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Reply misy
aiseh...baru nak engage clown for his coming birthday... ni dah kira hyper ...
cn7 Post at 2011-4-1 09:54 
heheh itu yg i ambik contoh dari docu tu...knowing malaysian, rasanya dah jadi norm la kot, so mcm i ckp sblm ni, treshold of being hyper tu dah tinggi sket, stakat birthday parties mcm i sebutkan tu semuaa org buat...ai je tak buat benda2 mcm ni |
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thanks cn7 sebab gugel banyak info on this topic...luas sket kan pengertian dia..
welcome...i google sebab nak paham lagi erti hyper parent ni...trait dia, criteria dia.... until now, i dont know what's my label...i'm not result oriented (yet, who knows in 20 years time pulak kan). not sure if process oriented. maybe i dont have a label.... hehehehe |
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lecturer mat salleh aku pernah cakap - anak ni macam anjing yang ada tali.....
kita pegang tali tu, ...
mariana307 Post at 2011-4-1 20:36
ada betulnya (walaupun cth anjing..;))...maknanya invisible tali tu sentiasa ada...bila masa lepas bila masa kita tarik |
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watpe nak u nak terasa weirdo lak, i rasa normal jek kalau org set target tinggi2..but then along the way, bila anak u dah 14-15 thn, u boleh nampak dah dianyer inclination ke mana....
yes, exactly what i meant. Bukanla i kata i tak nak anak i masuk University, but i wont treat him/her differently if he/she didnt. If kelebihan dia bukan ke arah akademik, then maybe we look into tenchnical ker, sports ker, what ever kecenderungan & kelebihan dia. |
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Reply 182# cn7
masa i mula2 dgr istilah ni pun terperanjat gak bila gugel...banyak betul rupanya artikel pasal ni..tu yg tergerak nak share sini..
pasal label tu..normal la kot kalau combination..ai pun tak tau, ade stgh benda process, stgh benda result...kalau dlm kerja slalu result la kot & i hv tendency to cut out unecessary process..tu yg org HR slalu bengang  |
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budak2 kelas sains pandang rendah budak2 kelas sastera...h
kak, i selalu dengar statement macam ni. I budak sains dulu 7 one of my best fren ni masuk art class, took accounting & business.
masa form 1-3, she was my classmate, memang kira geng la, tapi lepas PMR dia masuk art stream. Bukan sebab dia tak pandai, she's smart, top 10 in our class, tapi masuk art sebab that is the career pathway her father has decided for her. Her father owns a company that he wants to pass it down to her. She's the youngest. Kakak2 atas dia semua tak nak take over the business juta2 tu, so since dia yang youngest, paksa rela la.... now ayah dia dah pass away... 3 years ago. She's a CEO at the age of 26 years time tu.... sian gak kat dia...sebab dia membesar dengan tau dia tak der pilihan career lain.
nasib baik tak dipaksa kawin.... |
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ini makcik pelakon tu ke?.....
pelakon mana kak?
tak kot.... orang lain...
tapi kesian ek kat budak kalau kurang deria rasa...nikmat allah bagi tu.... ice cream tak sedap? Ice cream green tea kut.... hihihih |
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Reply 184# cn7
ohh a ah...memang ader setengah parent dulu, i perati kalau anak tak pandai, tak masuk uni, parent mcm give up jah, bak kata lantak la ko nak jadi apa...sian kan..kalau chinese plak anak2 yg tak berapa pandai akademik, habis skolah terus jadi aprentis kat kedai atau bagi duit modal suruh start bisnes apa2 yg budak tu suka... |
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Reply cn7
pasal label tu..normal la kot kalau combination..ai pun tak tau, adestgh benda process, stgh benda result...kalau dlm kerja slalu result lakot & i hv tendency to cut out unecessary process..tu yg org HRslalu bengang
misy Post at 2-4-2011 16:10 
btol tu....combination is the best, tahu bila nak strive for result
bila nak tukar pada proses....
tu sebab i rasa, anak2 yg ada 2 combinasi nie amat bertuah...
apa2 pun lah, kalo introvert sangat...tak elok, kalo extravert tak pilih tempat ...pun tak elok
lelama i rasa, semua kena balik pada keseimbangan....bersederhana, tu lagi harmoni |
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Reply 180# cn7
ahaa....pendedahan yg camtu lah bole bukak minda anak2
ada pakcik, makcik...dah keje, masuk /keluar unibersiti...ada pengalaman
baru bole bagi nasihat kat anak2...
cam my hb, dia dikelilingi oleh pakcik/makcik grad mesir...pendedahan dia luas
at the age of 7, dia sgt pasti apa keje dia nak buat bila besar...negara mana dia nak study
sebab dia dah nampak jalan tu...not like me...i kann, happy go lucky...
org masuk u, i masuk u.... ...masuk U tu org pandai, alahai.....ahahhaahh |
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Reply 189# my-alja
selalunya mcm tu lah, naturally setiap org ade serba sedikit , so jadi balance la...
yg jenis genuinely extrovert/introvert tu jarang sgt, tapi kalau ada biasanya femes gak...samada femes for good or bad limelight hehe |
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ak macam mak2 sekarang kann.... bila anak lain drp pembawakan mak/ayah
memang jadi medan perbandingan...esp dgn my bro, memang anak
stress kan bila dibanding2kan? sampai satu tahap i told my mum masa i kecik dulu, "umi, when i grow up & have kids on my own, 1 thing i wont do like what you did, is to COMPARE", masa i cakap ni hidung i tengah kembang kempis sebab bengang sangat. mata tengah berair2 tahan marah & my dad cakap muka i merah sangat time tu.
my dad sampai tegur my mum, "kalau u rasa anak orang lain tu hebat sangat, apa kata u tanya kat budak tu, can i be your mum. You tak payah nak compare2. no one likes to be compared".
yang i tak paham, my dad lebih educated (my mum tak masuk Uni, tapi she climbed up the corporate world sebab she's very hardworking & determined". My dad punya theory, my mum nak anak2 dia jadi what she did not become (eh, betul ke ayat i ni. Macam berterabur jer). Maksud my dad, sebab my mum tak masuk U, so dia meletakkan U tu sebagai ultimate goal anak2 dia. sebab my mum didnt get straight A's last time so she expects the anak2 to get straight A's all the time.
then i told my dad, ayah, umi tau tak there's such thing as GENETIC (soalan ni motif2 nak kenakan my mum balikla konon)?
my dad kata, my mum believe, a genious is nurtured, not born....
ha, kekdahnya.
yang my mum compare kan i tu, she compared me with my cousin who studied harder than me. Masa tu we went for a family trip with all the relatives (nenek atok maklong sampai la maksu), then masa nak mandi swimming pool tu, my cousin ni siap bawak buku revision, nak study beside the pool, sedangkan i duk seronok bermandi manda.
Then my mum cakap," tengok si XYZ tu". Sejuk perut maklong mengandung kan dia. Time holiday pun bawak buku, study. Macam tu la ciri2 pelajar cemerlang"
i was like WHATTTTTTTTTTTTTT???
time holiday, holiday la. we need a break too, right? nasib baik ayah i ni jenis rasional sikit, dia pi basuhkan my mum tu...
result cousin i tu tak la gempak mana pun walaupun budak mrsm tepeng banding i yang sekolah harian ni.
tapi terbakar la i....as i said, my mum is one hard women to please...... |
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Reply 192# cn7
hahahah....sebijik, sebijan dgn my mom
camtulah my mom....dia memang cerdik, ditawarkan masuk sekolah femes kat penang
bukan penang free, sekolah agama tu...apa ye, tak ingat nama
sebab dia sedih tak dapat masuk U, tokwan takde duit...anak2 semua kena belasah
cuma dia tak keje cam ur mom tapi dia memang determined bagi anak2 sekola
dia takmo kami jadi cam dia, marah tokwan...dedulu !
my dad is a lepak man, dia tak cerdik sgt....tapi dia ada wisdom
i belajar cara dia nikmati kehidupan sangat simple...minum kopi atas pelantar bawah rumah
dia senyum sambil citer kenangan dia pi sekolah jalan kaki....i amazed lihat org camni
berbeza dgn my mom, semua tak kena...ada saja target baru dlm idup dia....
and now,having my own life wt someone energetic like my mom...really make my day up side down
sampaikan main monopoli pun dia mesti,mesti, mesti MENANG sokmo....huhuhu
i tgk my kids flip money , i dah happy....depa kira2, cemana nak bayar tax...kembang setaman hati i
tapi my hb, siap ambik kalkulator kita duit bila kami habis main....punya gigih nak menang...
sesak nafas aku ..... |
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masalahnya dgn sistem kita, semua org nak pandai kena ...kena ambik sains
padahal dlm sejarah presiden US, berapa ekor yg jadi presiden dr background sains
kebanyakkan budak2 sains sosial...
Kat Malaysia pulak senario lebih kurang sama... i tengah baca buku yang Mahathir tulis,,,, how people were skeptical doctor nak jadi PM. because dalam sejarah PM, most are either susur galur org Istana, and ada background in law. Dia sorang jer from medical background. Tapi sebab Tun ni a visionary men, i personally think he's the most respectful PM. his successor susah nak live up to the benchmark yang dia dah buat |
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berbeza dgn my mom, semua tak kena...ada saja target baru dlm idup dia..
betulkan.... tapi nasib baik my dad penyelamat keadaan... |
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sampaikan main monopoli pun dia mesti,mesti, mesti MENANG sokmo....huhuhu
i tgk my kids flip money , i dah happy....depa kira2, cemana nak bayar tax...kembang setaman hati i
tapi my hb, siap ambik kalkulator kita duit bila kami habis main....punya gigih nak menang...
sesak nafas aku
hihihi...kelakar la pulak i membacanya. suami akak ni pon, bagi la can kat anak2 dia menang sekali sekala... kalau asyik kalah sure diorang tak nak main dah...tobatttt |
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my dad pernah a few times kan, pesan kat adik2 i, if you all tak nak study for your own self, study la to please your mum. Sampai macam tu sekali.
my siblings selalu claim i ni anak Tiffany my parents (up sikit dari anak emas, walhal emas lagi bernilai dari Tiffany tu). sebab academically i do better than them, and sebab i jenis menurut kata mak ayah....
tapi, anak Tiffany pun, tetap kena COMPARE. |
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Do you all reward your kids when they did well in their exams?
Does the value of the reward coincide dengan HYPER parent tak?
macam my boss baru2 ni, bagi anak dia I-MAC sebab dapat 8A PMR.
yang sorang lagi dapat I-pad.
i bila dengar, wah bertuah budak2 sekarang, dapat bermacam2 I I I |
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nak share 1 story...
baru balik dari kenduri.... so of course jumpa sedara mara sepupu sepapat bagai...
and benda yang i tengok ni terus mengingatkan i pada thread HYPER parent ....
misy, kalau orang cerita pasal anak dia like all the time, (anak dia boleh buat tu, bagus dalam ni, hebat dalam tu), kira hyper parent tak?
sebab 1 of my cousin ni duk cerita pasal anak dia punya milestone yang cepattttt ajer dari anak2 baya anak dia....
tapi i layankan ajer la, sebab paham. anak pertama. menunggu nak dapat anak pertama ni pun, 4 tahun kawin baru dapat.
pastu yang i tak tahan, dari lahir sampai la masuk 6 bulan ni, sesapa yang nak usik or sentuh or dukung anak dia WAJIB 'sterilize'tangan dengan alcohol dulu.
you know, those alcohol swab that doctors used before touching their patients.
cousin i ni bukan in health line pun, tapi concern dia melebihi orang yang health line.
katakanla kita terlupa nak pakai lotion alcohol tu, dia akan suh letak anak dia balik & pakai dulu....
dapat yang muda2 macam i ni, ok lagi...tapi mak2 sedara , nenek2 tu....mana la nak kena dengan style macam tu....
according to my auntie, my cousin ni tak trust to leave anak dia with the maid. so where ever my aunty pergi (dia baru retire), she has to bring cucu dia sekali...
my auntoe cakap, anak dia ni paranoid sangat. |
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