Macam mana nak tahu suami gay?

osizn

a'aa... sentiasa bersangka baik dgn husband...  

tp dlm kepala ni terngiang2 lagi soalan dia ari tu : "kalau i ckp i suka lelaki, u still nak kat i?"



kenapa perlu tanya soalan2 mcm ni???

osizn

smlm mak saya bwk jumpa sorg ustaz. Ustaz kata saya dan suami terkena buatan org.
sbb itulah suami saya takboleh jumpa saya, taknak sentuh saya dan taknak balik rmh.
boleh percaya ke?

mak kata benda2 halus ni ada. dlm Al-Quran pun ckp benda ni wujud.
kalau ikutkan kronologi kami dari start couple, tunang, kawin; suami saya start berubah lepas bertunang, dan kwn2 ofis tau kami couple lepas kami bertunang.
Saya tak menuduh sapa2 tp mmg ada kwn ofis yg tak suka kami bersama. sebulan sebelum kawin, saya ditukarkan ke dept lain tanpa ada alasan konkrit. dan saya penah dgr kwn ofis berkata2, nak tgk sejauh mana marriage kitorg ni boleh bertahan.

cuma yg menjadi tanda tny, kalau dibuat org, kenapa mesti ada ciri2 ke arah homo?

raeshad

Originally posted by osizn at 24/6/08 03:36 AM
smlm mak saya bwk jumpa sorg ustaz. Ustaz kata saya dan suami terkena buatan org.
sbb itulah suami saya takboleh jumpa saya, taknak sentuh saya dan taknak balik rmh.
boleh percaya ke?

TAK boleh percaya seratus peratus. but that's just me. i can't force everyone to think like me.

just baca beberapa pages je. tapi, i think i got the gist of the conversation.

cam kes kenanga ni, rasanya, terang2 dah confirm yg husband u mmg gay. no physical connection for 7 years? even i would die.i'm not sure whether kenanga's issues' been resolved or not, tapi, bercerai rasanya memang langkah yg terbaik. both you and your child. tak bagi nafkah batin is still one of the legitimate reasons to divorce someone kan? you don't have to *find* @ *prove* that* he's a homosexual. you've shown that you can't handle the truth. you don't want to know the truth. understandable, tapi jangan biarkan masalah ni meleret. divorce cara baik, syarat mestilah, he still has to byr nafkah to you and your child. it's better to everyone involved, including you, your child, and your husband.

cam kes osizn ni, you didn't mention the ultimate point - your sex life [or even the lack of it]. i mean, kena clarify la - from how many years you've been married, how many of those years were the two of you intimate with each other? i mean, one would certainly know whether one's husband is gay or not through the way he physically connects with you, either sexually, or romantically. my advice is, don't let jealousy get the better of you.  

personally, i detest: any man who suspects that he's gay, but followed through with a marriage in the hope of correcting the gayness. this is just a sign of someone who's sellfish.

raeshad

Originally posted by ashy at 16/6/08 08:47 AM
Geram, sedih, marah, kesian gak dengar cerita kenanga...

takutnya jika ramai orang2 munafik spt lelaki-lelaki 'itu' di duniaini... sembahyang tak pernah putus tetapi menjadi pengikut kaum nabilut!!
banyak cerita kita dengar seseorang itu tongang tongenk sembahyang 5kali sehari tapi nafsu mereka songsang! yang tertipu adalah perempuanyang terpikan akan keimananya dan kebaikannya... kaum sebegini memangtak layak hidup, sedangkan haiwan sendiri tahu membezakan jantina,mereka lebih jijik dari segalanya! dahulu pun kaum ini telah dihukumAllah di telan bumi, dan sisa-sisa pengikutnya masih tak sedar-sedarlagi! tak de otak, tak boleh fikir sendiri apa akibatnya! hanya Allahakan membalas mereka dengan dosa yang dilakukan

can't help but to disagree.

1.

sembahyang tak pernah putus tetapi menjadi pengikut kaum nabilut!!

- trust me, these people are better than some of those who are not.
2.

yang tertipu adalah perempuanyang terpikan akan keimananya dan kebaikannya

- this point is true. unfortunately.
3.

sedangkan haiwan sendiri tahu membezakan jantina,mereka lebih jijik dari segalanya!

- more than 1500 species in the world has homosexual behaviours. so, no, you *cannot* quote that fact.
4.

dahulu pun kaum ini telah dihukumAllah di telan bumi, dan sisa-sisa pengikutnya masih tak sedar-sedarlagi! tak de otak, tak boleh fikir sendiri apa akibatnya! hanya Allahakan membalas mereka dengan dosa yang dilakukan

i actually would not want to rebut this point as it's taking the name of religion, *but* if i were in a RSF board, I would say something like - *hail now, all the preachers who sermons people in front of them, while sinning at the back *

raeshad

Originally posted by demonagirl6 at 13/6/08 12:06 AM


yes...that's right..
tak semestinya semua bleh berubah..
that's why lam Islam hukuman bagi org laki gay tuh...
klu tak silap aku...berkurung lam bilik sampai mati

yes. you are correct. there are step-by-step mechanisms to go through things though, and that was only one of the many steps. [it's pretty much like the ex-gay movement in the states].

i know this, because 1. my understanding of the islamic law itself however limited it may be, and 2. i've a blogger friend from the middle east who's family did just that to his boyfriend. didn't work in the end though.

[ Last edited by  raeshad at 24-6-2008 10:01 AM ]

osizn

to answer your question:
penah try skali but no penetration. lepas tu no physical touch from him, sexually or romatically. try jgk seduce him, tp tak berjaya.
smpi hari ni, saya masih gadis. perkahwinan kami dah nak masuk setahun.

skarang saya bingung, tatau nak buat apa utk solve issue between us.

for the moment, saya biarkan dia sendiri; dah tak call, tak sms dan tak email dia. Dia tak balik rmh so kiranya mmg tak jumpa.
Harap2 kasih saya utk dia takkan pudar bak kata Imran Ajmain - Seribu Tahun -.

osizn

>> personally, i detest: any man who suspects that he's gay, but followed through with a marriage in the hope of correcting the gayness. this is just a sign of someone who's sellfish.

what do you mean by that? boleh explain tak.. hehehe nak jgk tau from guy's side. i presume u a guy kan? heheheh

kenapa lelaki nak test2 plak dia gay ke tak?

narvmarishka

hmm....speechless kita di buatnya...

ezer89

hmm..pasal isu ni ek? ok lh i boleh komen..cz i pun PLU jugak..i same je macam suami kenanga tuh..juz i blum kawin n still mude lg.. hmm..husband u dah kawin n ade anak..so i assume die bisex..tp i dunno klu after die kawin ngn u die more kepada lelaki yg membuatkan die dah bertukar dr bisex ke gay..dlm dunia gay,i xnafikan agk sush untuk u menjadi normal as usual klu u dah jd gay or bisex,sbb..klu u cube untuk jd normal punn..naluri u still ade untuk suke same jenis..i sdri hadapi mende nieh..n rate2 gay,jd gay sebab pernah kecewa ngn girl..tp husband u i xsure knp die jd cmtuh,mybe die ade pengaruh2 ngn kawan2 die dulu?! sebab gay akan berkawan sesame mereka..so ade possibility kat sini..ape yg i nk ckp kat sini,i sendiri mengaku yg sekarg even lelaki tu da kawin n ade ank mcm suami kenanga ni,still ade yg xberubah..so kenanga..u bawak2 lah berbincang or minx pendapat dr org yg pkar ke?!

rurouni_khairul

Sekadar selingan...satu lagu lawak untuk golongan gay....

Avenue Q - If you were gay

ROD
Aah, an afternoon alone with
My favorite book, "Broadway
Musicals of the 1940s."
No roommate to bother me.
How could it get any better than this?

NICKY
Oh,hi Rod!

ROD
Hi Nicky.

NICKY
Hey Rod, you'll never
Guess what happened to
Me on the subway this morning.
This guy was smiling at me and talking to me

ROD
That's very interesting.

NICKY
He was being real friendly,
And I think he was coming on to me.
I think he might've thought I was gay!

ROD
Ahem, so, uh, why are you telling me this?
Why should I care?
I don't care.
What did you have for lunch today?

NICKY
Oh, you don't have to get
All defensive about it, Rod...

ROD
I'm NOT getting defensive!
What do I care about some gay guy you met, okay?
I'm trying to read.

NICKY
Oh, I didn't mean anything by it, Rod.
I just think it's something we should be able to talk about.

ROD
I don't want to talk about it,
Nicky! This conversation is over!!!

NICKY
Yeah, but...

ROD
OVER!!!

NICKY
Well, okay, but just so you know

pisang_goreng

anta la pengintip..siasat..hehehe

ahmedinejad

pergh 6 tahun tak dapat, tapi takpe bagus jugak, buatnya dia layan laki pastu dia layan hang, tak ke dapat AIDS nanti, cerai aje la, anak2 je la risau, tapi ramai lagi duda yang baik2 kat luar tu

pisang_goreng

bincang dulu...tanya perkara sebenar
baru la beban tuh kurang...

andai kata dia betol2 gay mmg sah muktamat yg dia gay
minta fasakh la...

nak setia pada suami mcm tuh bt apa
xguna..da
la 6 thn x bg nafkah batin
elok sgt la tuh..

tp pepehal bincang dulu pasal
beban anda tuh...

mehmet

Respek u sbb simpan keburukan husband

FASAKH!!!!   undang2 ada tanak guna... tunjuk bukti gay...OR kata suami tak mampu....tunjuk bukti kat pejabat kadi sana....cari peguam...

tanak tuntut fasakh?? tanggung je aa,,biarkan anak anda mebesar dgn keadaan macam nih...

at least kalau fasakh ada chance lelaki lain ngorat anda, dan anak anda dpt bapak lain yg boleh guide dia....amin

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awak tak rapat ke dgn adik beradik/ipar sana tu?  cite aa kat diorg pada yg boleh dipercayai...tapi ada risiko gak aa...

Kalau anda jenis fight backk....try aa kanntoikan dia....pada adik beradik dia...
skrg nih dah takde dah buatan org,,,kalau org tu gila sek,,dia akan bantai,,tak kisah aa suka pompuan,,or suka laki2... fight back aa

raeshad

what i simply meant is just that:

"kalau llk, dah rase cam yg die ni tak sexually attracted kat pompuan langsung, buat apa nak kahwin semata-mata sbb terpaksa nk kahwin? aniaya kat bakal isteri die je kan?"

rae tak tahu psl fasakh or any syariah way that you can proceed over the matter legally, so, tak tau nk ckp nk buat apa kat u sbnrnyer.

tapi, in a way, ape yg mehmet tulis kat atas ni masuk akal gak. try and ask the help of his siblings. [your husband's] maybe they know personally agaknyer. u nvr know.

p/s:unless your husband is having an affair, i think you already know the answer to >> Is my husband gay?

renzokuken

amik iktibar drp kes anwar-saiful

kalau siteri boleh check bontot dier...tgk ader kesan lebam tak...

kalkeat

aku gay..hahahha...ala..kacang jek nak detect kan,syg mulut?..hehehe..kawin mmg utk cover line jek beb..mcm aku pn plan mcm tuh..tp,bile aku slow talk dgn kawan2 pasal awek aku sume..aku tak jadik..aku xnak seksakan diri die..so,better aku xkawin dari seksakan diri die..

so,bagi org yg bukan mcm aku, die kemungknan akan kawin dgn pompuan...tp,laki yg gay mmg kalo kawin susah nak ubah beb...aku dulu pernah buat dgn suami org..lama dah kisah nih...bapa tahun lepas...dorg dh kawin tp,suke lagi kt laki siap buat seks lagi..dulu pny kesah..jgn nak sensasikan

ctsueraya

comel arr lagu tue..kikikiki
lawak

kalkeat

lagu tuh ada ke mp3 die..hahahah..pantang nak download

sok_suci

sian kat akak ni....

hati2 ngan montot..

akak report je kat jabatan agama..

nti lama2 akak akan ter gay versi pompuan lak...


lg pun nanti dapat AIDS!!