How do you deal with your anger?

putumayam

Friends,

I dont know how to deal with this... Those who know me, they would know that I am not easily angered....cewahhh..... heheheheeh
lol

but when it comes to.....

budak kecik yg dah diberi segala2nya*** utk tak buat hal tapi still 'buat hal', I am hopeless laaa...:gila::gila::gila:

citer nya camni... my sweet cute little doter tu mmg la an angel most of the times.... TAPI is almost a monster when it comes to waking up in the morning for school! Eventhough she loves schooling, tapi from the time she wakes up(or we wake her up) till she is fresh after shower, MY LIFE IS A HAVOC!!!! I get angry easily with her moaning and rengekan, etc...nak suruh i mandikan la, suruh gosokkan gigi la, suruh mcm2 lagi laaa... since normally dia tak buat camtu as she is now dah independent, i become bengeng laaa....dah la pepagi plak tu... tak suka bising2 laaa... pastu yg kecik still sleeping!

so, my question is:

1. Should I stay angry with her until I see her next, so that she knows that I DONT LIKE her attitude in the morning
or
2. Should I act normal when she is okay, i.e. after shower... and forget my anger (something which is quite difficult for me to do)...

I donno laaa... pls help! What do I do to discipline this particular child of mine???

ps: I never had this problem with the older brother!:bgrin:


*** dulu i tot dia tak selesa panas tidur kat bilik dia and that it was the reason for her grogginess, so i dah settlekan masalah tuuuu..... n also sediakan whatever necessary so that dia tak kesejukan bila mandi.... tapiiii.....

kitikat

putu, aku takde experience, tp from experience kawan2, aku rase the best way to learn how to deal with this issue is thru khalifah parenting method.

tak silap aku ko boleh search kat net on this. ramai kwn2 yg jenis cepat ilang sabar dgn anak2, ikuti program nih, dpt handle their anger, and keluarga jadik harmoni and anak2 pun mcm lebih cerdik. tah la, giive it a try.

my-alja

Originally posted by putumayam at 19-1-2005 03:14 PM:
Friends,

I dont know how to deal with this... Those who know me, they would know that I am not easily angered....cewahhh..... heheheheeh
lol

but when it comes to.....

budak kecik yg  ...

salam

sama cam anak bujang nie aje.....kekadang me skip dia mandi..hihihihi nasib baik tgh winter..

me rasakan putu....you  kena cakap dgn dia clearly bila dia dah OK!...lets say after she's ready with her uniform...

kalau me cakap dgn akmal masa i dress him up...tanya dia kenapa i marah?..bila dia blurr...then i cakaplah apa yg perlu....

my fav. answer when he told me.." i don't like"...i said.." i don't care"...
end of story...nampak jahat..tapi percayalah dealing with this kind of situation everyday.....make me stress....:kant:

Delifrance

mmg stress le alja.....

aku tak sabar nak tunggu feedback lagi nih..
nak belajar jugak

hari 2 aku temper pagi2 sebab anak sulong aku mintak dukung tak mau jalan... tiap2 pagi mesti org leh dengar suara aku 'irfan! carry your own bag or i'll give your bag to your friends'

jap lagi..'irfan.. please.... kalau tak nak behave.. no more mr incredible.. no more spiderman..no more mcdonald..." .. tapi jalan kejap aje..jap lagi buat balik....

tu baru 3 tahun....moga2 tak membawak sampai ke besar... mau sakit otak akuu...

wakakakakakaka

my-alja

Originally posted by Delifrance at 19-1-2005 04:16 PM:
mmg stress le alja.....

aku tak sabar nak tunggu feedback lagi nih..
nak belajar jugak

hari 2 aku temper pagi2 sebab anak sulong aku mintak dukung tak mau jalan... tiap2 pagi mesti org leh d ...

salam

hohohoho...ko pon sama ye!....hihihihi

join the club..putu presiden!:lol

Zeeqa

saya pun ada anak problem nak bangun pepagi...mmg geram ... dah le pepagi sibuk ..nak buat itu ini...nak menangis..suruh gosok gigi suruh mandikan...last2 my hubby dok pujuk dia...lepas mandi ok pulak to...maybe tak cukup rehat kot...ntah la...tido mlm2 awal...anak saya ni tadika 5 tahun , bila tgk dia dah siap pakai baju ... "alah dah besar anak mama ni yerkk" masa ni menyesal lak marah dia tadi..huhuhu

jelitadangdut

Originally posted by putumayam at 19-1-2005 15:14:
Friends,

I dont know how to deal with this... Those who know me, they would know that I am not easily angered....cewahhh..... heheheheeh
lol

but when it comes to.....

budak kecik yg  ...

adeh..put...i had this same situation too....but with my son....doter alhamdullillah...she's very independent girl...w/pun sometimes...ada gak tergelincir dr list..things to do at night...cam packing all those her stuffs to nursery...tapi still leh buat aku sabar lagi...

tapi..my son...waduhhh...so hard to wake up early lah...almost every morning...aku akan baran tengok gelagat dia...org dah siap...dia tak bangun2 lagi....and never in the good mood...kalau dah bangun tu...

aku apa lagi...i talk to him nicely..pujuk2..tapi tak makan gak...then..masa tu..no more...thats it...aku ignore jer...baran dah dtg le tuh....and as usual...my hubby...akan amik dia...dukung...backing giler2 his only son....adeh....memang panas..:kant:..naik lemak terus budak tu....marah sket nangis...

selalunya...bila dah sampai stage ni...my hubby will do semua lah...mandikan dia..siapkan dia...aku tak pedulik suma tu lagi...and then hubby akan ckp kat aku..the same dialog that i use to hear every morning..."tak baik marah anak pagi2"......

tapi rasanya...dah ckp2 elok kat dia..at night...everbody has to wake up early in the morning...kena pegi sekolah...mama has to work..papa also..so nobody at home...kena pegi tadika...dia faham. dlm 2 3 hari tu..dia buat perangai lagi...

so far..i kena ikut kerenah dia...but i learned something...bila kita tak show anger kita tuh..i noticed...mood dia..cepat jer ok..so..kena sentiasa bersabar ngan ragam anak yg sorang nih.

putumayam

Aiyooooo.. haku kena jadik president kaaa???:stp::stp::stp:

mcm2 kerenah... so aku tak la alone with this problem... same here like jel, my hubby will take over bila dia tenguk my blood go upstairs! hehehehelol:lol


tu la yg i musykil... whether i nak tunjukkan kemarahan tu lelama so that dia paham yg i nih marah dng perangai dia, or be cool when she is cool....:hmm::hmm::hmm:

my-alja

Originally posted by putumayam at 19-1-2005 05:03 PM:
Aiyooooo.. haku kena jadik president kaaa???:stp::stp::stp:

mcm2 kerenah... so aku tak la alone with this problem... same here like jel, my hubby will take over bila dia tenguk my blood go upsta ...

salam

don't let her go with it...cakap dgn dia putu..biar dia dapat the message..

kalau me psiko sket akmal....me tak layan dia..sampai dia mintak mahap..(jahatkan aku)...and promise..tapi

janji tinggal janji ajelah...esok dia buat lagi:stp:

putumayam

Originally posted by my-alja at 19-1-2005 05:21 PM:


salam

don't let her go with it...cakap dgn dia putu..biar dia dapat the message..

kalau me psiko sket akmal....me tak layan dia..sampai dia mintak mahap..(jahatkan aku)...and promise. ...

same here la alja.... i dah gunakan pendekatan tu, skrg guna emotional appeal plak.... mcm tak berapa jln sgt aaaa....:cry::cry::cry:

bila dia ok siap salam cium tangan cium pipi cium dahi cium mulut mintak maap... pastu esok buat lagi! :kant::kant::kant:

Ice_Q

kak putu..:bgrin: mmg ada budak or kak budak yg ada masalah ngan nak bangun pagi (contoh terdekat ice lah) :bgrin: Tido dah cukup 8-12 jam, bilik sejuk..jam loceng dah berdering..tapi kalau tak dijerit & digendang-gendang pintu 2-3 kali mmg sahih tak bangun :bgrin: bukan dibuat-buat..natural..:bgrin: Sabar lah yer..:bgrin:

akubest

aku experience benda nih  tak lama....few days jek kot...sbb dia tak biasa bangun pagi....BUT dia tak mo aku mandikan dia or pakai baju dia.....mengamuk sakan!!!!

so besakler my darling hubby yg take over.....mmg minah tuh anak ayah...

aku tengok approach hubby aku lain skett...dia kejut pelan2....agak2 dia dah terbukak mata skett terus bwk dia gi bilik air.....so dalam keadaan blur gak ler..kena mandi.....pastu my hubby siapkan pakai baju.....lepas siap sepantas kilat bagi susu/ ribena (yg nih kena prepare before kejutkan dia lagi)....and apalagi pasang terus CHANNEL 63.....(konon cam rewarding ahhhh)..makanya umah aku berkumandanglah lagu.....JOJO...JOJO CIRCUS.....pepagi lagi.....

pastu aku nyer turn sikatkan, bedakkan.....pakai kasut...

TIPS: Cara nih tak menjadi kalau dia dah fully awake pasai dia nak main...pastu bila syok..mmg tanak mandi......contohnya pagi tadi

My_skina

[quote]Originally posted by putumayam at 19-1-2005 05:03 PM:
Aiyooooo.. haku kena jadik president kaaa???:stp::stp::stp:

:setuju::lol

rasanya saya tak keseorangan dalam menangani masalah 'anger management' ini...

riss_1688

hehehe..semua face same problem pagi2 ye..hehhe..me too..

aduhai...nk bangunkan dia satu hal...bila dah bangun, ajak gi mandi..asyik kejap le..kejap le..
jerit ler..cam mana pun..tak jalan...kena heret ke bilik air...pas tu hb take over mandikan dia...

ok lak ye..hb2 kita ni dlm bab ni kan?...:lol

nashra

sabar je la..adeh...kita pun tengah kutip pengalaman ibu2 di sini...

my turn tak tau lagik karenah cemana....:stp:

Originally posted by putumayam at 19-1-2005 03:14 PM:
Friends,

I dont know how to deal with this... Those who know me, they would know that I am not easily angered....cewahhh..... heheheheeh
lol

but when it comes to.....

budak kecik yg  ...

Like mother,like daughter.Maybe kot.:cak::cak::cak:

hanna1905

hehehe...me lain kisah plak...kalau bab mandi tu lepas...dah pass..

tapi bila bab nak pakai baju..alahaii...:gila: biol pala otak me jap..naknyer skg ni..kena pakai baju 2-3 lapis...

mau tak bekejar satu rumah ngan 2 monsters tu...heee...weekdays adalah saat yg paling menyeksakan...sbb pepagi kena antar kakak gi playgroup...

kalau dulu, kalau dah me ke tahap camni..nf:..me jerit satu rumah leh dgr..jln sekejap jer...pastu jadik balik..

so skg me tukar tektik..psycho dorang sket..bebuat sedih...kata dorang tak sayang kat me lagi...bla..bla..bla..

errr...buat masa ni so far still working tapi tak tau la nanti kot2 dah tak jln plak..ehehe..

bebop

Putu, masa bebaru bukak sekolah me pun faced de same problem.  Anak bujang malas bangun tidor dah tu kalau dia dah bangun dia gertak kita, kalau nak dia pergi sekolah, dia tak nak mandi.  Last year masa umur dia 5 tahun, dia pergi sekolah sampai end of September je, lepas tu dia langsung tak nak pergi sekolah.  Yg pelik nya bila kita bagi can kat dia tak yah gi sekolah, boleh lak bangun pagi.:geram:  This year dia dah 6 tahun, first day schooling punya lah susah nak pujuk dia pergi sekolah sampai janji ngan dia nak beli patung masked rider baru dia nak bangun tidor.  Tapi bila sampai tadika, i just antar sebab tengok dia ok.  So surprised!  Tetapi after 2 weeks schooling dia buat perangai lagi tak nak bangun pagi.  Aduh..... berpeluh-peluh pagi buta layan anak bujang sorang ni.  Pujuk lagi, tapi dia main gertak gak suruh beli patung mr. incredible (mahal nak mampus).  Barulah dia bangun tidur, dan tetap seperti biasa hanya salin baju tidur terus pakai baju sekolah. :malu:  Tak kisahlah janji dia nak pergi sekolah.

Tapi semenjak hari tu, alhamdullillah sehingga ke saat ini saya dah tak de problem kejut dia.  Dia suka saya kejut dia pukul 6.30 pagi sebab dia mesti nak tengok abang2 dia pergi sekolah.  Kesian gak kat dia sebab awal sangat tapi kalau saya lupa nak kejut dia, dia mengamuk sakan.  Dan yg paling saya terharu dia dah nak mandi pagi, siap shampoo rambut lagi. (Yg dulu dia memang pantang shampoo rambut dia yg kerenteng tu).  Harap-harap dia dah tak buat perangai lagi.  Tu lah dia, kekadang kita kena ikut kan jugak apa yg dia nak, bagi saya dari kita marah-marah sampai boleh dapat darah tinggi, baik kita ikut kehendak dia, then slowly kita nasihat dia masa dia tengah mood elok.

putumayam

Originally posted by Ice_Q at 19-1-2005 11:28 PM:
kak putu..:bgrin: mmg ada budak or kak budak yg ada masalah ngan nak bangun pagi (contoh terdekat ice lah) :bgrin: Tido dah cukup 8-12 jam, bilik sejuk..jam loceng dah berdering..tapi kalau tak dij ...

kak budak pun ada masalah ek....:no::no::no: hehehehhehehelol:lol
since ahkak ni tak pernah ada masalah camni la ahkak ni jadik kurang ngertik gitu! hahahhaha... si abang pun tarak kasi ini problemo wooo... i guess different kids have different style huh...:cool:

masa sekolah tadika tarak ini problemo sbb dia boleh lambat2 bangun... pukul 8.15 boleh melenggang kangkung ke sekolah.. sekarang nih dlm pukul 6.45am dah kena ready... tu yg lomah sikit kot....

kesian dia kan..kan... tapi kesian lagik mak dia! terpaksa melayan kerenah siputeri pepagi hari :kant::kant::kant:

hehehehhehelol:lol

putumayam

Originally posted by akubest at 20-1-2005 08:25 AM:
aku experience benda nih  tak lama....few days jek kot...sbb dia tak biasa bangun pagi....BUT dia tak mo aku mandikan dia or pakai baju dia.....mengamuk sakan!!!!

so besakler my darling hubby yg ...

good idea gak tu....

cuma....

dia nak jugak mak dia yg handlekan dia! sama papa mcm kureng skit kecuali bila mak dia dah naik angin satu badan! (takde choice la tuuuu:cak::cak

:bgrin: