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Mengupas perasaan isteri/suami yang ada affair
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Reply #180 iman311006's post
wpon aku tkde pengalaman2 gini...
tp pendpt aku la, lebey baek ko g consult owang dkt pejabat agame...
mende ni bkn bleh dibuat main...
sbb dh masuk kes nk pukul2...dh la ade affair, tkmo ngaku..pastu nk kontrol n pukul isteri plak, mintak gugurkn anak lagik??eeee ape punye manusie la
ko kene jugak g consult owang agame since kuarge ko sendrik pn dh tkmo masuk campur....
tkkan ko nk biarkn je mende ni jd gini....
kalo tanye owang jbtan agame ni, die tau hukum hakam n care nk buat kalo ade masalah gini..
[ Last edited by lin_okinawa at 20-9-2007 10:43 AM ] |
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Reply #180 iman311006's post
kesiannya iman...menitis airmata mama membaca kisah iman.. Tu lah kadang2 kita rasa dugaan kita yang paling teruk, tapi sebenarnya ada org yang lebih teruk dari kita kan.. Mama harap iman sabar dan tabah menghadapi dugaan ni.
kenapa family suami tak tau dia dah bernikah dengan iman? iman tak pegi jumpa family dia ke?,,biar family dia tau...sebab iman adalah isteri dia yang sah..
mama juga setuju dgn cadangan lin tu..p lah ke pejabat agama..minta nasihat dari dia orang. walaupun kita tak blh harap sangat dia orang tu..sebab masalah kita..kita sendiri yang lebih tau. lagi satu kalau suami kita tu EGO dia tinggi..mesti dia lagi mengamuk nanti.
Apa2 pun mama harap iman teruskan bersabar (sebab hanya itu yng kita ada....) dan banyak2 berdoa pada Allah. Dibulan ramadhan ini..masa berdoa yang paling mustajab ialah semasa berbuka dan bersahur..so berdoa lah banyak2 apa yang iman hajatkan.. |
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mrscarlos This user has been deleted
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Originally posted by mrscarlos at 20-9-2007 01:15 PM 
Wow..topic nis mmg mengimbas kenangan lama....luka yg nak sembuh bagai nak tercalar balik.. i have been in this situation b4. My ex hubby bual hal...dari chat & sms hingga stage having an affair. ...
hhuhuuhu..that's the way to go! i selalu pikir...kalau tak happy, wat apa nak hang around lagi kan. start over with somebody else. ni duk la suh kita bersabar2...sampai bila??? biar mamat je happy, kita biar sengsara?? tak yah la. |
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Reply #184 mrscarlos's post
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actually my hubby pun dah lafazkan talak...tp masa tu sbb kami bergaduh pasal pempuan tu n i force him ceraikan i...lpas tu dia dah kuar dari rumah smpai i hbs pantang dia dtg cari i balik...so sekarang kami serumah n hb masih dgn perangai lama...apa hukum nya yer.... |
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Originally posted by iman311006 at 20-9-2007 02:30 PM
actually my hubby pun dah lafazkan talak...tp masa tu sbb kami bergaduh pasal pempuan tu n i force him ceraikan i...lpas tu dia dah kuar dari rumah smpai i hbs pantang dia dtg cari i balik...so s ...
setahu saya talak tetap jatuh even dlm keadaan aper pun melainkan gila.. sbb tu dah dikata talak bukan benda main2..
kalau husband u dah lafaz.. kenapa x report dulu. sahkan dulu.. baru stay on balik kalau nak!!!
jgn buat main2 benda macam nie.. |
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Reply #184 mrscarlos's post
Kalau ikutkan hati..memang tak nak kasi muka lagi..tapi ingatkan anak2 dan kita sendiri masih sayang kat dia...macamana?...
Macam mama sekarang, husband ada call..beritau dia rindu..dan hati mama cair. tapi mama tau, kalau kami jumpa..mesti mama akan ungkit lagi..dan dia akan sakit hati. mama memang nak forgive-forget-erase tu..tapi hanya blh forgive aje..cannot forget dam erase...
lagi satu, mama takut dia akan buat lagi..........
tolonglah... |
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tu yg susah...bila dah sekali buat...the relationship will never be the same again...kita will forever doubt dia...sure suspicious memanjang...tuh camana nak happy lagi? dia rimas, kita pun rimas dgn kepala hotak kita. tu yg mamat2 seme ni degil...jgn jadik SEKALI pun....mende akan rosak selama2nya. |
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Reply #189 mamalin's post
betul tu mama biasa nya kita nih bleh forgive... tapi susah nak forget pe lai nak meng'erase'... bila datang time bengong normally nak pms lah.. hehe menda2 tu dok rewind2 lam kepala otak.. tetiba bleh bad mood.. heheh... |
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Reply #189 mamalin's post
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betul tu mama biasa nya kita nih bleh forgive... tapi susah nak forget pe lai nak meng'erase'... bila datang time bengong normally nak pms lah.. hehe menda2 tu dok rewind2 lam kepala otak.. tetiba bleh bad mood.. heheh... |
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this is my own true story...
it started 5 months back...tak tau lah nak cakap macam mana...i admit that i wasnt a good wife before but yet i am trying now to be a better person and changing in order to become a good wife tho not the best which i hope one day i might...
one fine day..i ingat lagi hari tu...it was on 21/4/07..hubby balik lmbt n he didnt tell me where he was...i was a bit pissed off ..sbb dia tak call nor bother to sms me where he was. so when he came back, we had a fight..and unfortunately mulut jahat i ni halau dia kuar from umah (fyi - we r staying wit my parents)...he tried to pursuade me but my ego defeats all and kebetulan lak dia kna gi kerja...i did my household work n at the same time i tried to cool down myself n tot of making up to my hubby later..tapi dia tak balik n he x even sms i...by evening i dah mcm org gila cari dia all over the places, sms him, called him n yet he x reply nor call me...finally dah dekat malam he smsed me n told me that hes fine n he will come back 2moro to c me and he just need some space on his own.
he came back tomorrow, tp i can feel the coldness thr..things were x t same again...eventho i tried very hard to make it back to normal..but i just feel that dia tak....
i promised him that i'll change and i akan jaga mulut i spy tak bisa lagi..n yes i managed to do that...but of cos to a certain extend..i manusia biasa jer...kdg2 tu terlepas juga but not as laser as before..slowly our r'ship back to normal...but one thing has changed..he put a security password to his phone n obviously i cant access his phone anymore....fm the moment on i know that he has changed and yet...i told myself tak per..this thing happened bcos of my fault...so i hv to find solutions to work things out back to norm.
eventually one fine sunday, we went out for a movie..n somehow dgn allah taala punya kuasa, dia tgh beratur beli drinks...i pat dia kat blakang n eventually hes dialling that gal number....menggeletar kaki tangan i ..rasa nak tumbang masa tu jugak...hati i remuk rendam..hancur....
he was angry with me and kata kat i that jom balik since i suka sgt spy dia...he wasnt in a mood for a movie...i diam jer...i tak nak bertengkar....i've changed that t things that i want to prove to him..kalau dulu...mesti kitaorg akan fight dekat ctu jugak...
i pujuk dia cakap sudah la...jom masuk dalam n tgk movie..since i want to spent an evening with him...lepas tu..we went for a drive..n i told him...what i felt..n at nite...he confessed to me that yes he's havin t relationship with her...and he asked me time to setlle all this..
it all started when they first bcome adik n abg n later on upgrade to bestpren and after that they crossed the line..bila my hubby ni selalu ceta pasai 'so called keburukan' i...n obviously bila i tanya my buruk is only my mouth..n the rest of the thin is fine..except for one or two things...so this gal jd tempat luahan....
eventually time goes by..and fyi - i tak serang her nor maki dia..or anything...all i do is nothing...i let things go by...tapi hati i hancur sangat...its so hard tapi i managed to go thru this....
i wasnt my self for t first 3 weeks...i lost my appepite and i lost weight drasticlly til e'one notice that i jadi kurus...i memang big size pun...tapi nampak sgt muka i jadi panjang...
my hubby said that he needs time to let go of her卆nd all he asked fm me is my patience匢 dah sabar sampai la sekarang..the moment I type ni |
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Originally posted by elaiza at 21-9-2007 11:44 AM
this is my own true story...
it started 5 months back...tak tau lah nak cakap macam mana...i admit that i wasnt a good wife before but yet i am trying now to be a better person and changing in ...
kenapalah problem u nie lebh kurang mcm saya.. still patience until today.. cuma part worst.. kita org bertiga keje so opis.. lain department je.. cuma u bertuah skit sbb your hubby tetap pilih u instead of that girl.. saya skrg nie tgh berperang dgn perasaan.. my hubby still think which one nak pilih..???
btw.. kita org advance skit.. skrg tgh tunggu surat dari pejabat agama.. utk sesi kaunseling.. tgklah lepas kaunseling macam mana..kalau dia tetap nak that girl..kena redha la..
saya paham sgt perasaan awak..mmg sakit bila memikirkan dia still go on dgn the other party.. still sms even depan kita.. still kuar sama..sakitnya hati..
but yang saya boleh nasihatkan.. jalankan ajer tanggungjawab u seperti biasa. n banyakkan berdoa.. buat sembahyang istiharah.. sembahyang hajat.. apatah lagi bulan puasa nie.. moga2 kita suami isteri dapat hidayahnya..and itu ajer yang saya mampu buat skrg.. |
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Reply #193 elaiza's post
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mcm nak tolong u lempang jer pempuan tu..!!!!!! |
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Reply #198 elaiza's post
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same exactly my problem....staying wif parents,hb ada affair...totally same...but i mmg jenis kalau dah lama sabar pun mmg lancang mulut...sampai bila nak kena adapt yg semua salah org pempuan???kalau hb baik of course wife tak cakap bkn2....why dun u face to face ngan betina tu...!!!!mcm i,masa my hb ada affair ngn minah gediks tu...(masa tu i sarat prgnt 7mth),my brothers bawak geng dia ramai2 g kat butik tempak minah tu keja n sound minah tu...but lpas diorng buat mcm tu i berfikir...bkn salah all the girl yg gediks ajer,hb pun sama gatai...sejak i kenal dia sampai lah tgh mgandung anak no 2 ni,my hb mmg suka affair ngan minah yg gediks2 ni.....penah sekali tu tgh dinner ngan i kat TGI,boleh dia try minah yg amik order tu!!!amik ko pastu i angkat bag terus amik cab balik umah...so dear,face it...tunjuk u benar..eventho u sayang dia gila2...u still need to ajar ur hubby.....if u need frnz to talk to i'll be ur frnz..coz we same..... |
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i want to...tapi dia takut ngan i....dah byk kali dia she doenst want..
t mom oso mcm one pyscho...sanggup bagi anak kawin kalau i dah tak der apa2...n yet..sekarang i ngan hubby together boleh pulak dia n anak dia tu minta tolong antar pergi kl...i tomorrow baru g kl naik bas sorang2 i just to see my hubby...hmmm
i seriusly tak tahu apa my hubby fikir actually...how i wish i can read what is inside his mind...
i byk sgt beralah...terlalu byak...more than ever if i were to compare before...
he told me that he loves me n cant live without me...tapi...entahlah...yet he told me hes trying to let her go...tapi time...
boleh ker i bersabar till then... |
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if u in KL n xda member call me,i'll pick up u n help what i cant.dear,trust me,u kena ajar ur hubby...u ada anak kan???used it..kalau ikut jahat i...siap lar minah tu...kalau tak cara baik i ajar dia,cara jahat i kasi.... |
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nop...i've been married for four years n still x conceive lagi...sedih sgt..but hubby told me its not bcos of children..
she said that kalau i ada anak..then she will leave...iyer ker...i bet she wont...my frens keep on telling me she is having her infactuation...pls la..but she is so childish...thanks iman....nope..i m not in kl..but pg.. |
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Post time 20-9-2007 10:38 AM
hancus hati...i slow talk dgn my ex tanya dia knp dia buat i mcm nie... Dia ckp dia tak sengaja ..cuma suka2..i suruh dia bawa i pi jumpa budak pompuan tu..and i ask the gal..why..this gal ckp dia pun tak sengaja nak terjatuh cinta...nak buat mcm mana....yg i nie punya lah baik siap tanya my hubby u nak kawin ker dgn dia..pilih dia or i..my hubby pilih i...
