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TT marriage is like a partnership. Both husband & wife have to make it work. Just being a wife doesn't mean you have to do ALL the housework. But it doesn't mean that your husband has to do things which he doesn't like.
Compromise.... he hates housework (so obvious since muka masam) & you are unable to do cleaning up because of your injury. Find the best solution. Letting the house rot and collapse in mess is a big no-no because you might slip and fall (bathroom, kitchen....greasy, dirty etc...). More injuries.
Outsource the cleaning work. If he hates the idea of a stranger coming to the house ... tell him to leave and go some place else. Come back when the cleaners are done. You stay at home to supervise (and to make sure not stealing takes place).
Other roles eg. bills paying etc.... make a list and paste it somewhere. We are not machines to remember everything. Just because you are super-efficient doesn't mean your husband has to be like you. Observe him.... learn his quirks. You are not clones of each other... stop being a mother to him. He already has one. |
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Post time 17-4-2015 02:41 AM
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AnitaSabrina replied at 17-4-2015 12:58 AM
TT marriage is like a partnership. Both husband & wife have to make it work. Just being a wife doe ...
Masyarakat kita always treat man like a king..always kita yg kne maneuver utk suit them..kita yg jd creative utk fikir solution utk segala2nya..i think disebabkn ini ramai lelaki melayu being a jerk and by this post kita sendiri boleh tgok how many wives out there yg suami pemalas..
I do believe u dont understand my problm n your answer neither helping me to solve the problem with my husband..dia tak suka orang lain masuk rumah n take over bnde2 personal rumah..no matter la dia ada ke x dlm rumah..tht is my concern..i still hormat dia as the head of family so tht y i still do not hire the maid..Boleh je nak hire..tapi for what?nk tnjuk my superiority which means this will get worse?
On the bills..come on girl...laki tu xde telur sangat ke smpi utilities bsc rm30 sebulan nk hrp wife yg sakit ni in charge?bkn pasal clones..tapi responsibility..sbb i superwife so all the burden should be shifted to me?even to observe bills paid@ not monthly???cukup lah kot jd pengawas masa sekolah dulu..
Sis please dont reproduce sbb with this kind of thinking i tak nak anor jerk malay man existed atas muka bumi ni..
Anyway tq for your opinion.. |
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rileks la TT..me rasa anita ada point kt situ..dia cuma bagi suggestion..bab hire part time maid utk bersihkan rumah tu, for me advantage dia dah outweight sikap hubby u yg x bg org luar masuk..bila rumah dah bersih, u sendiri selamat utk berjalan sana sini..mcm anita cakap kalau berminyak licin lantai ke apa, bahaya kt u jugak..kalau u rasa x boleh jugak..up to u la nk hadap muka dia muncung buat kerja..
it's not semua lelaki pemalas..cuma diorang x detail..mmg normal utk lelaki x igt tarikh2 penting..juga waktu2 yg sepatutnya utk bayar2 bills..kalau tt x leh claim bills yg tt da bayar, buat system barter, duit bills yg dah bayar ni, mintak hubby u bayarkan hal lain pulak..mcm isikan minyak keta u ke, soh belikan baju ke..lebih kurangla..
n yes i can see, ada wives mmg suka jadi mak kepada suami..please don't..suami dah besar panjang..bukan kerja kita nk didik dia jadi rajin or whatsoever..suami tt x rajin..damage has done..nk bebel, he's not going to change sbb bebelan tu..biarkan jek la dia..tt buat apa yg tt rasa perlu..kalau dia ada rasa kasih (or at least simpati) kt tt, mesti dia terasa kalau tt buat sendiri..sekali sekala, buat2 merajuk..kalau dia nk pujuk, luahkan apa yg tt rasa..suami ni, utk org tersayang dia pasti akan lakukan jugak, cuma caranya yg mungkin berbeza..
peace yo.. |
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Thank you Amal. Reading TT's reply... one word comes up : TT ni spesis kurang ajar. If she writes like this, God help her husband. Makes one wonder what kind of words she uses on her husband. Poor guy! Such a tiny problem pun tak boleh nak settle. Dah lar sakit doakan orang yang bukan-bukan. May your words bounce back to you in 100x folds! Amin!!
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Post time 17-4-2015 12:58 AM
