First Son vs Second Son

sha_n

just nak share...kebetulan dpt email td..

Kesian kan jadik anak no 2 .....tk tau la sejauh mane kebenaran fakta ni..
but...some of it maybe happen kan???


insyallah in the future i will treat my children equally... tak kire la no 2 ke 3 ke 4 ke..

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First son: three baby showers - coworkers, girlfriends, and family members
Second son: none

First son: Adorable, new, stylish, perfectly-matched outfits, lovingly washed in fragrance-free detergent, folded neatly and placed in paper-lined dresser drawers
Second son: Hand-me-downs and consignment store finds, typically pulled from the laundry basket full of clothes which have been ready to fold for two days

First son: sanitizing wipes on the grocery cart topped by adorable padded shopping cart cover
Second son: throw the receipts and stray lettuce leaves out of the cart and plop him into the front

First son: Baby book kept current and complete as time passed
Second son: I need to buy a baby book, I suppose

First son: Four different studio portraits taken in his first year
Second son: I may find time for the second trip to the photo studio before his first birthday卆nd I should really get a frame for that one we got done at Christmas so we can put a picture of him on the wall

First son: constant awareness of his actions and activities around the house
Second son: where did that bruise come from?

First son: Daddy-made personal homepage, complete with current photos and milestones
Second son: a dozen or so snapshots in my free Photobucket account

marissa_raif

I treated both of them sama jer....kalau terlebih terkurang tu biasa lah...susu, pampers, baju etc mesti brand yg sama..
cuma tido jer bilik lain2, sbb my son prefer tido ngan my maid sbb tak suka a/cond.
my doter tido ngan I & hubby lah..

my-alja

hehehhe...ada ke patut camni

kalo dapat berturut 1thn 2 boys rasanya, ada kot kemungkinan...

sha_n

ade yg logik..ade yg klaka..

i pun dpt this email...

but since my first son & second son dtg serentak.... so sama je dia punya reception and excitement!!!

when i decide to have the 3rd one, maybe i will still be excited pasal, its ONE baby instead of 2... but then again... we wouldnt know kan?

ajasu

bab hand-me-down clothes tuh mmg tak boleh nk elak la
especially kalo anak sama jantina
tapi bab lain tuh mcm tak tepat..jek
sebab as a mom i tried hard to treat them equally
lagipun, maybe sbb i wanted so much to have 2nd child
buat teman utk kakak nyer, sbb kakak suka ngendeng
bile ada 'geng' nak dekat2 usia, boleh buat teman main

but bagus la email tuh, it remind us to treat all  our children equally

if i had another one... mmg takde pun hand me down. asal baju my sons tak muat je, i jual. reason: mmg tak nak hand me downs.... coz dulu i didnt grow up with hand me downs.... so konon nak fair la.

honey_dew

I treat both of my son 6 yrs and 3 yrs almost the same..dari segi milk, diapers, clothes, foods..etc kalau ada pun terlebih/terkurang..kena ikut rentak diorang dari segi situation coz 1st son hard of hearing, 2nd son normal.

macademia

Originally posted by spidernfly at 6-8-2007 07:44 PM
i pun dpt this email...

but since my first son & second son dtg serentak.... so sama je dia punya reception and excitement!!!

when i decide to have the 3rd one, maybe i will still be ex ...

Masa dulu2, before I had a child and even when I had my firstborn, i was  a true believer that anak2 patut get equal treatment. Kalau baju baru, semua dapat baru, pram and stroller pun tak boleh passing kat adik......

BIla dapat no2, my mom marah bila i nak beli pram baru..... hehe. okla i give in. TApi setakat benda2 besar macam tu la.

Tapi bab baju mmg tak boleh hand me downs. Until one day, my no 2 girl who was already 4 yrs merengek2 nak pakai baju kakaknya...... hehe. So sekarang ni, adik2 pakai baju kakak le..... lantakla, banyak lagi benda lain mac nak pikir.....


Mac mmg usaha nak give the best kat anak2, Tapi takat mampu je le..... INgat lagi when I had no 3, mac hanya beli baju sepasang dua aje masa nak deliver dia. Rasa guilty sangat tapi baju2 kakak no2 banyak yg tak pakai lagi esp hadiah2. So u know what i did? I belikan kasut soft shoes yg harga dia RM75, mac belikan 2 pasang.............. hehe.... Eksyen dia.... check out dari hospital pakai kasut soft leather.....

[ Last edited by  macademia at 7-8-2007 08:57 AM ]

macademia

YEs I admit, gambar my eldest banyak sangat compared with the rest. Tapi yele, time tu kita banyak time. dapat belek anak, mengadap anak.

Bila dapat no2 and the rest, dah banyak kaki dan tangan yg nak dibelek.... so kita pun ada less time la nak ambik gambar......

KakFie

Pasal baju hand down memang betul.  Babies/toddlers pakai baju sekejap saja..so elok lagi..tak gamak nak buang.  In fact anak yang bawah2 rasanya lagi banyak baju sebab dapat yang hand down dan yang dibeli baru bila yang atas dapat baju baru.  So no issue.

Pasal gambar pulak, bebaru ni yang kecik2 komplen kenapa diorang tak banyak gambar macam yang besar-besar.  Mana idaknya..masa ambik gambar yang besar2 dulu tak pakai digital camera lagi..so memang tersangatlah banyak album gambar individual.  Yang bawah2 ni semua tangkap gambar digital...masuk PC..hardcopy kurang.  So untuk bagi diorang nampak yang gambar diorang pun banyak, we spent hundreds of RM jugaklah cuci gambar2 digital untuk masukkan dalam album.  Barulah tersenyum je...

Yang lain-lain tu sama je ...fair and equal treatment...insyAllah.

my-alja

tak dapat nak bayangkan kalo me nak beli semuanya baru kat my doter....

semua barang2 besar, memang dr abgnyer dulu....nak kurang rasa bersalah cam mac gak, me pujuk hubby beli changing bag AVENT, cost me rm350...haaa....puas hati!!...pakai tak sampai 2 bulan...

beli graco playpen rm800.....sekali lagi, pakai 3 bulan....

ajasu

ehehhe...actually i feel good seeing my azalea wearing her sis clothes
cam comel...lagi satu sbb tak nak membazir la kan
baju kakak banyak giler, biasa la anak 1st...
but i make sure once in a while Azalea will get new clothes
tapi gaya nyer sejak aku panda gi w/sale..memanjang azalea ada baju baru
tapi kalo azalea pakai baju kakak, mesti ada relatives yg perasan
usually their comment..'cute lah...'...ehehehheh

mac, anak i plak terbalik
yang kakak sibuk nk bg baju kat adik
sampai guling2 suh bg jugak baju dia kat adik
nak tgk adik pakai baju dia
adik of course la tak paham lagi...

JustWant2Know

my 2 sons have different chars...so, cara layan pun lain tapi quality wise the same...
dari diaorang kecik sampai sekarang...I manjakan both...diaorang punya interest ada yang sama dan ada yang lain...

Elder son (8 yrs): quiet type but suka toys macam cars, super heroes, play PS2 and other games,  artistic, sport - soccer & golf
2nd son (3 yrs): talkative, rough but suka toys -cars/motorbikes and super heroes, suka tengok super heroes videos and artistic, sport - golf

Daughter (eldest- 10 yrs): adventurous, barbies, sudoku, artistic...sport - gymnastic, tae kwan do and golf...yang ni selalu mengalah...not demanding

macademia

Originally posted by JustWant2Know at 7-8-2007 01:21 PM
my 2 sons have different chars...so, cara layan pun lain tapi quality wise the same...
dari diaorang kecik sampai sekarang...I manjakan both...diaorang punya interest ada yang sama dan ada yang  ...

anak u kecik2 dah main golf yer?

JustWant2Know

mac,

haah...dia orang selalu ikut I pergi driving range...I bought them junior sets..
once a while I bawak diaorang pergi main kat actual field but the short course..Pitch and Putt kat Bukit jelutong...

baby_ayang

my son beza ngan adik dia (girl) 1 thn 4 bln je...
n my son ni waktu baby bdn memang quite semangat... so byk baju2 dia yg pakai sekali @ 2 kali je.. masih baru lagi.. n masih lawa.. in fact ada 2 rompers yg dia tak sempat pakai.. hadiah dr ofismate hubby... coz da sendat.. ...

so persediaan utk my doter cuma basic2 je.. pampers bla bla.. baju pun cuma sy belikan romper sepasang... yg unisex.. coz tak sure boy @ girl.. then bila lahir baru belikan baju baby girl.. itupun tak berapa byk... coz byk pakai baju abg dia je... buat ape nak membazir... i think she look cute in her bro clothes...

her auntie n grandma lak cam seronok sgt.. bila shopping je mesti belikan baju utk my son n doter.. dah terlebih baju...

luv_ma

lum ada sec bby..

baby_ayang

stroller, car seat, walker semua keluarkan balik.. masih elok lg...
klau gambar memang byk gambar my son.. ye lah.. dia dah besar... nak masuk 2 thn.. so dah pandai bergaya...

pasal mkn plak.. my son dary baby memang kuat mkn mkn.. n senang nak bagi mkn.. dulu tiap2 hari masak bubur sendiri... hantar nursery.. no nestum @ process food.. all fresh...

sampai kat my doter.. seksanya nak bagi mkn... now da lapan bulan.. masa 7 bln baru i bagi makan... now sehari sekeping biskut farley.. itupun susah nak abihkan... klau bg bubur nasi menangis2 sambil ketap mulut tak nak mkn.... tension btul.. last2 suap kat mulut abg dia... tp dia memang kuat nyusu... still breasfeed kan dia... bdn kuat n tegap cuma kurang skit lah dari body abg dia masa baby..

Shahir

First son is always mommy's fav...
Ni yg slalu hubby ku mentions to his mom...
menginga jer MIL ku...