Did I have an affair?

idhamriza

I have been with my wife for 12 years. We have our ups and downs like any couple. Day to day things are OK and I assumed that抯 just how it抯 supposed to be.

I was at an out of town, outstation for a week and I met N. I never believed in the idea of 搇ove at first sight

auntie_girl

crush stage,perhaps

namakurahsia

bunga2 tu dah nampak la...so ko dah g tau wife ko..adakah bermakna ko lebih rasa selesa utk berhubungan semula dgn N...?

fariepari

sian bini ko..

dianthe

macam masalah org bodoh

DewaGanaZ

affair is a words of many possibilities...pls try to narrow it down...
from the point where i read ur stand, it doenst seem like an affair ias defined in my dictionary of married couples...
but the damages is little far beyond any major consequences.... the good part is your honesty but that's was so fool of you to be 100% honest in this case... but now since u're not having any physical contact with her, i may think that there is not enough evidence to support your wife accusation of having an affair secretly...

i rest my case

tarabas1976

you should tell your wife WHAT SHE WANTED TO HEAR and NOT WHAT YOU NEED TO TELL HER.

THATS THE CAUSE OF YOUR PROBLEM,Got it?

starcity

mesti wife kau dah trust kau lagi pasni. apa perasaan kau kalau benda tu berlaku kat wife kau. maksud aku dia plak ada feelings kat lelaki lain

thamrong

Se駉ra bonita eh.....Mucho Problemo Senor.

idhamriza

Rather than make up an excuse or lie, I told her the truth. There was a connection; we had been in touch, but that I had ended it. I didn抰 mention in my first post the several times I caught my wife lying about where she was and who she was with, the conversation I overheard where she told her friend that she has to fantasize about someone else just to get off and how much she wishes I was like other man . All those times I swallowed my pride and agreed to work things out mostly for the sake of our children but I抳e really been wondering if I shouldn抰 have ended it then. The issues in my marriage go far deeper and started long before this event.

dianthe

baik ko baca balik apa yg ko tulis kat thread aku, menjawab semua kekeliruan ko

LostSoul

u have unresolved issues with your wife then. u gotta sort it out with her... and if u think u r in love, well.. if you can, be married to the girl then.. either way, you choose what you gonna do then, don't just sit n wait and let it all rot..

idhamriza

You抮e right, unresolved issues.  Both of us need to get to the real reason why things are not good between us. I am trying to fix it. My wife however won抰. I am in love , yes, but i don't think married the girl will solve the problems. My main concern is our children.

dianthe

ceraikan ajer bini ko tu macam saranan ko kat thread aku

idhamriza

Somehow you has to realize that your behavior is distructive and counterproductive but I still wish you the best.

LostSoul

then, you will stuck in-between forever.. creating unhealthy environment for your kids too.. at the end, while you're trying to protect your kids, end up hurting them in the process.

your marriage once used to be good, then you can make it better again. unless, it was bad from the start.

divorce should be the last resort, but it is a resort afterall..

cocklea

i would've to say what you did was a pseudo-affair. you did the right thing telling your wife. and good for you for putting an end to it. at least the guilt hit you earlier before you go even further. the best thing to do now is spend more time with your wife and children and make it work. it'll take time, but nothing comes without an effort.

dianthe

eh idham, napa bertukar watak kat thread ni?
kat thread aku tu, ko kemain lagi kata itu ini...
multinick mamat ni

idhamriza

Thanks. I think both of us really need to start over, start like there has been no past hurt. Hold on to nothing. She can hold on to nothing but can a marriage be saved by one spouse?

idhamriza

Kacau ? I am getting confused.