Mere Exposure Effect – A reason why colleagues fall in love with each other

Yuna_Ling

The myth goes as follows: A Taiwanese writes hundreds of love letters to his girlfriend, who lives far away from him. In the end she marries the mailman. Seeing him almost daily (similar to seeing colleagues at work) obviously lead to the “Mere Exposure Effect”[1]for her. It generally states: The more often you encounter a stimulus (object, message and mailman), the more positive your judgment will be based on feelings. Hence, you start liking him.

The psychological reason for this is complex. I can recognize, process and judge a familiar stimulus, which I have already been exposed to many times (e. g. a familiar dog in the neighborhood), faster, than a completely new stimulus (e. g. an unfamiliar dog). This small use of cognitive resources simply reflects a sufficient familiarity with the stimulus (at least subconsciously). And this is - evolutionarily viewed - a strong signal for a harmless, safe situation. Which means: The neighbor’s dog is good because he hasn’t been dangerous until now. In the end this leads to trust - in people, environments and also brands. The quicker, cognitive process additionally causes an underlying positive feeling in me, because I experience it as simple and effortless. This feeling falsely leads to the returning stimulus - a classical false attribute.

KIM.K

Sometimes you try teach your friends loyalty and friendship
While they try to convert you to lover

Remember one thing, people with psychological disorder in mental wards usually have obsessive admiration towards others. They listen to no one, no advise, consistent throughout the years. They often deprived of sexual gratification in life

Its important to respect boundaries and move on as soon as possible. For your own good

Yuna_Ling

KIM.K replied at 15-3-2021 05:49 PM
Sometimes you try teach your friends loyalty and friendship
While they try to convert you to lover
...

Memang betul to a cartain extend. Tapi Kita kena percayai the more we see someone, the more relationship it develops

KIM.K

Yuna_Ling replied at 16-3-2021 05:19 PM
Memang betul to a cartain extend. Tapi Kita kena percayai the more we see someone, the more relati ...

Just dont make it angan2 because Ive seen it so many times
These men dont appreciate loyalty especially duk berangan nak buat duit, berangan nak kawin, berangan lagi

Jangan jadi ipan yang banyak berangan tak sepertinya realiti

yenil95

mcm ni agaknya menyebabkan org develop stockholm syndrom..ahaha..

anyway, kat tpt keje kan nampakla org pakai kemas kemas, wangi wangi, perangai pun profesional..

tu la senang nk jatuh cinta kot.

btw, cinta hati achik bukan org 1 opis..

LaRRa.

KIM.K replied at 15-3-2021 09:49 AM
Sometimes you try teach your friends loyalty and friendship
While they try to convert you to lover
...

I admire some of your advise mydear sistur

LaRRa.

Yuna_Ling replied at 16-3-2021 09:19 AM
Memang betul to a cartain extend. Tapi Kita kena percayai the more we see someone, the more relati ...

Ni pun ada betulnya juga..so how do we manage some boundary in relationship