Would you rather have unhappy marriage or happy affair?

Ratu75

I've made my choice.. to stay in the marriage..

and it turned out that Allah has changed the unhappy marriage to a better and close to happy marriage...

Eventhough it is not a PERFECT marriage.. but still I'm thankful for it..

singamerah

alhamdulillah...

ganisara

let me share something with regard to this topic... during my intimate relationship with NHK (married) there were "ups and downs" in term of NHK mood.... NHK would be in her "volcanic best" if her hubby is okay,goody moody and happy... till this moment i cant really figured out "what actually in woman's mind"... unhappy marriage =   happy affair...when the woman found their "dreamed man" unhappy marriage = unhappy affair...when the woman looking for "escapism only" happy marriage    =  happy  affair....when the woman "in real control"of her life ..................................................................

blackmore

Originally posted by ganisara at 20-2-2008 17:51
happy marriage    =  happy  affair....when the woman "in real control"of her life

...when the woman "in real control" of her life...she wouldnt be involved in an affair...if her marriage is a happy one...why   would she want to be involved in an affair??...

...when the woman "in real control" of her life...she would turn that happy marriage into a heaven...

...when the woman "in real control" of her life...she would turn an unhappy marriage into a blissful one...

...when the woman "in real control" of her life...she wouldnt surrender herself and her body to someone else other than her man...

...women are generally loyal beings...if her man treats her rite...gives her love...gives her inches and feeds her well...then why would she want to turn away from her husband??...

...women are gentle and loyal creatures...they love to be caressed...to be kissed...to be hug...to be loved...and most of all to be appreciated and noticed...

...is that so difficult to understand??...

ganisara

Dear Blackie...

you are absolutely right...

for what i had been through with most of these "women"..it is what i presented to all now....all from the horses mouth themselves...

LostSoul

then, malay men should break themselves from the norms..

change the stereotype then, as i believe many malay men do appreciate their women as they supposed to be..

BingkaUbi

ganisara

Dear Losol....

u got some point there...
but i'm afraid it is more complex....

i been through this "thing"in a span of 22 YEARS and still going on with the same subject of "suami melayu ini".....
i read through one statement from forumner(cant remember the thread)that nowdays "suami melayu ini" more loving,more caring,more understanding their ladies
and i have to admit that i took this statement quite cynically...

'THEY"will never changed.....

ganisara

Dear Bingka...

lovely "supply'...
tq..it makes most of our day!

wifeorg

Originally posted by ganisara at 20-2-2008 09:07 PM
Dear Losol....

u got some point there...
but i'm afraid it is more complex....

i been through this "thing"in a span of 22 YEARS and still going on with the same subject of "suami melayu in ...

ganisara...bagus that u try to write in English...as u will only be able to master a certain language by using it in ur daily life.

haku nak bagi some pointers skit...after the word "will", tak leh tukar the verb after it...it stays in its original form....will change, will cry, will learn....tak leh...will changed, will cried, will learned.

-english 101-

p/s haku ikhlas nak menolong org. hopefully yg lain leh benefit from these pointers (akan menyusul yg lain if haku tgk agak glaring errors yg dibuat).

LostSoul

dear ganisara,

we cannot avoid complexity in life.. and as wise men says "rome is not build in a day"..

breaking from norms will take years.. will take ages.. so, we gotta start now, somewhere..

and where is the best place to start, then at home?

sorry for being too optimistic, but hope is truly a deliverance from those evils around us..

ganisara

dianthe../wifeorg.../lostsoul

for once the whole world behind me....thank you

i dont mind making mistakes then, when such lovely ladies  would correct me and
lending me comfortness words....

god bless all

mata_bulat

LostSoul

.. and God bless the whole wide world.. may the war cease.. may the bombing stop.. may all the children laugh and play in peace...

ganisara

can be a very fine "peacekeeper"....

LostSoul

short prayer= for my kids.. and for future generations.. tired of hearing the news of dying kids..

[ Last edited by  LostSoul at 21-2-2008 03:10 PM ]

nighunter71

Originally posted by ganisara at 21-2-2008 11:30 AM
can be a very fine "peacekeeper"....

orang correctkan sebab tak tahan tengok englist berterabur ko tu....kah3x

manakautau

Originally posted by LostSoul at 21-2-2008 03:09 PM
short prayer= for my kids.. and for future generations.. tired of hearing the news of dying kids..

Mungkin ada terlebih baik mereka pergi meninggalkan kita utk selamanya dari mereka hidup tapi terbiar oleh ibu-bapa yg tidak menjalankan tanggungjawab mendidik, mengasuh serta memberi mereka kasih sayang yg secukupnya.... ALLAH tunjukkan ini semua bagi peringatan utk semua......

nighunter71

Originally posted by manakautau at 23-2-2008 09:16 PM


Mungkin ada terlebih baik mereka pergi meninggalkan kita utk selamanya dari mereka hidup tapi terbiar oleh ibu-bapa yg tidak menjalankan tanggungjawab mendidik, mengasuh serta memberi mereka  ...

moga Allah juga bagi peringatan untuk bujan tua yang walaupun mati pucuk..tetap angkuh dan riak..kah3x

Best3x....

manakautau

Originally posted by nighunter71 at 24-2-2008 04:58 AM


moga Allah juga bagi peringatan untuk bujan tua yang walaupun mati pucuk..tetap angkuh dan riak..kah3x

Best3x....

semoga yg mengaku handal buat yg haram(bagi kamu) diluar sana ...insaflah....isteri dirumah itu yg halal buat kamu.....dan jgnlah terus menerus jadik pemburu miskin .......

Hai nak balik umah pun sempat menyempat singgah bertenet dulu?????