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heidi04 posted on 18-9-2014 12:19 AM 
yup... this also part yang i sedih nak tinggalkan kalau retired. bila kat tpt keja mmg suasana b ...
Hi Heidi,
Nice meeting you I am 39, with 2 kids .. one is 12 old and another is 6 years old. We came back to Malaysia 6 years ago.. and bermula my kehidupan as full time housewife hehehehheh
Just to share that, kadang-kadang bila I terpikir benda2 macam tu, I selalu cakap to myself that I am not here to impress anyone. I know my own capabilities and abilities but I chose to stay home for the sake of our family. And I am proud that I can always be there for my children. Most of my friends yang bekerja would kill to be in my position, so I selalu bersyukur sangat-sangat that husband I mampu utk tanggung we all without me bekerja  Besides I do have 5 best girlfriends (highly successful women, CFO, Doctor, lawyer, banker etc, super hot to boot too  ) and 3 of them opted to be a stay at home mom like me. We also make a point to meet up at least once a month for tea, lunch, dinner etc, and we go on holiday together once a year. And we are active on our whatsapp group too.. great support system I must say.. so tak ada la rasa boring sangat..
And lagi satu, my husband pun jenis tak kisah kalau I nak keluar and ada kasi allowance money to spend... tak pernah tanya pun.. so I boleh pegi mana-mana I suka.. janji mesti balik sebelum maghrib or sebelum kena htr budak2 tuisyen ke, piano kelas ke.. kalau nak keluar malam, kena inform dia dulu.. lagipun maid ada kat rumah utk tengokkan budak2.. for me benda ni important.. sebab kalau dapat husband yang tak supportive of you, yang selalu jealous ke, yang dok tanya ke mana you pegi, nak kena report satu-satu.. memang boleh jadi rimas.. but after a while, I lagi enjoy duduk rumah je.. dah tak larat nak shopping, nak keluar, penat.. duduk rumah, berFB ke tidur ke layan anak-anak lagi best
Pada pendapat I, yg penting sebagai surirumah, kena pandai penuhkan masa.. I selalu pegi class baking, pegi masjid dengar ceramah, selalu membaca... and because I work part time, so bila I ada software development project utk disiapkan or training to be delivered, I have to be prepared and study.. so ada la jugak masa utk tajamkan pemikiran. My husband suruh I serious dalam business I sebab dia nampak ada banyak potential.. but I malas, so I kerja like 4 or 5 months je a year, itu pun 3-4 days je a month.. sebab takut nanti bila I dah sibuk, kesian dekat anak-anak .. for me, duit boleh cari and duit banyak mana pun tak cukup.. but masa dengan anak-anak hanya datang sekali.. once you missed it, that's it. But again, I am priviliged to be in this position. I know so many women kalau boleh nak berhenti kerja, tapi mungkin tak berkesempatan mostly sebab ekonomi keluarga.. rezeki masing-masing.. as long as it works for our family, then no one should tell us otherwise
Last edited by rockabebe on 18-9-2014 02:58 AM
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rockabebe posted on 18-9-2014 10:46 AM
Hi Heidi,
Nice meeting you I am 39, with 2 kids .. one is 12 old and another is 6 years old. ...
bestnya..
i wish bila dh ada family nti boleh buat mcm u...
tp utk berada di kedudukan tu..pendapat i perancangan kewangan dr single jugak penting...jgn carried fwd hutang card credit or utang2 lain dr zmn single..
cuba maksimumkan saving seboleh mungkin...
skrg ni, rata2 nmpk golongan muda struggle sgt2 nk stabilkan ekonomi rmh tangga. betul, rezeki bila berkahwin insyaallah ada tp rasanya bergantung kpd usaha kita jugak yakni gunakan akal yg allah bagi utk tadbir urusan ekonomi semenjak kita belum kahwin lg. insyaallah akan mudah perjalanannya kelak..
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rockabebe posted on 18-9-2014 10:46 AM
Hi Heidi,
Nice meeting you I am 39, with 2 kids .. one is 12 old and another is 6 years old. ...
Thanks babe for sharing your story... it's really inspiring me to become a happy housewife like u. Bila dah resign nanti nak build up balik networking dgn kawan2. skang ni selalu takda masa nak join kawan2 bersosial, travelling sebab masa cuti always dimanfaatkan utk bersama keluarga. rasa guilty sgt kalau tinggalkan diorang masa cuti. dah la hari2 keja takda kat umah.
yg paling i takut kalau i jadi surirumah yg pemalas... makan tdo or gi shopping jer.... hihi... now i'm in progress preparing daily schedule for housewife. bangun pkl brp, masak, hantar anak sekolah , tv, internet, gym, shopping, salun, spa, melawat parents etc... awal2 kena ikut schedule kot utk disiplin kan diri... lama2 kalau dah biasa tak perlu la kot... hehe
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Irisha posted on 17-9-2014 09:23 PM
Hi Heidi04,
I dah bekerja selama hampir 18 tahun. Macam-macam yang I fikirkan sebelum I tende ...
thanks irisha... i mmg sgt perlukan advise dari surirumah2 macam u. takut menyesal di kemudian hari. i pun dah fikirkan benda ni lama 2,3 tahun gak kot. sampaila last year percubaan pertama tender surat resign tp tak berjaya sebab termakan pujuk hehe...
pasal kewangan tu mmg 1st thing yg perlu amik kira sebelum buat keputusan nak retire. i dah buat forecast financial sampai umur 60 thn... saving, expenses etc. ada side income gak selain elaun hb. cukup la utk hidup selesa wpun bukan tahap jutawan... hehe... hb pun galakkan i buat bisnes gak sbb takut i jd boring kalau takda apa sgt nak buat... ni i akan pikirkan bila dah masuk tahun ke3-5 jd housewife nanti.
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heidi04 posted on 18-9-2014 01:26 PM
Thanks babe for sharing your story... it's really inspiring me to become a happy housewife like u. ...
now i'm in progress preparing daily schedule for housewife. bangun pkl brp, masak, hantar anak sekolah , tv, internet, gym, shopping, salun, spa, melawat parents etc...
Banyak aktivities tu...tak sempat pun nak rasa boring...hehe..
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wan_fizah posted on 18-9-2014 11:49 AM
bestnya..
i wish bila dh ada family nti boleh buat mcm u...
Hi wan_fizah,
Insya allah, satu hari nanti kalau ada rezeki, boleh aje jadi surirumah.. kena tawakkal pada Allah.. ingat rezeki Allah kasi, bukan suami, boss or majikan kasi..
I am lucky I tak ada hutang, hutang semua nama husband .. credit card pun supplementary yg husband kasi.. everything I beli cash.. kalau ada duit, I beli.. kalau tak ada duit, I duduk rumah diam-diam  Kalau let say I berkenan kat satu handbag, Prada ke Chanel ke, LV ke .. I akan kumpul sampai cukup duit, pastu pegi kedai beli or kirim kat kawan beli kat overseas.. savings ada sikit-sikit untuk masa hadapan.. keperluan education fund anak-anak, itu tugas husband, so I ikut je yg mana husband cakap ok, ke tak ok .. so kepala I tak pening.. tak payah la terlalu merancang the future, sebab kita sendiri pun tak tau apa perancangan Allah untuk kita.. itu sebab, walaupun I dgn hubby sama umur, tapi semua orang cakap I nampak muda 10 tahun ... hahahahah ... For me senang, bersyukur dengan apa yang kita ada.. work hard for your family, hubby ada tugas dia, wife ada tugas dia.. pastu sama-sama berdoa semoga Allah memberkati keluarga kita..
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heidi04 posted on 18-9-2014 01:26 PM
Thanks babe for sharing your story... it's really inspiring me to become a happy housewife like u. ...
No problem dear.. best sebenarnya jadi surirumah.. kepala tak stress dengan kerja, nak puaskan hati boss, nak jaga staff etc etc etc.. cuma stress dengan kerenah anak2, maid and hubby jek 
Yang penting, kena ingat that only we can make ourselves happy.. so find things or do something that makes you happy.. bila ada byk masa nanti, gunakan utk buat benda yang lama you nak buat tapi tak berkesempatan.. I ni walaupun pakar IT, tapi at the same time, pakar buat kek jugak sebab I ada masa utk pegi belajar buat kek, dessert etc .. sampai I pernah buat training utk KEMAS, IT training for 3 days, pastu sambung kelas ajar buat cupcakes untuk 1 hari.. hahahah... the pengetua KEMAS cakap "saya tak pernah jumpa trainer yg hari ni ajar komputer, esok ajar masak-memasak"  And dulu I tak pernah pun pergi gym.. tapi starting this year, I berazam masuk gym (tak pernah gemuk pun, maintain jek 45-46kg, tapi rasa badan tak fit) .. mula bulan March hari tu.. I am now back to my old figure before pregnant anak no 2, down to 43 kg, siap ada abs lagi .. hubby cakap dah kalah anak dara you hahahhaha .. so yeah, love my life as a tsai-tsai housewife ;)
Lagi satu, you tak payah la risaukan sangat pasal your financial forecast up to 60 years tu.. take it easy dear.. rezeki Allah kasi and rezeki ada dimana-mana.. lagi satu, kadang-kadang kita tak tau apa perancangan Allah pada kehidupan kita.. mana tau, kita sibuk kumpul duit and harta sampai umur 60 years, but tup-tup next month Allah nak cabut nyawa kita.. nauzubillah la kan.. but my point is, not to worry too much about the future. Tawakkal je pada Allah.. He is the best planner of us all.. now, masa yg ada, gunakan untuk enjoy the time with your kids, husband and family. Cari ilmu utk baiki diri, dunia dan akhirat.. insya allah nothing to worry about la
Last edited by rockabebe on 18-9-2014 05:22 PM
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i dh bosan jd surirumah....
sekian.... |
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RE: CUMA seorang surirumah
Irisha posted on 18-9-2014 02:47 PM
now i'm in progress preparing daily schedule for housewife. bangun pkl brp, masak, hantar anak sek ... Banyak aktivities tu...tak sempat pun nak rasa boring...hehe..
banyak ker? hehe... kalau ada yg nak share rutin harian dari bangun pagi sampai malam bagus jugak. boleh i jadikan sample. takut la nanti masa berlalu cam tu jer and tak produktif...
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clarizsa posted on 18-9-2014 10:48 PM
i dh bosan jd surirumah....
sekian....
o ye ker... boleh story sikit why bosan? |
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heidi04 posted on 19-9-2014 08:12 AM
o ye ker... boleh story sikit why bosan?
bosanla... aman damai je kt umah, xde terlibat politik opis, xde jupe drama org opis... huhu
jeles tiap kali hubby balik citer hal dia kt tmpt keje.. i want adventure..
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rockabebe posted on 18-9-2014 05:18 PM
No problem dear.. best sebenarnya jadi surirumah.. kepala tak stress dengan kerja, nak puaskan hat ...
wow berat 43 jer? tinggi berapa ni? i sejak kawen tak penah turun below 50. now 53 jer... tinggi 160. gigih pg gym wpun kadang2 balik keja rasa tak larat jer. kalu dh jd surirumah wow... best nya leh pegi gym time org lain keja... pegi ptg2 after ofis hour peak nya la... ramai org.
sis pg gym ada geng housewife lain ke? kalau ada geng lagi seronok kan. lagi 3 bulan before bulan Dec 2014. Tolak balance annual leave 2 bulan ++ jer lagi... mmm... adakah menjadi kenyataan ... |
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heidi04 posted on 22-9-2014 01:05 PM
wow berat 43 jer? tinggi berapa ni? i sejak kawen tak penah turun below 50. now 53 jer... tinggi 1 ...
hai heidi... heheheh aah 43 kgs jek.. tinggi 152 cm.. tapi I memang suka la pegi gym ni, and being a housewife, I ada kebebasan bila-bila I nak pegi.. and I biasanya pegi pagi, sebab tak ada orang.. I tak suka nak bersempit-sempit and bersesak waktu petang dgn orang balik kerja.. penuh kat dressing room tu.. masuk sauna pun penuh orang, so kecuali kalau I ada hal waktu pagi, then only I pegi petang.. I suka exercise sendiri.. ada la kengkawan kat gym, I mean the regulars that you see everyday.. but I like working out alone sebab I rasa biler pegi exercise berkawan kat gym ni, nanti tak boleh focus, sebab borak lagi banyak dari exercise pastu lepas pegi gym mesti nak pegi makan ke, apa ke sama2.. macam sia-sia jek berexercise sejam dua, dah put on calories semula.. [size=13.63636302948px]Yg penting sejak pegi gym, badan I lagi toned and rasa banyak energy dari masa I umur 20s .. siap dah ada abs lagi, hubby I pun terkejut .. [size=13.63636302948px]
It's okay Heidi.. like I said, try to embrace your new lifestyle soon, take it a day at a time.. do the things yang you dah lama nak buat tapi tak berkesempatan nak buat sebab you busy bekerja dulu.. tak payah plan sangat.. just enjoy yourself nanti. I rasa sangat bertuah sebab dapat jadi surirumah and able to be with my children but yet still have the freedom to be me, to spend time with my friends and to do things that I enjoy. No office politics or people bitching about me that I have to deal with, no work stress, no KPIs to achieve, no dateline to kejar. Heaven seh!
Last edited by rockabebe on 22-9-2014 05:06 PM
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rockabebe posted on 18-9-2014 09:07 AM
Hi wan_fizah,
Insya allah, satu hari nanti kalau ada rezeki, boleh aje jadi surirumah.. kena ta ...
citer u lebih kurang i je..
cuma i x go training apa la..
ye lah,i pun agree,Allah sebaik2 perancang..
Dia Lebih Mengetahui..
suka baca kisah u and the rest dkt sini,very inspiring!
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clarizsa posted on 19-9-2014 02:56 AM
bosanla... aman damai je kt umah, xde terlibat politik opis, xde jupe drama org opis... huhu
je ...
plan nak keje semula ke?
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pinksarah posted on 22-9-2014 05:34 PM
plan nak keje semula ke?
i x boleh keje... sbb jaga anak... hhuhu
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pinksarah posted on 22-9-2014 05:33 PM
citer u lebih kurang i je..
cuma i x go training apa la..
Betul tu PinkSarah.. Allah sebaik2 perancang.. I dulu belajar sampai PhD...tulis journal papers sana sini, pegi IT conference all over the world..dah pernah jumpa la scientist2 yg buat Google ni (masa Google belum famous pun lagi kat Msia) tapi tak sempat submit thesis sebab bersalin kan anak yang pertama.. pastu terus tak ada mood nak sambung, sebab tak ada orang nak jagakan baby.. Kalau habis PhD, skg ni dah boleh jadi Professor.. but then, nasib baik jugak I tak habiskan PhD.. [size=13.63636302948px] kalau I dah habis PhD, sure I nak kerja kan? sebab bila balik Msia, hubby jadi sibuk giler.. kerja siang malam, ..So sapa nak jaga anak2 kalau dua-dua busy? But rezeki ada kat mana2.. tak boleh jadi professor, I jadi IT trainer, sometimes I buat kek.. alhamdulillah, even with my part time job beberapa hari dlm sebulan tu, I earn more than some of my friends yang ada PhD.. and still have time to be with my kids and my family. Like I said, rezeki ada kat mana-mana. Yang penting, selalu berusaha, bersyukur and always berdoa yg terbaik untuk diri kita dan family kita...
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clarizsa posted on 22-9-2014 05:39 PM
i x boleh keje... sbb jaga anak... hhuhu
clarizsa... you don't have to be sad sebab you kena jaga anak you.. your anak is in the best hand tau.. untung dia sebab mak dia boleh jaga dia sendiri.. berapa ramai lagi orang lain yang nak duduk rumah and nak jaga anak sendiri tapi tak boleh? you should be proud of yourself and the sacrifice you have made for your family... bab bosan tak ada skandal ke, cerita opis ke apa ke, that's not important to your family, .. alhamdulillah hidup you aman damai kan..
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rockabebe posted on 22-9-2014 10:12 AM
Betul tu PinkSarah.. Allah sebaik2 perancang.. I dulu belajar sampai PhD...tulis journal papers sa ...
agree..bersyukur dgn rezeki..
nnt bila anak2 dah besar,dorang akan ingat mommy yg jaga,mommy yg senantiasa ada setiap moment dlm hidup dorang..
but,utk yg masih belum financially stable,and diperlukan utk bekerja,i dont blame them juga,tuntutan hidup zaman sekarang mmg agak critical..
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rockabebe posted on 22-9-2014 10:12 AM
Betul tu PinkSarah.. Allah sebaik2 perancang.. I dulu belajar sampai PhD...tulis journal papers sa ...
kejap,on second note..
were u the one yg jual baju2 toddlers dulu?
ada blog,right?
klu i silap maaf..
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Category: Wanita & Lelaki
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Post time 18-9-2014 10:46 AM
