Bila Anak Bertanya~~Dari Mana Datangnya Baby??

sha_n

Pengalaman sha sendiri...
one day sha terdengar adik dan juga sepupu yg kecik berborak....
si kakak 19, adiknya baru 7 tahun...
sia adik tanya kt kakak.."along, mcm mana "adik" (dia la) boleh ada kat dunie ni?"

Si kakak da blur..don't know how to answer her...

then si kakak ckp.."aaaaaa may be adik kena pegi tanye mak"..

pastu si adik ni terus berlari masuk ... konon nak tanya kt mak die la...
then si mak ni pon da blur2 nak jawab camne..



so..
May be mothers out there pernah ada pengalaman mcm ni...
how do we explain to the little ones about sex, birth and babies to them???

luv_ma

dlm buku tulisan DR.MIRIAM STOPPARD
-questions children ask
ada semua dia ajar cara nk jwp soklan2 gitu..

luv_ma

ma lum ada experience lagi ank tanya soklan2 gitu..
tapi buku yg tulis kat atas dpt membantu..100%.
siap graphic bagai.
hubby ma hadiahkn buku DK ni,masa memula preggy dulu.
mmg bagus sngt.
lagi satu bukunya,
-TEACH ure child.

sha_n

Originally posted by luv_ma at 30-11-2007 04:29 PM
dlm buku tulisan DR.MIRIAM STOPPARD
-questions children ask
ada semua dia ajar cara nk jwp soklan2 gitu..

emm...books mmg ade ajar ma..
tp kite share kt cni plak k???

orangdalam

klu den jwb je..kitorg main congkak..

luv_ma

Originally posted by sha_n at 30-11-2007 04:40 PM


emm...books mmg ade ajar ma..
tp kite share kt cni plak k???

iyerlah,ma just bgtau kalau sha nak lebih details nk jwp ank tanya mcm tuh,
buku tu dpt membantu.
kat sini leh je ramai yg berpengalaman maybkn.
mesti lawak2..he
dlm buku just fakta n details..
kat sini,pengalaman sendiri.

sha_n

Originally posted by luv_ma at 30-11-2007 04:44 PM

iyerlah,ma just bgtau kalau sha nak lebih details nk jwp ank tanya mcm tuh,
buku tu dpt membantu.
kat sini leh je ramai yg berpengalaman maybkn.
mesti lawak2..he
dlm buku just fakta n details..
kat sini,pengalaman sendiri.

thanks sharing....

AnitaSabrina

Both my boys know how they came out - sorang c-section & sorang lagi normal delivery.  They have seen the pictures of baby being born in baby books.

But the process of conception ie.  making love - ni dia orang tak tahu.  When they ask where babies comes from - my answer is that the `delivery' process not the act of making babies.  

gutentag

hmmm... anak saya yg umo 3 yrs pernah tnya soalan ni.. saya cakap baby kuar dri bwh. dia tnya "bwh mane?" saya trs tunjuk buku pasal baby ni.. ada gambo masa ibu melahirkan, baby tu kuar ikut bawah. my doter asyik le tgk gambo tu, maybe kepala otak dia pun pening tgk gambo tu.. selalu gak la dia tgk buku tu, maybe lps tu dia paham kot n dia dah tak tnya lagi...

rockabebe

The best book yg rock pernah baca yg terang pasal ni is called "Who am I? Where did I come from" - Dr Ruth K. Westheimer. Cara penerangan dia memang bagus and penuh dgn gambar yg menarik.. (ps: rock ada satu copy lagi buku ni kat website rockabebe)

Skg ni..anak rock kalau cerita pasal baby dia akan cakap "when mummy and daddy sleep and their tummies touch, little todpoles will swim to mummy's tummy.. that is how baby happens" sebab kat dlm buku tu ada gambar.. mummy and daddy tidur sekali.. and laga perut, pastu ada gambar cam berudu (sperma), secara ringkas nye le yg dia nampak

zuco

my doter dulu lg haru..ms umo 8 thn tnya...rogol khalwat zina seks 2 haper? tp ms dea tny 2. mula2 tnya pasal rogol, sb dea bace dlm paper..lps 2 melarat2 la..

so aku pon explain la 1 persatu ikut turutan..seks, khalwat, zina, rogol..lps 2 terus xtnya lg ...lg bagus ada plak citer 'look who's talking' dlm tv...so aku pon ckp, ingat x yg mana explain dulu 2? ha...tgkla citer ni...

and it helps kalau ada gamba baby kluar ikut mana..pecayala..sonang nk explain...

bbakar

every year on their birthday, i will tell the story of their births to each of my kid.  i show them gambar-gambar masa pregnant and tell them masa tu giliran siapa in my tummy.  only on their birthday.  hari-hari lain, pujuk macamanapun tak kan cerita.  now they know that they come from my tummy.  and that before that know they were up in heaven until Allah heard mummy and daddy's prayer for children.  about how they got into my tummy so far ni they just understand that when mummy and daddy get married, they kiss and then babies come out.  she is not yet 6, so i will leave the detail for later but kissing is a good start i supposed!

sesemutku

dulu masa my niece tadika..top2 dia tanya.."abah...napa kawan ika x bg minum air tin 'Manja'...dia kata tu utk org dewasa utk hubungan intim..bla bla bla..."

ekekekek semut masa tu blank...nasib mmg dia tujukan khas utk abah dia...so abah dia la yg jawab...wekekekekke...

kalut...kalut...

cik_dee_na

mebbe my penyelesaian, masa diorang kecik ni (i mean at inquisitive age) i will tell a story
pehtu dah besar baru detail sket -tadpoles and all

contoh cerita masa kecik:
lepas papa and mama jadik pengantin, kitorang sembahyang and doa banyak2 to Allah to get her/him
then satu hari perut mama rasa ada baby gerak2
then pegi jumpa doc and scan
confirm ada baby
pehtu lahir la
then mama jaga from kecik sampai la besar - at this point buleh la tunjuk gambar/video diorang masa baby sampai besar

masuk akal tak?

mama_dinie

sy rasa inilah masa yg sesuai utk mengenalkn anak kite pd Penciptanya..
mungkin kite boleh guna bahasa yg mudah difahami..
Kite juga bole b.tahu tuhan bkn sekadar mencipta baby, tp seluruh alam ini spt pokok, tanah, air,dsb..
mungkin akan jdk lebih complicated klu die tnya tuhan mcm mana?...
yg boleh kite kata, Die tk spt sesiapa yg ade di dlm alam ini..
itu idea sy yg belum dpt second bby..
tu pun sy dpt drp artikel ttg pendidikan anak2 di peringkat awal dlm surat kabar utusan..
yg bg ulasan tu seorang ustaz..
katanya klu kite mulakn dgn mendedahkn anak2 mengenal penciptanya, i.allah pendidikan yg lebih berat spt solat, puasa, etc akn mjd lebih mudah..

as a moslem, perkara itu merupakn asas utk anak kite memahami agama yg akan dipelajari pd masa akn dtg..
cuma kite perlu terangkn dgn bahasa yg mudah, padan dgn peringkat umur anak..

sha_n

Originally posted by rockabebe at 30-11-2007 11:06 PM
Skg ni..anak rock kalau cerita pasal baby dia akan cakap "when mummy and daddy sleep and their tummies touch, little todpoles will swim to mummy's tummy.. that is how baby happens"  sebab kat dlm buku tu ada gambar.. mummy and daddy tidur sekali.. and laga perut, pastu ada gambar cam berudu (sperma), secara ringkas nye le yg dia nampak

.....todpoles???

my-alja

as for me plak...bergantung pd kesediaan sianak dan kematangan merka kot...the question pop-up when he was 3 yrs old, i jawab simple ajelah...proses cemana nak keluarkan baby , bukan cemana nak buat baby...

dlm umur 5 thn, dia tanya ..."cemana tuhan boleh "pilih" dia to be in my tummy...and not his cousin?"..

cemana tuhan tahu "dia dan adik" kena jadi anak ummi?"...

my-alja

setuju dgn mama...

konsep ketuhanan nie kena buat slowly....tapi sebagai peringatan diri sendiri gak nie...cara i menjawab soalan nie kekadang tidak mebantu anak2 utk bertanya lebih dalam.....sebab bila kita jawab, tuhan buat camtu-camni ..seolah-oalah kita letak titik pd segala persoalan dia....

jadi my approach sekarang nie agak berbeza sketlah...i akan jawab selagi yg boleh dan letak TITIK...bila dah pening2 lalat dan ianya bergtg pd kematangan sianak...

mclaren

saya ada jugak a book yang i think quite ok jugak lah, utk anak2 kita baca.

may i suggest, tajuknya, "the baby garden" by adeeba jafri, publisher goodword books.

snapshot:
Tariq was getting a new baby brother or sister. Join Tariq as he explored the possibilities of where the baby might come from, until his mother gave him the best answer of all.

The purpose of this series is to focus on responding to the inqusitive nature of children from the Islamic standpoint.

jap.. .i'm trying to search for the book so that i can scan 1 page to share... kat mana lah pulak anak saya letak buku ni...

jap lagi saya cuba upload...

mclaren

some of the first few pages.... at the end, mommy managed to explain how babies were created.