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The first request from my firstborn to go outing with friends was after her UPSR exam when she was in std 6. Mac benarkan, with me hanging around the same shopping complex. (Tapi takla mengekor dia)
Bila no 1 start pergi outing, no 2 pun nak sama. I gave my no2 her first outing masa dia std 5. And I will also hang around the same place, and with more supervision compared to her kakak.
And I would choose shopping complex yang looks safer, not the rowdy ones....
I stopped supervising my eldest who is now 14, when she started to include a fifth former in her outings. My eldest mmg very2 close dgn this 5th former who is in the State's TAekwondo Team. (Mmg boleh jadi bodyguard la this girl, badan pun tough semacam)
However, girls are still girls..... and the safety of our children is really at a frightenning age, whatmore with the disapperance of Awi, though its not being confirmed whether he was being abducted OR he is simply playing truant.
LEts share, if anak lelaki ke, perempuan ke, at what age will you let them go out for outing with friends?
[ Last edited by macademia at 17-3-2008 02:13 PM ] |
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Reply #1 macademia's post
patutla budak2 skrg ni kecik2 lagi dah pegang HP sendiri.. utk memudahkan parents bila soping erk.. hehe..
susahnya nak jawab mac... tapi this is what i think la (kalo anak dah besar lah)..
1. kalo gi besday party, kalo dlm rumah, with supervision by adults (parents etc).. ok jer bila dia dah darjah 3 & up..
2. kalo soping yg mcm u sebut tu, i rasa i sama mcm u kot, tapi sure bagi kat dia HP dulu ekekeke
3. .. makin fikir makin pening lak... sbb cemana pun kita takut jadi apa2 kat anak kita kan.. baik jgn fikir dulu la..  |
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Reply #1 macademia's post
My sons minta izin nak hang around ngan frens dlm tmn perumahan ni jek pun me x benarkan. Bukan apa, with the scary scenario, anak kena kidnap, bunuh bagai... eee... tak berani lah Mac.
Ada la juga they all gi bday party tp bersyarat... ada org ambik dan hantar balik.
Last yr my eldest gi party kwn dia. Driver kwn dia dtg jemput dan hantar balik. Special doh!! 
My 2nd son pun, gi bday party kwn dia last month. His fren's mom dtg ambik dan hantar balik. he.. he..
However... i don't mind kalau frens dia org dtg rumah me. Nak main ke, nak borak2 ke, nak belajar ke. Tak pe. Janji my kids depan mata me. |
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my 13 year old boy and 10 year old girl only hang out at the cousins' houses. belum benarkan dorang keluar with cousins/friends to other places.
tak percaya the surrounding tu satu, another is that, so far they have not asked for it.
i prefer they invite friends to come over to my house, which they always do, esp the girls. maybe once they are old enough, i will weigh the request, if any. i will send and pick them up. bukan tak percaya, tapi kepercayaan tak boleh diberi 100%, nanti ada abuse.
kalau nak pergi tenguk concert/wayang pun i will do the same, hantar and pick-up. sampai bila? sampai i am ready to let them go alone. |
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my mum let me go out on myself rsnyer after 13 kot...before that nak kuar pun ngan elder cousins... |
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Originally posted by HOTlips at 17-3-2008 03:20 PM 
My sons minta izin nak hang around ngan frens dlm tmn perumahan ni jek pun me x benarkan. Bukan apa, with the scary scenario, anak kena kidnap, bunuh bagai... eee... tak berani lah Mac.
Ada la ...
Kat kawasan perumahan, anak mac mmg tak lepas.... since sek they all jauh, most of their classmates mmg duduk jauh from our house. SO takda sebab nak pergi out of the house.
Bila ada birthday parties, mac akan hantar and jemput, and normally i would make a point to berkenal2 dgn parents yg menjemput. Most of the time they would ajak me to join sama, sometimes i would accept, sometimes i would decline, depending on my availbility and tgk "cuaca" gak.....
Anak2 mac if ke shopping complex, most of the time akan tgk wayang..... 2 in 1..... (yang ni selalu one of the mothers akan buy the tickets and hantar they all masuk tempat wayang and akan standby bila agak2 wayang nak habis) |
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Reply #5 honeybee1802's post
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teringat aku dulu, my mum strict giler.. dah tingkatan 5 pun masih kena pantau |
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amy sampai dah umur 48 pun masih kena pantau
huhuuuuuuuuu |
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Originally posted by paulinevoon at 18-3-2008 09:10 AM 
teringat aku dulu, my mum strict giler.. dah tingkatan 5 pun masih kena pantau
same here. And mac byk membohong supaya dapat keluar dgn kawan2. (dah form 5)
Thats why mac taknak strict sangat dgn my kids. I put myself in their shoes..... tapi ada limit la.... tak boleh bebas senang2..... BAHAYA!!!! |
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Reply #7 paulinevoon's post
me dulu bebas. maybe sbb mak kata dia percaya me n dia tau me very independent.
tp kat adik-adik, terkongkong skit. lgpun now zaman bahaya la... main depan rumah pun kena culik...
weh, kat Malaysia tader yg buat ke, implant cip kat dlm badan anak? mcm cip kat anjing, kucing tu?
kalau ada, kat mana ye? berapa? |
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for me klu nak hang out ngan friends dah form 4 ke atas baru boleh itupun me ikut sekali. kita pegi shopping mall sama sama lepas tu split then jumpa balik kat satu satu tempat. i dont trust my children until they are 18 above. they can give 1001 reasons but the decisions is always from me...knowing me dulu pernah go through all this teenagers hanky panky, i don't trust my children... |
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Originally posted by paulinevoon at 18-3-2008 09:10 AM
teringat aku dulu, my mum strict giler.. dah tingkatan 5 pun masih kena pantau
aku dah nak kawin pun lagi teruk kena pantau. by 8 pm mesti dah balik umah klu tidak, balik kena lecture siap tunang pun kena lecture sekali....napa nak dating sampai ke malam walhal masa tu umur bukan muda pun, late 20's |
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Reply #14 HOTlips's post
ekekekeke... sekali lepas mcm kambing lepas kandang ek.. all hell's break loose babeh
well, kita pun penah muda jugak.. tapi mmg le kena ada kesedaran diri kan.. mudah2an kita berjaya tanamkan kesedaran diri/sayangkan diri kat anak2 kita ni.. amin...
susah nak ckp ye.. kalo takat outting gi berenang ke, gi group study ke, gi birthday party ke, agak2 kalo dia dah sekolah menengah le kot baru aku bagi.. kalo budak2 masih kecit2 lagi ni, gi playground pun aku ikottt.. kalo nak main basikal dgn kawan2 pun tak leh kuar dari kawasan tertentu.. mmg aku pantau habissss.. selagi dia masih clumsy selagi tu la aku pantau |
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1st time i keluar naik bas pegi tanjung dgn kawan2...masa umur 15thn ...punyalah penakut masa tu...huhuhu
i rasa , kalo kedepan hari...mahu ku jadi drebar utk anak2 nie, kemana pegi akan ku hantar sampailah lepas sekolah kot....over tak? |
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Reply #16 my-alja's post
takde la over tu alja.. bcoz that's what i'm going to do too.. jadi drebar cum body guard.. lantak la org kata over, anak kita gak bukan anak depa
[ Last edited by paulinevoon at 18-3-2008 12:06 PM ] |
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Reply #17 paulinevoon's post
eceh!!! pandai dah guna perkataan depa.
Ye lah polin. Anak kita bukan anak depa!
Cuti sek baru2 ni, me balik kg ziarah bapa. Kebetulan ada kenduri adik beradik. 1 of my sis balik lambat skit pasal nak jemput anak dr hostel. Sorang form 1 kat Sg Besar, sorang lg form 5 kat Gombak jek. Tp dia pi jemput 2 2 ni. Both r boys. My mak tiri kata, anak2 dia dulu form 1 dah dok asrama dan x pernah dia/hubby dia jemput. Masing2 pandai balik sendiri. So, me cakap lah... dulu lain makcik. Sekarang mana pergi dah x selamat. Kata my mak tiri ni, budak2 sekarang mengada2. Tak berdikari.
So, what say u guys? |
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Reply #18 HOTlips's post
akakakak.. wa mmg byk belajar bahasa kat porem nih  it's a good bahasa teacher |
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Post time 17-3-2008 02:08 PM
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