3 Years old...I can do it myself!!!!

honeybee1802 · Post time 21-7-2007 05:05 PM

adusss...i know it's good...but all he wants to do by himself....paling tensen nak buat susu sendiri lgk...tak pasal2 gaduh plak kat dapur..haku plak hormon tak baper betul skang ..aiyarkk...
tp kalo mintak tolong dia...like antar bj dia yg dah lipat ke bilik..takmoh plak tuh...he wants to do what he really wants to do!tp pg td angin aku relaks skit...aku tgh msk2 bj dlm mesin..then on the way dia dtg kat aku nak bwk jugak..aku ksk skit..then dia letak dlm mesin...aku tolong dia msskkan sabun sbb botolnya berat, yg nih dia willing nak aku tolong bautkan plak...tau pun berat...hehe..then i let him set the machine...dia pun dah hapal kot..sbb selalu tgk..fuhhhh....korang mcm mana?mcm mana kita nak ckp kat dia..that he can do certain things by himself..but ada mende he must let us settle it?

mder · Post time 21-7-2007 09:49 PM

sama ngan anak jantan aku yg 3 tahun tu........kalau nak buang sampah kita kena angkat dia and he will throw the rubbish to the bin........same goes pegi atm machine.....dia nak tekan.....bayar tol, bayar parking...........
   pegi beli grocery......1st receipt for credit card aku sign.....customer punya receipt nak kena sign.........everytime .....
   tapi ada bagus gak.......kalau air tumpah kat atas lantai.....dia gi amik tisu and lap sendiri........
   nak bagitau anak yg tak pandai cakap........certain things we must do our selves.....memang agak susah la.......as long as tak membahayakan let it be la.....

my-alja · Post time 23-7-2007 11:13 AM

tu yg asalnya, org created the terrible twos....the phase of being independent....

tapi berbeza gak ikut kesediaan anak...bandingkan anak pertama dgn kedua, ...yg pompuan nie lagi berdikari berbanding siabang

midori88 · Post time 23-7-2007 11:34 AM

kalu dah dibiasakan dia camtu..maka jadi camtu lah..tell him whose the boss lah..

si bulat · Post time 23-7-2007 11:39 AM

biase lah tu kot budak2 umur 3 - 4 thn nih..
sume bende nak buat sendiri...

anak bulat cam tu gak..
pakai baju nak pakai sendiri..
bukak pintu keta nak bukak sendiri...
bile tak leh tu mule lah...
mengamuk...

budak2...

Show all posts · Post time 23-7-2007 02:55 PM

Macam anak azue 3 tahun nak masuk 4 thn.. pun sama jugak lah.. susu nak buat sendiri.. mula temper gak tp teringat iklan TV wardina ajar anak dia masukkan susu dlm botol, so azue pun ikut sama lah ajar... sabar aje....

Kalau pasal bersiap pulak, my girl semua buat sendiri.. especially kalau mandi, pakai baju.. semua siap sendiri. My girl siap ada bakul tempat letak barang2 makeup dia, bedak, dedorant, Vicks, baby losyen, baby oil, minyak wangi azue punya pun now dah jadi hak dia. lepas abis pakai baju, terus bawak bakul tu depan TV sambil pakai satu-satu... step by step. pakai bedak, losyen tangan sapu sampai kaki, lutut, tapak kaki.. pakai dedoran kat ketiak. baby oil kat leher, last sekali bawak minyak wangi pd azue sbb dia tak kuat nak picit minyak wangi tu....

lepas tu dia akan simpan balik bakul tu kat dlm bilik.. very dispilinnyaaaa... mama nya pun de lah teratur cam tu.. kalau nak keluar jenjalan pulak siap minta nak pakai lipstick.. cam tulah my girl...

mder · Post time 23-7-2007 03:26 PM

Originally posted by midori88 at 23-7-2007 11:34 AM
kalu dah dibiasakan dia camtu..maka jadi camtu lah..tell him whose the boss lah..

I wish it is that easy.......ntah ler.....part of me mungkin tak sampai hati...... lagipun buang karan jer kalau budak jenis tahan sakit.......kalau kena ekzos moto tak habaq......forget it nak guna force.......cuma kena channel dia punya energy tu safely........

midori88 · Post time 24-7-2007 01:41 PM

maksud aku bukan guna force cam pukul, cubit or yg seangkatan dengannyer..tapi bila bersuara tu biarlah tegas skit..make sure masa ko ckp tu dia kasi perhatian kat ko..then slowly ko try reason ngan dia..why ko takmo dia wat semua tu..budak2 nie walaupun kecik diorg nie biasanyer memahami..

my-alja · Post time 24-7-2007 01:59 PM

kalo selagi benda tu tak menyusahkan mak dia(myself)...ok aje

kalo setiap kali nak masuk touch n go...nak kena angkat anak nak touch the card...i think i will "piat" the ear....hahahaah

me masih takleh nak paham sesetangah mak/ayah boleh pandang ringan anak tak guna seat belt dlm kereta...alasan anak buas, anak refuse ...those are not in my list as a parent....

mder · Post time 24-7-2007 02:51 PM

anak aku memang duduk dalam car seat...... tapi sampai kat toll memang dia nak kena buat........
aku penah citer dalam forum ni dulu.......masa my wife dalam maternity leave dulu, every weekend.....dari SP nak sampai PG, mau 3 kali berenti tepi jalan nak bpasang balik seat belt lepas toll....
tentang anak buas, anak takleh diajar ni, i reserve my judgement la.....to any parent out there.......kalau perangai semua sepesen and predictable maybe senang citer.......the most important thing, as parent we should strive to provide a safe environment......
sometimes freak accident can happen, i can attest to that.......my house dah laam dah we dismantle katil.......still terjadi one case dia nak turun tilam tersembam ke plastic container containing diapers.........dah 4 jahitan dalam mulut........

my-alja · Post time 24-7-2007 05:13 PM

takpelah...dugaan utk kita...

cuba cek2 balik..u dulu cemana

..org kata, anak kita suka immitate mak/ayah masa kecik....heheheh

nashra · Post time 24-7-2007 07:09 PM

Originally posted by mder at 24-7-2007 02:51 PM
anak aku memang duduk dalam car seat...... tapi sampai kat toll memang dia nak kena buat........
aku penah citer dalam forum ni dulu.......masa my wife dalam maternity leave dulu, every we ...

cakap pasal jatuh katil ni anak2 nash pernah experience jatuh katil..

sudahnya nash pun bentang tilam buat sementara waktu..

about car seat, kadang2 pasang..bila tak pasang tu nash ensure aje anak2 buckle up seat belt..

ok ke macam tu?

derang pun lebih selesa duduk atas kerusi kereta tu berbanding car seat..tak la mengamuk2..ke sebab sakit punggung ke dok lama2 dlm tu ek?

basikalgirl · Post time 25-7-2007 09:12 AM

biasala budak2 kut.. diorang nampak ape yang kita buat sume best2.. jadi derang teringin nak buat jugak.. kadang2 diorang tak suka dilayan macam baby, so they tends to do what adults do.. normal kut.. kadang2 saya teringin nak tahu, what are babies thinking masa diorang tak buleh bercakap.. kenapa perangai cam ni dan kenapa perangai cam tu.. macam menarik jek..

honeybee1802 · Post time 25-7-2007 10:56 AM

fuh...pasal buat susu settle dah skit...haku suh dia lap after sepah2 tuh..
midori...pasal disiplin..huhuhuh...kalo ngan bapak dia mmg sekali jeling jek...tunduk trusss...skang nih dah tau plak...nak beli sesuatu kena ada duit..fuh..dia pk mak ayah dia alwiz ada duit..tp nih haku dah bg lesson weekend ari tuh...

nashra · Post time 25-7-2007 02:24 PM

Originally posted by basikalgirl at 25-7-2007 09:12 AM
biasala budak2 kut.. diorang nampak ape yang kita buat sume best2.. jadi derang teringin nak buat jugak.. kadang2 diorang tak suka dilayan macam baby, so they tends to do what adults do.. normal ...

ku suka tengok documentary pasal baby ni..

mengkaji tentang baby gitu..

kadang2 ada benda yang kita tak tau then bila tengok tu baru la tau why anak2 acted like that..

KakFie · Post time 26-7-2007 01:39 AM

Looking from the bright side...syukur banyak-banyak sebab development wise your son is PERFECTLY NORMAL. Waktu umur tu memang budak-budak nak jadi independent...nak act as adult....pretend play...role modelling... At that age, ada jugak kanak-kanak yang tak boleh nak buat segala benda sendiri...they need occupational therapist to assist them to help themselves.

So kalau honey tensen tensen tu...tengok from a different perspective...just to stay sane.

How to handle?  Set the boundary.
Firmly bagitau dia apa dia boleh buat dan apa dia tak boleh dan kenapa tak boleh.  Sebab berat, sebab panas etc.
Kalau dia kurang faham verbally, lebih baik biiar dia pegang benda berat dan benda ringan as comparison contohnya...biar dia rasa sendiri.
Tunjuk pada dia consequences kalau dia pegang benda berat...benda tu tumpah ke atau pun dia sendiri jatuh sebab imbalance ke..Then dia tahu sama ada dia capable atau tak.
Dia just nak explore to test his limits.  Kalau kita tak bagi terus lagi dia curios nak tahu...takut belakang kita dia buat apa-apa lagi bahaya.  So its a good opportunity untuk guide dia insyAllah.

Bunyi macam senang ek?

It demands a lot of patience....sabarrrr.....

midori88 · Post time 26-7-2007 08:47 AM

yup betul tu..selagi tak menyusahkan mak dia..orait arr..nie mak dia dok layankan budak tu..naik tocang lah dia..

midori88 · Post time 26-7-2007 08:53 AM

hehe..eloklah tu..patutnyer masa dia tgh lap2 tu..ko "skolah" kan dia skit..sbb nanti jadi sepah2 camnielah ko takmo dia tolong..hehe..

mder · Post time 26-7-2007 09:57 AM

well said....

mummydhani · Post time 26-7-2007 09:49 PM

agree wit kak fie
it requires lots & lots o patience (sumthing which sumtimes i dun hav that much

)
my soon-to-be 3-y-old saaaaaaaaaangat la independent & kdg2 berani x bertempatnye... tp 2 me, selagi x mudaratkn diri sdiri, ikut die la... bile nmpak dh kronik & he couldnt fix the crisis, then only i'll step in
most o the time if i ckp "NO" but he woudnt listen, i just let him be... like lifting a heavy book ke, sipping a hot soup ke... let him xperience & realise himself that he has limits... then br die blaja...
tp kdg2 die tau he shudnt do certain things like turning off tv while mommy's njoying her fav show or throwing away his flash cards like nobody's bisnes... yg ni btul2 testing the water... haha...
kids... wat do we xpect kan?