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[quote]Unseen friend
Childwise: By RUTH LIEW
Imaginary friends are often the result of a powerful imagination.
MYsecond daughter is four-and-a-half years old. She attends ahome-schooling programme. Lately, she has been talking to herself whenshe is playing at home. She talks to me about her friend, Jasmine, whomI know does not exist. She even describes what Jasmine looks like.
Oneday, after I had picked her up from my mother抯 house, she told me thatJasmine had gone to her grandmother抯 house and taken her home for avisit. When I asked her how she went to her Jasmine抯 home, she saidthat her mother had come to fetch her in a car. She even described herfriend抯 mother.
I know she never left my mother抯 house, andthat she had made up the story. I am not sure what to make of herbehaviour. Her imaginary friend seems very real to her. When her oldersister teased her and told her that she doesn抰 have any friend calledJasmine, she retorted: 揑 have a friend. She is called Jasmine. |
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kekadang budak2 kecik nangis..
mcm nak putus nyawa
sambil pandang ke atas kat atap ke apa
atau satu-satu sudut..
mesti ada hantu melekap kat situ kan...hehe |
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unseen pren nie agak bahaya gak..
tak pasal2 di cop mat 3 suku..
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Reply #1 Syd's post
ok..aku ada logical explanation dekat sini..
imaginary friend tu normal utk budak kecik. dalam umur 3-5 tahun..sebelum masuk sekolah, budak2 baru nak berkembang dalam segi perkembangan social (social development dia). kalau kau fikir kan..mula-mula budak tu main sorang-sorang (1st stage..parallel play) then dia imitate apa kita buat dekat teddy bear or anak patung (role play) then bila dah ada kawan dia main dengan kawan dia (interactive play).
imaginery friend is a result of an active imagination..mostly bila budak tu nak bertukar dari stage 2 (role play) ke stage 3 (interactive play). it will stop once budak tu dah masuk tadika..sebab dia dah ada kawan untuk main interactively (stage 3). |
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Reply #2 Syd's post
budak / baby nangis macam nak tercabut anak tekak waktu kecik tu...most of the time..adalah sebab infantile colic.. benda ni normal condition..usually
selalunya baby tu akan nangis..then kaki akan naik ke atas..waktu yang selalu jadi time maghrib (sebab hari dh nak gelap, suhu jadi sejuk)..sebab colic ni banyak..antaranya..reflux (minum susu banyak..).. lapar..angin (air swallowing)... tak selesa or infection.. banyak lagi.
fyi...baby waktu lahir dia punya penglihatan tak sama macam kita.. baby hanya bleh nampak objek dekat.. tak nampak objek jauh.. dengan kata lain.. baby time lahir adalah rabun jauh.
so..tak mungkin la dia nak nampak apa2 dekat siling..coz dia takleh fokus pun imej yang jauh tuh.
daya penglihatan (visual acuity) akan terus berkembang sampai umur dia 3 tahun..then baru sama tahap dengan orang dewasa. |
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Reply #6 mynes1899's post
heheeh
dapat jugak ko carik bod seram kat mana yeah?
itu laa...
ni aku dapat idea bukak thread nih pasal aku tgk kat rancangan pemburu hantu tadi
budak tu main2 dgn 'katanya' kawan dia
ni geng pemburu hantu ni plak...dapat trace benda ni gerak2...
kalau dah ada orang taruk kat youtube, aku tepek laaa..
tapi yang omputeh punye unseen friend, ada da kat youtube |
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anak kakak saya yg dok shah alam pon ada gak ''kawan '' tu.
kakak slalu perati dia main dan ckp sensorang, bila ditegur dia kata main ngan nenek.
ada satu hari tu masa dia tgh main dgn kwn dia tu,kakak pun cuba la tanya anak dia,
''ibu nak main ngan pia dan nenek leh?'' anak sedara saya ckp,'' x mo lah ibu, nenek x nak kwn dgn ibu, dia nak ngan pia jer''. pas tu akak aku tanya ,nenek tu cantik x?
anak sedara aku ckp, nenek tu buruk, mata dia merah, dia leh terbang, dan dia suka dok kat situ, smbl tandan dia tunjuk kat bucu ruang tamu dia, apalagi kakak trus amik anak dia, call abg ipar dan mlm tu gak blk kg minta tlg kat ayah.
lepas berubat anak sedara saya pun dah x nmpk lg nenek tu. akak saya pun slalu gak tnya anak dia kot2 nenek tu ada dtg lg tak, tp alhamdulillah dah x de dah.....
tp kakak ckp dulu2 mmg dia terasa mcm ada org perati dia, tapi dia buat bodo jer,
tp bila dah tau ni, selalu gak suspen terutama bila abg ipar gi out station.. |
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yang nih bukan unseen friend laa..
tapi sthing related to 'unseen' gak by budak2 kecik nih..
waktu arwah ayah tlantar kat ICU
kami dok tunggu dia kat luar wad
kat sepital seremban..
so ramai jugak laaa...
famili2 pesakit lain..yang dok mcm berkhemah kat situ
tunggu ahli keluarga masing2
sekali tu, tiba2 mcm jadik sunyi
wpun selalunya mmg bising laa
kat luar tu..yelah..ramai orang kan
anak2 kecik lagi...
suddenly, sorang budak nih nangis
diikuti lagi sorang, dan ramai2 nangis..
eh, kenapa nih...
masing2 cuak..dan cuba pujuk jgn nangis...
haru biru jadik nye...
tak lama pastu...keluarlah waris salah sorang
pesakit kat situ..menangis...dan ckp
ahli keluarganya itu..baru je meninggal kejap ni..
budak2 tu pun makin kurang tangisan nye..
tinggal bunyik ujung2 jerk...
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anak buah aku dlu ske main sensorang n ada kwn or (ntah saper ntah yg dia panggil fatima) mememula makcik aku tak kisah laa tp makin lama dia tgk cucu dia lain macam terus dia kata dh jangan kawan ngan fatimah lagi.. sbb makin lama niece aku nih makin mendalam lak ngan kawan yg tak nampak dia nih... |
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Balas #9 noradaniez\ catat
mak aih...btul ke kak?
anak sedare kite pn penah kena camni tapi nenek tuh cume dtg mase die nk tido..die kate nenek tuh suke urut kan tangan n perut die..
rupenye benda tuh memang berkenan kat anak sedare kite sbb tuh die suke ikut
anak sedare nyg no 2 plak sampai skang bleh nmpk benda2 tuh walaupun umur die dah 5 6 tahun |
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Originally posted by Syd at 7-5-2009 23:31 
kekadang budak2 kecik nangis..
mcm nak putus nyawa
sambil pandang ke atas kat atap ke apa
atau satu-satu sudut..
mesti ada hantu melekap kat situ kan...hehe
ooo kalau yang ni memang aku pernah kena ler.....
time tu anak first aku lahir.....
dkat seminggu asyik nangis jer....pernah tgk citer ahmad albab....camtu ler dia punya nangis...
masuk ari ketiga aku dah tension dah....klinik dah bawak...dah tuam...dah wat mcm2....
last bawak jumpa sorang ustazah nih....scan punya scan....roper2 nyer kat umah kakak ipar aku tu...
ada hantu bajang tak bertuan ......... benda tu duduk kat atas siling umah kakak ipar aku....
umah kakak ipar aku nih umh flat...tingkat paling atas skali.....
hantu bajang ni suka kat budak2 baru lahir...setan ni suka main2 amcak2 ngan budak2....
kekadang kalau baby tido...setan ni suka gletek kaki atau tangan baby2....huhuhuh....
lepas jumpa ustazah tu....malam tu aku mimpi....ada budak kecik nangis....benda tu sedih sebab kena halau.....
skarang ni anak aku dah ok dah.....cuma org tua kata anak aku ada bawak sawan tanggis.....ntah ler
kira ni pon kwan yg tak nampak jugak ler kan............. |
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Balas #14 Syd\ catat
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BAYANG KAN LAH AKU TIME TU....TAK CUAK...UDAH LER ANAK PERTAMA..... |
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Originally posted by amir1976 at 8-5-2009 02:12 
budak / baby nangis macam nak tercabut anak tekak waktu kecik tu...most of the time..adalah sebab infantile colic.. benda ni normal condition..usually
selalunya baby tu akan nangis..then kaki ...
GOOD INfo...
tapi kena ingat.... sesungguhnya alam ghaib itu benar...... so kalau cara moden tak jalan usaha la cara lain...dunia ni luas ilmunya..tak tercapai akal kita.. |
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Reply #16 mauminumapa's post
amir punye explaination dari sudut sains
alam ghaib pung ada explaination nye gak
jap, aku nak carik balik explainantion si ruth liew itu
pakar kanak-kanak |
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Unseen friend
Childwise: By RUTH LIEW
Preschoolers with good verbal skills, who are also independent and cooperative with adults and other children, tend to conjure up imaginary playmates. They often exercise their powers of speech just for fun and communication.
During their solitary play, they tend to carry on a commentary of their activities. They are happy to take on different roles in their play. They like the sense of control when they play with their imaginary friend.
If your preschooler is addressing someone by name who isn抰 there or regularly talks about a specific person who doesn抰 exist, then she probably has created a friend for herself. Imaginary friends are often the result of a powerful imagination. Your child may find her imaginary friend more agreeable than her real ones. Sometimes it is comforting to have a friend who accepts all your faults.
As worrisome as they may be at times, these imaginary friends usually disappear when the child no longer plays the same games. Never ridicule your child for having an imaginary friend but do not overplay her ideas either. You must not exaggerate the play-acting or your child may end up worrying that you are not able to distinguish fantasy from reality.
There are three reasons why preschoolers ask 搘hy |
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Reply #12 afira's post
mmg betul....masa kat umah lama kakak saya dulu pun ada. dia dok kacau anak yg no 2 tu. menangis x renti2. dah jumpa doktor pun cam tu gak. pas tu abg ipar gi bawa jumpa ustaz. uataz
tu ckp ada benda dok kacau anak dia , tp masa tu ustaz tu x sihat dan x dpt nak tlg.
depa balik kg dan berubat, benda tu pun ikut gak, perawat tu ckp la dia dok duduk kat atas pokok kelapa kat tepi umah kami. masa nak halau benda tu, bergegar pokok kelapa tu. dan alhamdulillah akhirnya berjaya gak halau benda tu.
anak kakak saya pun lepas tu ok la, x de le nangis smpai nmpk anak tekak lg. tp bila dah besar ,
anak sedara saya ni dah di sahkan olh dokor yg dia ni autisma..sian... |
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Reply #1 Syd's post
Aku kekecik dulu ada imaginary friend. Since my siblings semua dah besar2 so aku selalu main sorang2.. and time ni ler aku akan main2 dengan imaginary friend aku ni.. tapi sorok2 la.. kalau parents aku nampak, automatic semua ilang.. otherwise, seronok la main2 tu. Imaginary friend aku muncul masa umur aku 7 tahun and hilang masa umur 10 tahun..
Ni bukan mistik.. bila aku baca buku child psychology, it's rather an outcome of being lonely all the times without any friends to play with.. so being a child with lots of energy and creative imagination, he/she will create a friend, and mold them into what they are like, thus, able to explain how they look like, names etc etc. And this imaginary friend will disappear as the child grows older and start to "gang-up" with fellow friends at school or within the neighborhood.. |
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Post time 7-5-2009 11:23 PM
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Post time 8-5-2009 12:55 AM
