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nak share 1 story...
baru balik dari kenduri.... so of course jumpa sedara mara sepupu sepapat ba ...
cn7 Post at 3-4-2011 22:34 
bagi i tu bukan hyper.....tu paranoid....
i ada kawan yg mcm ni...asik duk citer yg best2 jer pasal anak2 dia..takder la yg best kecuali best2 dan hebat2 belaka....i mcm u jugak...layan jer la..dgr jer la apa yg dia nak ckp..sambil tu boleh tgk...mostly apa yg dia ckp tu byk kebohongan dr yg betul..hehehe
p/s: alja & cn7 untung u all eventho ur mum is hyper parent..at least there is something to talk abt and remember her.... |
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Reply my-alja
Kat Malaysia pulak senario lebih kurang sama... i tengah baca buku yang Mahathir ...
cn7 Post at 2-4-2011 16:47 
lawyer biasanya pandai jual diri....bagi org percaya, so agaknya memang satu line dgn politik kot
budak2 sains nie tak pandai jual diri, cam robot saja....sama sajalah engineer, saintis..etc
i baca salah satu artikel pasal Tun, dia belajar bercakap kat public ...bila nak serve the purpose of being politician
kiranya, dia buat sebab KENA buat....(bagus kann)...where as lawyer is kind of inborn talent, naturally...
tu sebab tun kalo cakap lain macam ....very sharp and sarcastic |
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Reply my-alja
betulkan.... tapi nasib baik my dad penyelamat keadaan...
cn7 Post at 2-4-2011 16:52
untung kita kann.....
tp kebanyakkan pamili camni kot...salah sorang mesti active to balance the act |
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Do you all reward your kids when they did well in their exams?
Does the value of the reward coinc ...
cn7 Post at 2-4-2011 17:04
HYPER lah....kalo anak baru grad kindy, anak dah dapat iphone sebijik
doesn't make sense parents nowadays.... ...tapi susah nak jentik kesedaran pd mak/ayah camni
kebanyakan BANGGA sebab dia mampu...i kekadang rasa, ramai btol mak/ayah malaya nie
perasan dia kaya, perasan dia kebal dr hukum putaran kehidupan...hapa-hapa lah
kalo reward hanya nak keep up the good deeds, appreciation pd usaha dia ok laa
berpada-pada, tengok pd kesesuaian usia, kematangan anak...bukan hanya tgk pd tahap kemampuan
kalo anak kindy dah dapat iphone sebijik, korang rasa kalo dia habis SPM...apa hadiah kena bagi?
takkan dia happy dapat laptop?....pastu baru nak marah2 anak sekarang tak reti susah...lorrr
semalam camtu lah, kami ...myself, mak2 sedara lain dgn nenek duk belasah anak buah/cucu kat umah tu
katanya nak kahwin, ...duit takde, dah beli kete plak..padahal kete dia sendiri(dah habis bayar) bagi tunang pakai
yg dia punya motor kena curi, nak beli motor plak utk gi keje....i duk terpikir, kenapa dia beli kete at 1st place
ini utk rakyat2 marhein k....nak kumpul rm20k utk lansungkan perkahwinan bukan keje mudah
teruk dia kena leter semalam.... |
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i ada kawan yg mcm ni...asik duk citer yg best2 jer pasal anak2dia..takder la yg best kecuali best2 dan hebat2 belaka....i mcm ujugak...layan jer la..dgr jer la apa yg dia nak ckp..sambil tu bolehtgk...mostly apa yg dia ckp tu byk kebohongan dr yg betul..hehehe
hanna1905 Post at 4-4-2011 00:47
hehe...u are mean, hanna...
dia bukan bohong, dia cuma exaggerated
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i pun ada sorang kawan camni, dia pun kategori hyper...dan anak2 dia semuanya hyper like her
tapi tu lah, like i said before...sebab 2-2 laki bini result oriented, anak2 pun sama...sgt cemerlang!
konflik tu mungkin takde dlm keluarga tapi dgn kawan2....
i sendiri malas nak jumpa sgt makcik nie, nak buat aktiviti dgn dia...sebabnya, anak2 mesti kena lebih, mesti menang
main utk happy2 pun, end up with tears....apa ntah lagi kalo main utk lawan2, ...serius ya amat
lelama aku yg stress....
pernah sekali dia ngaku anak dia terlebih dos self-esteem, i kata dgn dia....contoh2 depan mata, the parents
tak pernah tunjuk sifat mengalah, sifat tolenrasi...cemana anak2 tu nak belajar?
susah kan jadi parents |
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Reply 201# hanna1905
p/s: alja & cn7 untung u all eventho ur mum is hyper parent..at least there is something to talk abt and remember her....
how about you yourself kak Hanna? Any stories/hands on experience with your mum? Sorry la if sensitive question cuz i baru kenal u dalam forum, so i'm not sure. |
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Reply 201# hanna1905
p/s: alja & cn7 untung u all eventho ur mum is hyper parent..at least there is something to talk abt and remember her....
my mum selalu tanya, bila umi tak der di dunia ni, what will you miss about me the most?
my answer, firstly ...your cooking. esp your rendang (which until now none of my siblings or sedara mara can NEVER cook like she did. Sekali masak time raya, 15kg daging, 5kg limpa tau)! Jenuh nak mengacau & tunggu santan kering!)
no 2, how you would go all the way for the name of education. yang ni, i sendiri pun tak pasti if i boleh ikut ker tak.... |
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Reply 201# hanna1905
dan hebat2 belaka....i mcm u jugak...layan jer la..
hehehe...part layankan ni kan kak, kadang2 i bagi dia 'up' lagi.... bagi dia terawang2 bila nak membangga diri tu... apasal ek seronok layan org2 macam ni? |
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Reply 202# my-alja
lawyer biasanya pandai jual diri....bagi org percaya, so agaknya memang satu line dgn politik kot
masa i try to convince my dad to let me do law, and he didnt let me., i asked him to give me 10 good reasons why i shouldnt.
he said, he only need to give me 1 reason, and that's enough.
lawyer ni, it doesnt matter whether client dia tu buat salah atau tak. whether he did it or not. But with the evidence yang ada or tak ada, he can prove someone wrong or right. habis2, reasonable doubt. That's why after that he stopped practising.
but, of course there's 2 sides kan. the good & the bad lawyer. bila i cakap dengan my friends yang lawyer, one is not guilty until he's proven so.
so the challenge is for the opposition to PROVE his guilty. |
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Reply 205# my-alja
korang rasa kalo dia habis SPM...apa hadiah kena bagi?
yang ni i boleh teka.... KERETA? |
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Reply 206# my-alja
dah puji anak sendiri, tak pe laa...yg duk kutuk anak2 org lain tak cam anak2 dia?
waaaaa  yang ni i pernah kena jugak, but with 1 particular aunty jer la... anak i kira pangkat cucu dia la, and dia ada cucu yang sebaya my son. asal kenduri or family gathering jer kan, i dah bagitahu my hubby & my mum awal2 dah, apa pulak la yang tak kena dengan Zaf kali ni. apa la komen dia kali ni, terkurang mana, terlebih mana.
awal2 dulu, i memang depressed lepas jumpa aunty i ni... anak i in terms of physical development, cepat, by 9 months dah boleh berlari berjalan dah, tapi tang speech, lambat sikit berbanding cucu dia (1.5 years macam tu), but if i refer to the milestone chart The First Few Years tu, he's still in normal range. Then aunty i ni suh i antar jumpa doktor or speech therapist, dia kata budak2 kadang2 ada yang dilahirkan dengan lidah pendek (physical abnormalities) or neurological abnormalities, when my son is only 1.5 years!
bawak jumpa specialist, paeds kata need not to worry. You only start to worry when by 3-4 years dia still tak boleh bercakap baru come & see me..
fuhhh lega... |
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Reply 211# cn7
i guess...keje apa2 pun cn7, peluang sentiasa ada
semalam pecah kisah pasal kastam songlap duit 108 billion
my mom citer, dulu2 masa my dad jadi askar...sesapa kejenya bawak trak
mesti kaya, sebab duk curi petrol dan jual kat org awam...
cam tu gak yg keje kat dapur2 askar....anak2 bini montel dpt extra bekalan
sama gak bila i jadi auditor dulu, org hired kita utk report...mestilah tulis baik2 punya
kalo tak kena belasah dgn boss....w/pun akaun messy bagai nak giler...
apa ye nak kata, mintaklah keberkatan dr Allah...jauhi benda2 camni
kalo tak sedar, kita pun sentiasa terdedah....antara sanggup dgn tidak saja, iman saja bentengnya
takutnyaa.... |
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Reply my-alja
waaaaa yang ni i pernah kena jugak, but with 1 particular aunty jer ...
cn7 Post at 4-4-2011 10:03
i pun ada pengalaman cam tu....tapi dah sejarah daa
lama2 kenal akak tu, i tahu dia memang jenis takleh kalah....
somi-isteri sama pesen, sampai sekarang sebenarnya...jadi bahan gurau kawan2 rapat
sekolah anak dia the best, swimg coach anak dia the best, keluarga dia the best...kete dia the best
nak lihat dr sudut positif, bagus gaklah....dia jarang citer benda2 buruk which is good for me
tapi kekadang annoying bila dia cuma justify BEST tu sampai org lain semua tak best cam dia
my hubby selalu gak bantai kawan tu, ..."ye laaa...ko sorang je boleh pikir!...
hahaha...irkoniknya, kawan tu laaa yg duk mintak nasihat my hubby ...
kekadang bila tgk org2 camni....kita kena belajar, muhassabah diri...peringatan pd diri
life is a journey, kutip segala jenis pengalaman dr org2 keliling....dan adjust diri sendiri
tu yg paling susah nak buat, ubah diri sendiri |
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Reply 214# my-alja
sama gak bila i jadi auditor dulu, org hired kita utk report...mestilah tulis baik2 punya
kalo tak kena belasah dgn boss....w/pun akaun messy bagai nak giler...
all this while kan kak alja, when u said u were a lecturer before, i tot u have a degree in psychology ker, anthropology ke, social science ker, philosophy ker...sebab bila u bagi posting kan, ala2 deep meaning dia. i have to read 2-3 times to get the point. Sebab i have to read between the lines. Orang2 macam akak ni, mana ada tulis simple2, what u read is what i mean cenggitu...
kadang2 i duk perah otak i, is she saying this or is she saying that.... pastu tak masuk tang nak digest. kadang2 i tengah mandi ker, tengah nak tidur ker, i akan pikir balik what u wrote, then try to relate on many things in life.... |
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Reply 215# my-alja
tgk mood gak laa....kalo mood tgh baik, i bagi dia "up"
kalo mood i buruk, kena gaklah.......t
i wish i boleh kenakan dia balik. But she's my aunty, kang dapat pulak cop derhaka or kurang ajar kat dahi i ni....
tapi i rasa org2 macam ni, wont just stop at cucu. akan ader jer yang lain lebih hebat, lebih bagus, lebih lah segala2nya.
my hubby selalu perli i balik, kata debater University tapi dengan aunty sendiri kecut perut.
eih, ni bukan kecut perut la. ni... respect ok. as my dad always say, when it comes to elder people, it doesnt matter whether you're right or wrong. That's no 2. No 1 is, respect.
kalau i geram ke menaham perasaan ker, habis2 luah kat hubby or my dad, pastu buat bahan lawak & kutukan balik la.... my hubby bagus tang imitate org bercakap ni |
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Reply 218# cn7
oo....yesss, dgn org2 tua....bagilah peluang kann
i pun camtu gakk, gelak kan aje.... |
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Post time 4-4-2011 12:47 AM
