap adik tak pandaiiii....adik pandaiii....its ok, cuba wat dulu....adik kena try dulu....salah tak pe , mommy tak marahhh.....the most important thing is adik kena teraiiii....dulu....., see now u can help me watering the plants, adik dah pandai baca BM books read English books...dah pandai spell this and that...bla,bla,bla...so itu sumer contoh yg adik pandaiii..." Why adik pandai...coz adik dare to try..."  Dan cam biasa gak...soklan "mommy tak marah..." akan timbul. "Takkkk....mommy tak marah....mommmy sayang...." Dlm hati slalu gak tanya garang ke haku... atau mmg cenggini melayan kerenah anak.

Yup...mmg tak nafi yg kalo hari2 camni...:@ gak nak layannnn...tp sib baik 2 jer Alja....

my-alja

hehehe...kalo tak sabar melayan, memang dah lama kena post dlm dungeon

i kalo yg doter kecik tu cakap camtu, i jawab main2 ajelah...tapi kalo my son yg dah 7 thn tu cakap....huhuhuhu, memang series of stories akan keluar...biasanya dia cakap camtu sebab dia malas nak cuba bukan takut kena marah tapi vitamin M memang tebal...

i selalu psiko dia camni...if u think u r no gud, GOD will make u no gud....anything that u think is bad, u will attract bad thing closes to u...
u must make sure what do u think of urself bcos GOD will create u exactly like what u think of urself...ntah paham ntah idak, nampak blurrr

RedAlert

Alja, my doter (8yrs) pun sekali skala ada jugak dia cakap macam tu bila dia buat mistakes.... "oh, I'm so stupid, I'm never good at anything!" (siap tepuk2 kepala lagik!    )... tapi somehow I have a feeling dia cakap macam tu as a defence mechanism, tak nak kena marah.... jgn main-main, budak sekarang pandai gak psiko kita

[ Last edited by  RedAlert at 12-3-2008 10:31 AM ]

my-alja

heheheh...cute gak ekk

tapi kekadang i rasa(my son)...dia malas nak buat, nak suruh kita fikir utk dia...dia cuma ikut aje...

tu lah i cakap dgn dia...umi ada satu brain n u also have one...u must exercise urs n i exercise mine...barulah tak blurr