Let Go Of Anger - and Release Your Creative Power

Png_Prince

Have you ever lashed out at someone for no real good reason - but
just because you may be having a bad day?

I know most of us have had those moments where something trivial or
meaningless just sets us off.

Unfortunately when you let anger take over you actually end up
knocking yourself back a few feet, you push yourself further away
from achieving your goals and you make it even more difficult to
get on the road to success.

What do I mean?

When you get angry you get in the way of allowing your creative
power to help you achieve your goals and as a result you don't move
forward.

If you're carrying anger then you're setting up barriers for
yourself.
When you continue to carry anger you create more barriers and in
the end you end up moving further away from improving your life and
achieving your goals all because you choose to get angry, stay
angry or carry anger everyday.

Your Creative Power is at work for you constantly but the fuel that
drives that power is not anger. Its compassion, understanding,
love, goodwill, inner peace and balance.

Anger stalls the creative process. Anger is like putting salt in
the gas tank of your car; it will not only stall your car it will
destroy your engine. Similarly, carrying anger will not only stall
your life, it will destroy it.

In this week's newsletter I'll outline the different types of anger
and how all of these forms of anger stall your creative process.

I'll also show you how you can better manage that anger so that you
propel yourself to greater success.
You'll learn how to turn anger into power so that you let go of the
anger and begin achieving your goals while improving your life and
enjoying success and happiness.


Recognizing Anger

First let me say that anger is a normal part of life.
Don't feel that you should never get angry in fact it's okay to get
angry.

But it's not okay to let your anger get out of control and destroy
your life or the lives of those around you.

It's not okay to carry that anger with you for years and years
allowing it to fester to the point where the anger doesn't allow
you to move forward.
If you let anger get out of control and dominate your life it will
destroy your relationships, your work experience and the overall
quality of your life.

Your Anger can be caused by a number of factors.
Someone cutting you off while driving can set you off.
You could be angry because you worry about the future and you feel
you're not prepared for it, or you continually think about a
negative experience in the past, someone could just say the wrong
thing and it may set you off.

But what leads to that anger?

We all experience different forms of Anger.
Some people get angry because people don't live up to their
expectations or they don't do what they want.
Others get angry at themselves for not living up to their own
expectations or for not fulfilling their objectives.
What ever your anger is - you're wasting your time by hanging on to
it.

If you're angry - recognize and understand your anger.

Then think about why you're angry.

As you keep asking yourself why you're angry you'll soon come to
understand that the main reason you're angry is because your
expectations have not been met.

It's really that simple.

If you're angry at your parents for not teaching you better or for
not treating you properly it's because you expected or you now
expect them to have treated you better or taught you better. They
didn't live up to your expectations.

If you're simply angry at a driver for cutting you off it's because
you expected some courtesy from him or her and they didn't live up
to that expectation.

If you're angry at yourself for not doing something properly - it's
because you expected you would to something correctly and you
didn't. In all of the above cases your expectations were not met.

So now what do you do?

The first thing you can do is to change your expectations.

Understand that not everybody is going to meet your expectations
especially when they're not even aware of what those expectations
are. Think about it.

Do you know what everybody expects from you?

Would you be willing to try and meet everybody's expectations?

If you did then what about living up to your own expectations?

Not everyone will meet your expectations including yourself.

So the first step is to change your expectations. Start with the
understanding that you can't expect everyone to live up to your
expectations just like you're not going to be able to live up to
everybody else's expectations.

Once you do this you won't be getting so angry.

The other thing you can do when you get angry is to focus on what
you want.

Instead of reacting and just getting angry - try to think about the
situation that you want -- what do you want to happen now? When you
do this you get your mind to move away from the anger and focus on
creating what you want.

You also push your subconscious mind in a new direction. Instead of
your subconscious mind being held up by your anger - you give it
new energy to start creating what you want.

Why?

Because when you focus on what you want you give your subconscious
mind an instruction to begin creating what you want. When you let
your anger dominate, when you continually focus on being angry, you
take away power from your subconscious mind.

You effectively take away its power to create and that's why the
situation often gets worse.

Moving away from being angry to focusing on what you want to happen
in your life is the process of turning anger into power.

When you're angry you're reacting - and thus have no power.
When you focus on what you want you begin creating and in the
process you give yourself power.

Stop Reacting and start creating by focusing on what you want.
Allow your subconscious mind to help you - by thinking of what you
want and not hanging on to your anger.
Change your expectations, change the way you see things and start
turning your anger into power today.

Png_Prince

How Anger Destroys Your Creative Power

When you have anger, when you continue to hold that anger and carry
it with you - you block your ability to create the life you want -
you end up stagnating yourself.

Why?

When you are angry you are not able to focus on what you want. You
cannot be angry and still be able to create new situations at the
same time. When you are angry you are telling yourself and your
subconscious mind that you are not happy that you choose to be
unhappy and do not want to create a better life.

I'm not saying don't get angry - that would be very difficult after
all we are human beings and we will experience a wide range of
emotions including anger. But if you stay angry then you will
destroy your ability to improve your life and move ahead.

If you don't believe me then let's do a little exercise.

Think about something you're angry about.

Now think about how it feels to be angry. Then look at what you are
focused on. Now ask yourself is this anger helping me move forward?

Or is this anger stagnating me?

Is this anger keeping me in a place that I don't want to be?

Chances are you will answer yes to the latter questions.

When you understand this you will quickly realize that your anger
really serves you no purpose.

In order to eliminate your anger you should be focusing on what you
want, changing your expectations and training your mind to work
differently so that when you experience anger again - your reaction
won't be as harsh and it won't be as long lasting.

Another thing you can do is to replace the stream of negative
thoughts that come up when you get angry with more positive
thoughts that either focus on what you want or focus on something
completely different.

You could also take deep breaths and calm down - a sure way to keep
calm is to regularly meditate.

All of these techniques I teach in my Creating Power system which
has already helped thousands of people move away from being angry
to creating the life they want.
Stop spending energy on being angry - and instead utilize that same
energy to start creating the life you want. Start creating the life
you want today!


Try Smiling

Here's a proven fact - and you can try it if you like:
You can't be angry and smile at the same time.

Now you can't exactly smile when something makes you angry - but if
you want to break the tension in your body - just put a smile on
your face force yourself to do this.

You'll suddenly see that your mind is no longer focused on being
angry and your body is not all tied up in knots.
After you've done this - begin focusing on what you want - smiling
will make the transition a lot easier.

Now I know that there are some people out there who are going to
say:
"Karim, I can't possibly smile when I'm angry - I'm angry and I
have a right to be angry."

Sure you have every right to do what ever you want.
But is staying angry working for you?

Does it really help to stay angry?
Or would it help to create a better and more productive life?

The choice is yours and the minute you decide that having a better
life is more important than being angry - you'll start enjoying
life and it will be more fun if you do it with a smile.

I've given you a basis to get started so that you better manage
your anger and begin creating the life you want. To quickly re-cap
- here are some of the things you can do:
-Change your expectations
-Start doing things to live up to your expectations
-Focus on What You Want
-Don't fight Anger - recognize it and shift your focus to what you
want
-Try smiling - it will break the tension
-Train your mind and subconscious mind to focus on what you want
instead of staying angry.

Stop reacting and start creating.
Smile more often - force yourself if you have to.
Release your anger and allow your subconscious mind to help you
create the success you want.
Change your expectations and you'll begin enjoying life a lot more.
Start turning your anger into power today


Have a nice reading

[ Last edited by  Png_Prince at 3-5-2007 05:34 PM ]

kEk_KeL@d|

aku selalu macam ni
kalo dah bad mood aku dah tak kira sape dah sume org kena
pastu menyesal bila dah cool balik..
camna ek?

Png_Prince

Cuba control angry mood tu
Bila angry, kita tak boleh fikir dgn rasional

kEk_KeL@d|

memang.. kalo dah hangin tu, mesti kena lepas jugak.
kalo kat office, seboleh mungkin tahan tapi kalau ada je org carik pasal, mmg kena aaa..
pastu nyesal.. dusss!!

dan, macam kat atas tu kata, seboleh mungkin aku hadapi dengan senyuman.. heheh..  kena sabarrrrrrrrrrrr banyak2 sebenarnye

Png_Prince

Originally posted by kEk_KeL@d| at 3-5-2007 05:50 PM
memang.. kalo dah hangin tu, mesti kena lepas jugak.
kalo kat office, seboleh mungkin tahan tapi kalau ada je org carik pasal, mmg kena aaa..
pastu nyesal.. dusss!!

dan, macam kat atas tu ka ...

Memang susah sikit kalau nak berubah tiba2. Ambil masa dan cuba control anger tu, nanti boleh la di kontrol
Senyum selalu
Gelak pun boleh

Png_Prince

Anger is very hard to control sometimes.. Just when anger.

mba

always get mad with the stupid foreigners who are working under me.....

Png_Prince

Originally posted by mba at 11-5-2007 12:53 AM
always get mad with the stupid foreigners who are working under me.....

Haha, me too, my customers are mostly foreigners.. But we have to face it

blastoff

this advice about anger management is most suitable for forumners in religion bod

peacefrog

Originally posted by kEk_KeL@d| at 3-5-2007 05:40 PM
aku selalu macam ni
kalo dah bad mood aku dah tak kira sape dah sume org kena
pastu menyesal bila dah cool balik..
camna ek?

haku pon...
kesian adek2 haku...

Png_Prince

Originally posted by blastoff at 12-5-2007 03:11 PM
this advice about anger management is most suitable for forumners in religion bod

Agreed bro