Falling In Love...

andria

Maaf kalau topik seperti ini dah ada, minta jasa baik Mod mergekan dgn mana2 thread yg sesuai. Thank you.
I just feel like sharing this beautiful article, an excerpt from a book written by an author. Here goes.

Falling In Love

It is a mystery why we fall in love.
It is a mystery how it happens.
It is a mystery when it comes.
It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of the experience.

Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share.

And just as life is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once inyour life - the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we all share.

More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.

When this happens to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is gift that is freely given and a gift that just as freely, moves away.

When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift forwhat it was, then moving on.

They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again.

They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow.

They try anything to give meaning to what happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and to accept it.
You need to treat what it brings you with kindness.

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can. This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead becomes someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away..

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it choose to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
If you keep your heart open, it will come again...

Kent Nerburn
From the book, 'Letters To My Son'

[ Last edited by  andria at 21-8-2007 11:46 PM ]

edma

adus..
cubo ekau transelit skit..
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True-X

Originally posted by andria at 19-8-2007 02:30 PM
Rememberthat you don't choose love.Love chooses you. All you can really do isaccept it for all itsmystery when it comes into your life. Feel the wayit fills you tooverflowing, then reach out and give it away.
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cam ner tuh... do eloborate plssss

wes_12

sdee77

tumpang lalu

ziha_rina

penah baca gak this article b4 this..penuh makna

eqa_m

panjang betul...cam malas je nak baca... tapi rasanya apa yg dia ckp tu bila kita pikir..mmg ade betul nya..

andria

Originally posted by True-X at 19-8-2007 15:14


cam ner tuh... do eloborate plssss

Maknanya, cinta adalah anugerah. Kita tak pilih utk jatuh cinta, tapi CINTA la yg pilih kita. Sebab itu kita selalu dgr peribahasa, Cinta itu buta. Apabila kita jatuh cinta, terimalah dgn hati terbuka. Akui kewujudannya. Jangan dihalang. Dan apabila cinta itu pergi, BIARKAN ia pergi, jgn juga dihalang, kerana cinta itu mempunyai masanya sendiri. Ia akan dtg dan pergi, apabila masanya tiba. Mungkin cinta hanya singgah utk sementara waktu, sebelum berlabuh di hati yg lain...  Jgn dikesali dan jgn menangis. Cinta bukanlah milik kita yg mutlak. Ia boleh diambil kembali pd bila2 masa oleh Yang Maha Kuasa...

hardeyboyz

konon kononnya macam drama atas nama cinta lakonan jehan miskin dan fasha sandha le tuh..


meluat giler!!

andria

Atas nama cinta? Tak pernah tgk pun. To each, his own.

redsinner

i've quoted this before and i will quote it again:

"Cinta tak pernah buta, hanya yg bercinta yg menyalahguna atas nama cinta"

andria

Originally posted by redsinner at 21-8-2007 01:38
i've quoted this before and i will quote it again:

"Cinta tak pernah buta, hanya yg bercinta yg menyalahguna atas nama cinta"

Like I said, 'to each, his own.' Maybe that's ur opinion. Saya mengulas apa yg ditulis oleh Mr Kent Nerburn. Ur mileage may differ.

reenz013

Kecacatan cinta bukannya terletak atas sebab 慍inta Itu Buta

anonymous

ayat kecewa nmpak....

indah1285

tumpang sedih....

wulan_cinta

mak aih..jenuh aku nak baca

MugMerah

tang dua baris jek aku baca, lain skip

hardeyboyz

bagi laki2 sukar nak menterjemahkan cinta itu dengan kata kata..

andria

Ada seorg kawan lelaki beritahu saya...

'Apabila kita jatuh cinta, pada saat itulah kita harus belajar MELEPASKAN, kerana pada saat kita menganggap cinta itu adalah milik kita yg mutlak, kita sebenarnya sudah pun kehilangan cinta tersebut...'

hardeyboyz

Originally posted by andria at 21-8-2007 11:49 PM
Ada seorg kawan lelaki beritahu saya...

'Apabila kita jatuh cinta, pada saat itulah kita harus belajar MELEPASKAN, kerana pada saat kita menganggap cinta itu adalah milik kita yg mutlak, kita  ...

hm...mendalam maksud tu..