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camno nak ajar anak bersosial
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aku pening kepala memikirkan perangai anak aku lately......anak aku lately develop habit suka tolak or push budak tak kira besar or kecik from him...he think it's funny....kalau diaorang lari dia sanggup kejar......nak reasoning ngan dia pun susah coz dia continue cakap bahasa german dia......another thing, kalau he saw something that he wants, he just try to snatch it away.....few times gak I have to mintak maaf to their parent.....
sekarang ni dia duduk ngan baby sitter yg jaga him alone......so most of the time memang duduk ngan adult la....sekarang ni on weekend try masuk kan dia ke tumble tots nak kasi dia bersosial, tapi seeing his way ngan budak lain, rasa takut plak.... ye la....bukan semua parents is understanding.......
dia sekarang 2.5 years old.....kalau duduk kat rumah memang active and ader jer benda dia nak buat.......kekadang the whole day siang tu tak tidur.........
is it normal? |
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Anak mder tu ada adik beradik lain x?
Kekadang perangai budak ni jd lasak sbb xde contoh dr bro/sister.
Or xde responsibility kat adik dia..
Anak jihah yg first plak takut nk bersosial.
Dia berkawan ngan adik dia jer..
Kesian plak.. Dh antar tadika tp xjd gak.
Any suggestion... Plezzz.. |
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mder..
Just nk bgth u
Jihah ngajar special education kt kl.
Ada kategori budak khas ni yg hyperactive.
Berlari sana cni, xmau dengar ckp kita..
Sbb nye tenaga dia byk dlm tubuh.
Try jgn beri dia mknan yg manis2 like sweet or cake. |
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Originally posted by mder at 21-11-2006 12:33 AM
aku pening kepala memikirkan perangai anak aku lately......anak aku lately develop habit suka tolak or push budak tak kira besar or kecik from him...he think it's funny....kalau diaorang lari dia s ...
ni consider active sangat ni....aku takde pengalaman mcm ni plak...semua anak2 aku normal aje..heheheyg aku tahu ..bila anak2 aku buat kesalahan..akan ku marahi dorang dan kalau degil aku pukul...tapi pukul tak lah sampai cacat atau cedera...hehehe..so lama2 dorang tak buat lah benda2 yg tak diingini seperti tolak2 org atau pukul2 kawan ke atau something bad lah....dan aku juga setiap hari menasihati mereka dari kecil sampailah ke besar ni....
so camne nak bantu ekk...tapi takpe..kite tunggu forummers lain jawapp....:nerd: |
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well jihah, my son will be abang sulung, insyaallah end of december nih......sekarang ni dia still baby abah dia.........
about benda manis, dia tak suka makan cake....probably becoz dia ader allergy problem...tapi dia suka sugus and vitagen.....in which i try to avoid kalau boleh.......tapi memory dia bagus.......dia boleh recall dekat giant or tesco..........dekat mana tempat depa simpan vitagen.......at least one good thing dia nak pegi bayar dulu before makan or minum.... about sugus, kalau pegi kedai makan mamak or ader satu tokay kedai runcit ni, memang dia dapat free jer coz dia pandai buat muka cheeky dia........
selama ni,as long as aku rasa benda tu safe, aku biar jer dia buat ........tapi bila involve anak orang ni, aku jadi risau sikit......since part of it, is beyond my control......
aku ngan wife berharap this is one of the temporary phase dalam hidup depa......same as pancut merata-rata......or panjat sana-sini.......or mintak nenen tengah malam..... |
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Kalu dia dh ada adik nnt ajarkn dia t/jwb jaga n protect adik dia.
Budak ni kerenahnye byk sgt.. Ada yg effect jap je.. Ada yg kekal..
Ha, nnt jgn lupe abg bila dpt bby br..
The best thing, involve kn dia sama utk jaga bby.
Cth : "Kalu adik terjaga panggil daddy k?" @ "Tlg amik kn pampers"
make sure dia happy dpt adik baru.. |
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[quote]Originally posted by mder at 21-11-2006 12:33 AM
aku pening kepala memikirkan perangai anak aku lately......anak aku lately develop habit suka tolak or push budak tak kira besar or kecik from him...he think it's funny....kalau diaorang lari dia s ... [/quote
My dotter pun the same age as anak U. Dari segi sosial memang takde problem lagipun sebab antar nursery...so dia dah biasa dengan bebudak lain.Tapi ada satu masa dia memang suka tolak/push budak lain,cubit and rampas mainan bebudak lain macam tu je...memang risau...tapi itu sekejap je...I ada baca masa umur camni dia memang akan agresif sikit,dan rasa apa yang dia buat tu semua betul...bebudak camni memang aktif,bijak and memory diaorang kuat...so sikit-sikit boleh terapkan nilai-nilai murni pada diaorang...biasakan kongsi mainan,makan sama-sama bebudak lain... |
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From your postings, I can tell that your son is VERY ACTIVE. Nak kata dia "hyperactive" takut over diagnosed pulak. That has to be clinically done kot. Your son is 2+ years old kan? I agree that mungkin he is going through the TERRIBLE TWO period where children want to take control of their surrounding. Tapi most of the children at that age are NOT aggressive eventhough diorang very active. Kebanyakannya lasak sendiri-sendiri dan tak kacau orang lain.
My personal opinion, its ok for him to be very active - of course he needs extra supervision for this - tapi its not ok to be aggressive. Kalau kita biar dan tak firm about it takut later on we will breed a bully. Seen many of them macam tu sebab parents ingat "biasalah...budak kecik macam tu lah". Nope, its not biasa...By the time kita tersedar its already too late to do something about it. I think you are right to worry about this.. 
Untuk atasi masalah ni rasanya kita kena tahu dulu kenapa dia jadi macam tu. Selalunya sebab:
-wanting power and control
-Tengah explore/experiment dengan surrounding dan senses
-Rasa frustrated
-Rasa tercabar
-Limited ability to communicate with words.
-Testing limits (and our patience of course ).
-External influence (peers, maid, tv etc)
You need to identify the root of the problem dulu then you take it from there. Do lots of reasoning with him. Kalau dah try jugak tapi dia uncontrollable, makin menjadi-jadi, may be you patut bawak dia jumpa a few paed to get their opinion. Kalau dia tergolong dalam anak-anak yang "hyperactive" there are ways to manage/handle them. Tapi kalau it is just part and parcel of toddlerdom, insyAllah he will outgrow it tapi still we need to be firm about such a behaviour, make him understand that you dislike his behaviour although you love him very much.
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kakfie,
I totally agree with you, memang dia a little bit active....... and "limited ability to communicate with words"...make it a little bit worse.......
and environment surrounding by adults only did not make easier...... nak bawak pegi playground pun dah rasa phobia sikit, I have to be on alert all the time....especially kalau ader budak kecik than him....same goes with tumble tots.....I pulled him out too from that class.....
tentang reasoning about pushing.......every morning, I try to reason with him, tapi sebut the the word "push".....memang dia toleh tempat lain......so i think he understand but he just tak mau dengar.....occasionally I dah start pukul kat kaki dia to show my disapproval.....tapi budak ni really can tahan sakit.... only last week jari dia melecur kena car cigarette lighter, selamba jer dia gigit kulit yg melecur tu......
insyallah, he will outgrow it.....tapi memang kena banyak bersabar sekarang ni..... |
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huhu..anak haku nih nama jek dok nursery..tp kureng mesra alam tul..last weekend family day..haraam dia nak main ngan bebdk yg dia baghu ngk muker..ngan anak opismate yg dia penah ngk tuh main gak skit..kalo balik kg kang ngk ler.melekat je ngan mak ayah brg sejam dua..dah nak msk 3 taun nih..
kenkdg aku rs dia nih mcm tkt nak mencuba..like dia suker sgt g alamanda sbb nak duk kat bob the builder tuh..skali aku nak msk duit nangs takmo daaa..time family day tuh aku suh g melompat kat inflatable tuh..takmo..tp nak ngk lak kat tepi..aku rs nak lambung jek dia ke situ..tp tempat yg bese dia bese g..tmpt tuh dah jdk mcm umah dia...
nih igtksn nak msk nursery br..eiii..cuti pun lom approve nih... |
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Originally posted by honeybee1802 at 18-12-2006 10:52 AM
huhu..anak haku nih nama jek dok nursery..tp kureng mesra alam tul..last weekend family day..haraam dia nak main ngan bebdk yg dia baghu ngk muker..ngan anak opismate yg dia penah ngk tuh main gak ...
wah best lak dgr dapat anak cam ni...tak mcm anak sy terlebih agresif pulak...mmg tak suka pegang klu jln2 dia nak berlari atau main2 sendiri....pantang jumpa org mesti nak berkawan ...tp satu je yang risaunya anak sy ni jenis klu orang buat dia dulu nanti dia akan bls balik lepas tu dia akan bermusuh dengan orang 2...mula la dia akan cari pasal nak buat orang tp kalu budak lain 2 main baik2 dia ok je semua boleh masuk sekali...tp 2 jenis kalu dah ada kawan mmg taknak duduk dekat dengan kita dah nak bebas sendiri dan jenis mmg tak takut dengan orang langsung pun.... |
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Originally posted by ibucute at 18-12-2006 11:38 AM
wah best lak dgr dapat anak cam ni...tak mcm anak sy terlebih agresif pulak...mmg tak suka pegang klu jln2 dia nak berlari atau main2 sendiri....pantang jumpa org mesti nak berkawan ...tp sat ...
best..hehe...belum kenal belum tau..kalo tmpt dia bese like shopping complex yg dah biasa dia g..ya ampun..belari2 kejar dia..ari tuh skali berlari kat parking kete..ayah dia jg dia..aku dah pucat lesi dah... |
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anak saya pulak masa dia umo dr 2-10 bulan hantar kat babby sitter...
pastuh masuk setahun hantar kat taska...perangai dia mula berubah sebab
dia jadi lebih agresif...sekarang dah 2 tahun 4 bulan...makan bertambah agresif..
memang pening kepala bila fikirkan....sekarang nih kalau dia
kena marah dia cepat merajuk... |
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Originally posted by honeybee1802 at 18-12-2006 10:52 AM
huhu..anak haku nih nama jek dok nursery..tp kureng mesra alam tul..last weekend family day..haraam dia nak main ngan bebdk yg dia baghu ngk muker..ngan anak opismate yg dia penah ngk tuh main gak ...
kau cerita bab putrajaya, teringat kisah anak aku nak terjun mandi tasik Putrajaya......jenuh aku pegang........last-last kasut dia melayang masuk dalam tasik, kena la budak-budak yg dok training kenu pegi amik.....
lepaih tu pegi alamanda.....dia punya memberontak suruh aku sewa stroller.......aku ingat sebab apa.....rupanya dia nak tidur......masuk jer.....terus tidur.....
budak budak agresif ni, parent kat sini ada amalkan apa-apa doa dak....... |
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mder,
my son is abt your son's age too, 2yrs ++... very active physically tapi cakap german.. cuma risau sebab lately ni dia mcm agressive , suka pukul2 org... dia hari2 8am-8pm dok umah opah, mlm baru saya ambik lepas habis keje, so his 'friends" are all his pakciks yg mmg kasar kedehaq... i guess that's why dia tanak kawan dgn kids his age kot, nak kawan dgn org dah besar je.. klau gi kuar, dia mmg tanak berjalan, nak berdukung je unless tempat dia dah biasa.
tambah sikit: tapi apa2 pun aku bersyukur sgt anak aku ni nakal2 pun sihat walafiat, (err.. aku baru balik melawat anak cousin yg sakit buah pinggang.. so syahdu kejap)
[ Last edited by mias_2004 at 20-12-2006 01:05 PM ] |
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problem saya pulak terbalik dgn mder,
my doter baru je masuk 2 thn.. n ckp dia byk la yg dah boleh faham
dia duduk kat umah jer sbb I duduk ngan MIL n ada maid
dia suka bekawan, n kebetulan cousin2 dia jenis x main kasar2
so bila ada org jerit kat dia or tolak dia.. dia akan nangis
kalau tak nangis pun dia akan main jauh2
last week I bwk gi lake garden.. then tetiba ada sorg budak tuh gi tolak kepala dia
Pas tu trus my doter gi main tempat lain..
i thought dia x rasa pape.. bila I usap2 kepala dia.. dia kata chakit..
sian anak I, tp x de la sampai marah budak tuh sbb x kan sesuka hati nak marah anak org
Tapi yg merisaukan nyer ialah.. takut my doter akan jadi mangsa buli bila masuk sekolah nanti..
agak2 nyer.. ada kemungkinan tak yer |
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Originally posted by adhwan at 20-12-2006 05:48 PM
problem saya pulak terbalik dgn mder,
my doter baru je masuk 2 thn.. n ckp dia byk la yg dah boleh faham
dia duduk kat umah jer sbb I duduk ngan MIL n ada maid
dia suka bekawan, n kebetulan cous ...
my son started off just like ur doter....orang push dekat playground terus ajak balik......that time kita pun takut he grow up to be mangsa buli........ masa tu pun I dah takut if he push other kids back........ pasai dia memang tak realize his strength.....
so far okay sikit dah.........kalau around other kids...memang remind him up front..... "don't push people okay......if u want to make friend, go and salam"...... dia memang gi nak salam and kawan........
still......u observed the surrounding and make sure the other kids are safe around him....takleh nak percaya dia 100% |
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ada satu pusat kanak2 di Great Eastern Mall tu salah satu fungsi program ialah mengajar kanak2 bersosial. Childtots ke apa namanya. |
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anak pink dari kecik dah ajar duduk dgn orang..
memang sosial orangnya budak ni..
1st time hantar nursery pon tak nangis..dia buat
selamber je..sampai kekadang ajak balik pon tak nak..
tah la..maybe sbb memang ajar camtu kot..
senang nak bergaul dgn orang...
masa umur 5 bln pon pink dah tinggalkan kat orang sbb kena gi kursus sampai 2 minggu..
not a problem langsung...
tapi tu la..bahaya jugak..langsung tak takut orang... |
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hilang kat pasar malam pon tak nangis..
last2 member pink terjumpa dia kat satu gerai..duk diam jer..
tak nangis langsung..mak aii..
kering betul hati..skrg umur 3 thn 9 bln |
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Post time 21-11-2006 12:33 AM
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