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Edited by gekkou at 3-9-2021 02:49 AM
ada few symptoms u shared are what i am currently experiencing.
belum cecah 40, ada few years to go.
1. I dah malas nk hadap politics and perangai2 manusia yang bermuka2 dengan opis ni. kalau dulu i bertahan je sbb fikir dibayar gaji untuk kerja and i malas nak request for transfer or change career. I jenis tak suka benda renyah2 ni. But now i had enough. Rasa mcm diambil kesempatan sangat2 now. buat kerja bagai nk mati tapi hujung2 u are not appreciated pun. Now every single week I submit my transfer request and actively looking for other jobs. Walaupun ada few said the one should go is the one who is not performing, not me. Tapi emosi i penat sangat. Now I am on two weeks AL, my first AL for this year. But everyday text pasal kerja masuk non stop. I macam, eh aku sorg je ke yg buat kerja dalam team ni? Just shut down my laptop around 1 hr ago after finishing up some tasks. time discuss or meeting tak bawa aku, hujung2 kerja kau campak kat aku semua.
2. I started to distant myself from colleagues yang I rasa bawa pengaruh negatif dalam diri I. If dulu, I suka je dengar orang bercerita or meluah. Now, sapa2 datang to me and mengumpat, I sound dan basuh je depa balik. Sebab I rasa they are no better pun. I love being alone and on my own. in meeting, i senyap je, unless I am presenting. my medium of communication is only email.
3. Emosi pn kejap turun naik. I found myself easily being upset at menial things. tapi i elak untuk bercakap dengan sesiapa. Biasanya menangis lepas solat or before tido sambil mengadu pada Allah. I am not the one akan menyesal dengan benda dah berlaku. I see myself being closer to Allah. ZIkir and dua anytime possible.
4. Changes in appetite. I once stop instant mee after balik from oversea study 13 years ago. makan jajan pun tidak. Used to eat healthy dengan hidangan lengkap suku2 separuh every day. now, sikit2 craving desserts lah, jajan lah. stress tau tengok lemak kat perut walaupun kurus. 
5. I value family and parent more. Risau fikir what gonna happened to me kalau my parents dah x ada nanti. Just the though of my parent dah boleh buat i sebak. I missed them so so much and I need hugs.
I am single but I am not stressed bout that. But yeah. I need someone to talk to, i believe. and the topic can be varies. I need escapism. sunyi? maybe but really? |
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MrsVeneer replied at 2-9-2021 08:15 PM
Apebende plak folding bike ni. I is x reti bw basikal.
basikal boleh lipat2 gitu |
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green~tea replied at 2-9-2021 08:12 PM
Suka sangat folding bike.. i nak beli 1 dulu... tp nak menghadap komen my husband tu je lah... a ...
try lah beli 1 dulu ... hehe |
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gekkou replied at 3-9-2021 02:39 AM
ada few symptoms u shared are what i am currently experiencing.
belum cecah 40, ada few years to go ...
I feel u...I’ve been in your situation before, what I did is, I just walked away & cut these people from my life.
To avoid sunyi, U kena cari good friends yg really sekepala & respect us and jenis boleh ckp apa saja isu and cari hobi yg makes u happy & content. |
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Acikgomen replied at 3-9-2021 12:07 AM
Tah2 chuols quarter life pun belum abis gedik nak midlife crisis napewwwwww
haha saja baca pengalaman otai2 |
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tupai replied at 3-9-2021 12:13 AM
I wish I still at your age & boleh ubah jln hidup I hahahaha...now too late dah
i pulak kalau blh nak jd mcm kakak2 dlm ni..nampak dah bertenang..weols yg baru mula nk hidup ni byk lg nk kejar..aset pun xseberapa..xstabil mcm kakak2 dlm ni |
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iols kalau tunjuk baik kat forum..habih la mokcik2 trophies terancam
dari merempan baik iols membuli terus
takde la nampak tryhard nak perfect 10
Urusan faraid ni paling panjang
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edayildiz replied at 3-9-2021 11:32 AM
i pulak kalau blh nak jd mcm kakak2 dlm ni..nampak dah bertenang..weols yg baru mula nk hidup ni b ...
Acik keja 3thn terus ambik house loan beli rumah
Org lain sebok beli keta satria gti (masa tu satria gti tgh in) acik je gigih drive Vitara buruk pi keja
Acik awal2 keja dah set kepala otak before 50 semua utang bank langsai
So ambik loan masa muda sbb nak free bila tua
Kawin pun buat bodo2 punya la kedekut nak belanja
Rasanya kalo acik tak kawin, mesti byk lagi duit boleh kumpul and byk lagi masa utk acik keja
Pulun keja nak naik gred sbb naik gaji
Buang pekataan bosan dlm idop masa muda tu sbb kita nak train diri sendiri supaya fokus dgn plan yg kita sendiri buat
Dan plan masa depan tu tak perlu tamak nak kumpul aset rumah byk bijik keta nak itu ini sgt
Cukup rumah yg kita duduk tu nama sendiri, keta yg kita drive tu selesa, yg penting savings kena byk
Cer chuols train kepala otak chuols mcmtu, konfem chuols takdan nak rasa bosan dgn idop
Kita bosan sbb kita takde fokus, taktau nak tuju kemana |
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KIM.K replied at 3-9-2021 11:55 AM
iols kalau tunjuk baik kat forum..habih la mokcik2 trophies terancam
dari merempan baik iol ...
Macik2 trophies hahahahhahahahahahahahah |
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edayildiz replied at 3-9-2021 11:32 AM
i pulak kalau blh nak jd mcm kakak2 dlm ni..nampak dah bertenang..weols yg baru mula nk hidup ni b ...
Haish.. sbb kita ada channel lain utk merempan lah nokss... sebenarnya dalam bab investment.. kita kena ada geng utk bincang... sbb benda ni detail strategi.. payah nak bincang kalo kita pegi tanya ejen2... sbb nasihat biased... so i suka bincang dgn orang yang takde vested interest utk mengempen... biarlah nasihat tu genuine |
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edayildiz replied at 3-9-2021 11:32 AM
i pulak kalau blh nak jd mcm kakak2 dlm ni..nampak dah bertenang..weols yg baru mula nk hidup ni b ...
Sometimes bile u dh ada semua, tetiba u rasa lost, kosong & xde motivation dh...actually tu la yg I rasa skrg...If I can turn back time, I nk ubah byk benda...berangan je la mampu sbb kite bukan doraemon hehehe |
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green~tea replied at 3-9-2021 12:16 PM
Haish.. sbb kita ada channel lain utk merempan lah nokss... sebenarnya dalam bab investment.. kita ...
I setuju dgn @green~tea .... pls advise me ape good investment now sbb I dh losing life motivation.... need sthg to boost me up |
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way past mid life crisis ni...but yeah lots of things happened to me termasuk bercerai dan remarried. Now Alhamdullillah dah masuk usia senja, at work becoming more passive dh malas nk prove myself too much. buat kerja and dpt gaji.... maybe in few yrs nk pencen. we loved running/walking pg2 so we bought a house far from city near a lake with lots space and greeneries, end of the yr nk moved out from KL area. anak2 mostly dh besar2 so hidup aman2 je skrg with the kids and the cats. taknak pening2 or stress too much though kdg2 cant help it sbb life is like that ups and downs. |
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Aku rasa aku mmg serabut byk masalah dgn famili sedara mara..workwise masih ok ..masih minat bekerja dan rezeki tu ada Allah bagi cukup dgn keperluan..tak lebih tak kurang..tp yg bab famili ni..aku shut down drp org lain takde sapa boleh baca dan takde sapa tau apa yg aku hadap...aku terasa hati dgn in laws aku blok n unfren semua in laws kat soc media
.ni mid life crisis gak ke? |
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I pulak, rasa mcm nak retire bila dah 50.. so that i ada banyak masa to do whatever i like.
I feel like I have reached the corporate ladder enough… |
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tupai replied at 3-9-2021 12:59 PM
I setuju dgn @green~tea .... pls advise me ape good investment now sbb I dh losing life motivation ...
Kwn dgn org yg betul sis.
Yg mampu lempang u bile u terpesong.
Yg x takut to say no, when it needed.
I hv bunch of frens yg mcm ni.
Ckp derang pedih2. Tp duduk diam2 fikir n bertenang. Dem, they are so right.
3 org dlm thread ni yg i syg persahabatan. They know who they r.
Yg sorang tu, dia punye garang la dlm forum tp irl sgt2 baik n menghormati.
Yg 2 lg mls nk ulas. Depa akn bergabung to tease my previous perangai. Cis |
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MrsVeneer replied at 3-9-2021 02:43 PM
Kwn dgn org yg betul sis.
Yg mampu lempang u bile u terpesong.
Yg x takut to say no, when it nee ...
I mmg ada a group of bestfriends yg I trust with my life. Dorang mmg jenis x teragak2 lempang or terajang I kalau I terpesong...tp sometimes di sbbkan terlebih sygkan I, dorang follow jgk otak I yg x berapa nk betul ni....but bcoz of them jgk Im still alive today. Tp kdg2 as a human being, ada turun naik dlm kehidupan & sometimes I x mampu nk luah kt org. |
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MrsVeneer replied at 3-9-2021 02:43 PM
Kwn dgn org yg betul sis.
Yg mampu lempang u bile u terpesong.
Yg x takut to say no, when it nee ...
U pun sama kaki lempang bitch slap orang... karma is a bit*h sizzz
Honestly, glad u made it.... |
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Edited by green~tea at 3-9-2021 03:40 PM
lesprincesse replied at 3-9-2021 02:13 PM
I pulak, rasa mcm nak retire bila dah 50.. so that i ada banyak masa to do whatever i like.
I feel ...
Is okay to feel like this... since u dah ada target, so make plans for it... i suarakan intention i pada husband, family dan kawan2... honestly i got mixed reactions... my families highly against my intention... my friends asked me to think it through sbb sayangkan career... my husband is the one who says OK, dengan syarat prep utk security masa depan... i mmg take this seriously sbb yang nak menghadap susah senang bersama is dia lah...
Bertahun i buat preparation before i early retire.. i even buka thread about the info i gathered, classes that i attended about retirement... investment decisions that i made utk generate passive income... i tutup hutang2.. i buat projection commitment vs passive income... and i started seriously helping out in family business and husband's biz juga.... signed up medical card, hibah, retirement fund, takaful... even all the pengurusan pusaka i take it seriously, sbb musim covid ni mmg tak terjangka... i nak make sure, bila i buat such big decision, the security of my family members are well taken care of |
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tupai replied at 3-9-2021 12:59 PM
I setuju dgn @green~tea .... pls advise me ape good investment now sbb I dh losing life motivation ...
I dah start invest (passive investment) in global funds... try wahed invest, asn global equity, maybank asia mixed fund (mix of quant AI model + experienced fund managers)... those initially recently launched or started trading.. i dgn husband dah tak main bursa malaysia... sbb political instability.. and some business/economic hiccups that we read and foresee
In terms of active income (business) u boleh tengok2 the world economic forum agenda... ada dalam reports dia which trending business we should be looking at, sbb situ usually aligns dengan government policy, regardless of political leadership change
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Post time 3-9-2021 02:39 AM
