Sexless marriage, stay or just build new life?

Dewa19XKangen

sadis curhat dalam nie..

green~tea

Dewa19XKangen replied at 31-12-2022 11:16 AM
sadis curhat dalam nie..

Yes... setiap kali baca curhat dlm ni rasa sedih juga... setiap org hadap jalan berliku masing2

Dan masing2 ada kelebihan masing2.. their own ups and downs   

One thing paling penting... jgn pernah putus asa utk improve life... mentally physically emotionally spiritually financially

Aril5300

Nice thread...tq TT

Same situation with me, my late wife cantik, lemah lembut, baik, good mother, but she is asexual, or low libido at least. We both have sex once every 2-3 month, pernah jgk 6 bulan x penah sex. I layan dia baik jer, beri nafkah lebih dari cukup tp dia susah nk naik nafsu. Kitaorg jrg bergaduh and nmpk loving couple. Siblings and kwn2 dia sllu jeles dgn wife i sbb we both nmpk bahagia dan happy.  

Dia x de masalah kesihatan pun. Sllu check darah semua okay. Walaupun jarang sex, tp my late wife i ni subur. Dh kawin 12 tahun kitaorg dh ada 3 org anak.

I need sex every 2-3 days (requirement for normal men i guess). Most of the time, I masturbate je la sorang2. Masturbate sebelah wife dia x kisah pun.

Nk kata wife x cintakan i, i rsa dia mmg sayangkan i sungguh2. Sebelum kawin, dia yg kejar i smpi dia sanggup minta break dgn bf dia haha. Dia pun boleh layan noty2 masa couple, tp bila dh kawin, dia dh jdi kurang berminat dgn seks pulak. I rsa dia angap seks ni beban jer.

Sejak jdi single dad, I mmg hot dude la (bukan angkat bakul yer, ini realiti hehe). Sllu je dpt msg nk berkenalan. Rsa mcm jadi muda balik pulak. Student pompuan yg 1st time nmpk i biasanya akan terpegun tgok i (Now u all can guess i keje ape kan haha).
Ramai kolig nk kenen dgn kwn2 andartu or janda. Tp entah la, i rsa mcm dh serik nk kawin lg. Takut dpt lg jenis asexual type. Ada juga pompuan yg i berkenan, tp bila i test cuba borak sex, sexting, diaorg offended, so i pun turned off la.

I really need sex. So skrg i psg sugar. Jgn tnya mcm mana i dpt sugar haha. Jgn ckp psl halal haram yer. Tp x de la i byr girl tu smpai belas2 ribu, just 4 figure je.

I teringin nk kawin lg, my kids need a mother figure. But i takut dpt wife yg x boleh cater sex demand i, takkan nk cerai pulak kan bila dh kawin. Nk cari pompuan yg boleh layan baik dgn kids i pun satu hal jgk. Nasib baik la i ada adik andartu yg boleh layan anak2 i, so boleh la anak2 tumpang kasih kt adik i tu huhu..

green~tea

Aril5300 replied at 10-2-2023 12:16 PM
Nice thread...tq TT

Same situation with me, my late wife cantik, lemah lembut, baik, good mother,  ...

Your wife meninggal? Sakit apa? Takziah ya...  

Ya lah, seeloknya u kawen lg.. ramai je pompuan normal yg suka sex... pompuan normal perlu sex 2-3 times a week.... dengan syarat.. pompuan tu kena orgasm setiap kali sex.. like betul2 punya orgasm, bukan fake orgasm... baru dia akan continuously perlukan sex sama je dgn lelaki frequency tu...

Normal la perempuan yg beragama akan avoid notty2 sexting.. especially dengan org tak kenal /familiar.. bukan sbb deme religious sgt, tp pompuan ni biasanya setia pada yang satu... kena warm up dulu laa baru hati & nafsu tu terbuka...

Mcm i dgn husband.. awal2 kenal dia gatal bebenor siap forward gambo air balang jual tepi jalan tapi typo "HornyDew" instead of Honeydew... i sound jugak dia sbb apsal gatal sgt awal2 kenal... tp dia tak putus asa to msg me daily, politely and warm....  lepas tu baru i setuju dating jumpa dia.. skali bila dating, eh i didnt even glance at my watch walau dah 2 jam kitorg borak..

At that point of time, i already knew he's the one... few months after that kitorg terus je kawen.. glad sex life mmg normal... masa honeymoon within 1-2 bulan, mmg sex everyday hahahahahaha

Aril5300

green~tea replied at 10-2-2023 03:00 PM
Your wife meninggal? Sakit apa? Takziah ya...  

Ya lah, seeloknya u kawen lg.. ramai je pompuan n ...

Passed away sbb car accident, internal bleeding. Down jgk i masa tu, tp lps 2 minggu i dh okay. Cpt kan i heals, mungkin sbb jrg sex, so i dont feel so connected to her. Ini cerita 3 tahun lps.

Tu la, bcoz of previous marriage, i dh seolah2 assume most women asexual or low libido. Bca cerita2 dlm ni, x sangka pulak women pun boleh depressed kalau lama x dpt seks. Btul jgk kata u @green~tea, i cpt sgt menggatai padahal bru je fasa berkenalan hehe

I rsa nk stop sugar2 ni. Then maybe i slow2 buka hati utk kwn serius dgn janda2 yg okay. Mmg btul ckp ada forumer dlm ni, lelaki especially 30s lebih suka janda berbanding anak dara, termasuk la i hehe

Ada sorng doktor, umur dh nk masuk kategori andartu suka kt i. Cantik orgnya, tp sbb dia ada vibe my late wife, so i turned off dgn dia. Huhu

Olumis

Aril5300 replied at 10-2-2023 12:16 PM
Nice thread...tq TT

Same situation with me, my late wife cantik, lemah lembut, baik, good mother,  ...

Pelik naw xde nafsu dgn orang yang dicintai? Biasanya, if betul2 dilamun cinta, you will really want to have sex with that person. Atau your late wife jenis susah nak panas? Jenis macam ni perlu foreplay yang lama. Janganla asyik2 time u nak tu, terus2 cakap "suck my d***". Klu I pun taknak layan if laki I macam tu. Nafsu sendiri belum bangkit, what do u expect? Pompuan if dah betul2 bangkit nafsunya, willing to do anything

Thecatnextdoor

Sebenarnya kan i pn nak tanya sbb bila kita ML dgn husband apa perasaan husband tu eh? Dia rasa disayangi ke tak eh?
I pn rasa mcm nak ke arah sexless marriage sbb payah nau nak mintak kt husband. Bila ML pn rasa mcm bkn nya make love rasa mcm f*** buddies je takde cuddle takde post coital hug ke ape ke terus dia masuk tido tak pn main fon

green~tea

Aril5300 replied at 10-2-2023 10:45 PM
Passed away sbb car accident, internal bleeding. Down jgk i masa tu, tp lps 2 minggu i dh okay. Cp ...

U listen to ur gut feeling... kalo u rasa ada vibes sama, then probably is...


U couple2 laa dulu and lepas quite some time, cuba la test water.. kalo respon gatal insyaAllah nafsu dia normal

green~tea

Thecatnextdoor replied at 28-2-2023 08:26 PM
Sebenarnya kan i pn nak tanya sbb bila kita ML dgn husband apa perasaan husband tu eh? Dia rasa disa ...

Dah lama kawen mmg kurang la cuddle2 time tu.. sbb both hectic daily life...

Tp sparks tu sentiasa ada. Yg penting ORGASM most of the time when both of u make love...

Thecatnextdoor

green~tea replied at 28-2-2023 09:38 PM
Dah lama kawen mmg kurang la cuddle2 time tu.. sbb both hectic daily life...

Tp sparks tu sentia ...

Entahla nak kata penat tu husband i kerap pg gym at least 3x seminggu, i yg dok rumah jaga anak2
Both of us mmg kerja seharian and i sendiri taking master degree sambilan
Sbb tu i pelik kenapa dh mcm lifeless sex life ktrg huhu

green~tea

Thecatnextdoor replied at 28-2-2023 11:50 PM
Entahla nak kata penat tu husband i kerap pg gym at least 3x seminggu, i yg dok rumah jaga anak2
B ...

Ada a few la i can share....

1. Continue improving life.. kdg2 kita lagha and exposed to sihir2 so tambahkan amalan ..kitorg pernah kena sihir pemisah.. alhamdulillah pulih... pastu sex drive terus cam baru kawen hahahahahahahahaha

2. I & husband kdg2 kena tengok porn sbb letih dan takde nafsu sbb penat and byk fikir... tp bukan perlu tengok lama2 pun, just utk get in the mood aje..  

3. Jarang2 sangat i tak dpt orgasm sbb byk berfikir.. tp husband dah orgasm dulu.. so i ada sex toy utk husband gunakan pada i... vibrator la, bukan dildo... so consider having this option bagi hari2 yang tak nampu orgasm

4. Tease husband, pakai seksi.. or even kalo kita period pun.. kita tease dia lagi teruk.. blowjob sampai dia kalah laaa.. or HJ pakai oil yg wangi mix dgn essential oil... or beli tenga eggs yang ada mcm2 pattern ribbed tu haaa be creative....

green~tea

Sex toys ni kalo pandai pakai... buleh membantu menghangatkan hubungan....


P/S: came across this cute "teddy bear"... mula2 cam nak beli... tpi tak beli alaaaa rugi tak beli.. koleksi sex toys plushies

green~tea

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Thecatnextdoor

green~tea replied at 1-3-2023 12:01 AM
Ada a few la i can share....

1. Continue improving life.. kdg2 kita lagha and exposed to sihir2  ...

I pernah ada vibrator and i pernah guna but maybe sbb tak pandai guna tu tak efisien sgt, even dgn husband dia kata tak payah pakai. So if i berkehendak tp dia takde or malas layan i, mmg i lepas sendiri je
I taktau kenapa rasa mcm dingin je
Dahla nak dpt tu susah, dgn anak2 taknak tido tp lps tu takde after care
Waktu bersama tu i nak jugak foreplay lama2 tp husband i tu nak cpt2 je
Kdg2 mmg marah sgt lps dia cum even if i tak orgasm lg i terus bangun n mandi sbb rasa mcm tak guna ckp dgn dia

green~tea

Thecatnextdoor replied at 1-3-2023 12:33 PM
I pernah ada vibrator and i pernah guna but maybe sbb tak pandai guna tu tak efisien sgt, even dgn ...

Vibrator tu utk u letak kat clit luar tu je sis.. utk stimulate clit je sampai orgasm.. u can use baby oil or lubricants supaya clit tak sakit...

Kalo u sayang marriage tu, stay je laa tp kena pandai2 kawal diri and please urself..

jangan makan luar plak

Thecatnextdoor

green~tea replied at 1-3-2023 12:39 PM
Vibrator tu utk u letak kat clit luar tu je sis.. utk stimulate clit je sampai orgasm.. u can use  ...

Tulah bahaya u
Kalau i ni jahat mmg lama dah i makan luar sbb nafkah batin tu rasa mcm tak benar2 diberikan
Entahla

green~tea

Thecatnextdoor replied at 1-3-2023 02:04 PM
Tulah bahaya u
Kalau i ni jahat mmg lama dah i makan luar sbb nafkah batin tu rasa mcm tak benar2 ...

Tak baloi makan luar lah.. sbb too many things at stake...
Kalo sangkut kes nusyuz nnti panjang cerita plak kot... silap2 bertahun2 turun naik mahkamah... i tak pasti sgt apa benda yg boleh hilang kalo kena charge kes nusyuz neh.. tp turun naik mahkamah sgt makan masa dan wang

Yg pasti kalo u tergerak hati utk mula hidup dgn orang lain or tawar hati dgn husband.. u bersabar lah sikit and end one relationship properly before start a new one..

Nak divorce pun susah.. apatah lagi kalo ada bitter experience... sbb divorce ni byk pakai duit.. and byk harta bersama yang kena kira betul2.. u know la kan bila berebut harta sepencarian ni... mcm2 maslaah or isu timbul

Thecatnextdoor

green~tea replied at 1-3-2023 02:16 PM
Tak baloi makan luar lah.. sbb too many things at stake...
Kalo sangkut kes nusyuz nnti panjang ce ...

Tulah bukannya tak sayang dia, cuma rasa mcm our sex life tu mcm hilang sparks - kadang2 rasa mcm sedih. I pn tak sure i ke problem dia sbb i ni jenis pendam, mcm ssh sikit nak communicate sbb i ni tak suka confrontation n husband i ni cengey sikit
Ada sekali tu i marah dia sbb dia garang sgt dgn i - tp lps tu mmg kerap dia bersama dgn i tp tahan sebulan je. Hampeh

Aril5300

Olumis replied at 21-2-2023 10:30 AM
Pelik naw xde nafsu dgn orang yang dicintai? Biasanya, if betul2 dilamun cinta, you will really wa ...

Entah la..i rsa ada je pompuan yg in love with someone but not interested with sex...mmg bila i nk sex pun, i cuba foreplay lama jgk, tp x basah pun bwh tu huhu...end up i masturbate je sebelah dia...wife terus blakangkan i, terus tido..mungkin lega kot x perlu layan sex haha

Tp yg peliknya, masa couple dlu senang jer dia turned on...bila dh kawin, terbalik pulak huhu

I ada juga beli toys, maybe boleh spice up our sex life..tp bila cuba guna dia rasa pelik, terus dia turned off huhu

Aril5300

Thecatnextdoor replied at 28-2-2023 08:26 PM
Sebenarnya kan i pn nak tanya sbb bila kita ML dgn husband apa perasaan husband tu eh? Dia rasa disa ...

Kalau i, bila romantic sex mmg ML dgn penuh kasih sayang..masa ni semua kata2 cinta, puji2an semua keluar la hehe..bila rough sex, mmg buat as f*** buddies la..

Setiap kali lps sex, i akan jdi manja dgn late wife...lentuk2 kepala kt bahu dia, sllu renung mnja..late wife minta belanja makan atau brg yg dia suka, i akan belikan dgn senang hati...wife minta bwk ke mana2, i happily jdi driver dia

Tp bila dh 2-3 minggu tak dpt sex, I dh start rsa kekok nk manja2 especially bila kena reject ajak sex...wife minta buat itu ini, I buat jgk tp rsa mcm terpaksa huhu...wife mcm perasan I jdi kurang manja, but she seems doesn't care