sambal_kicap posted on 29-1-2014 08:33 PM 
Ishh. Entah. I cant be happy for himlah sekarang. Sebab 7yrs bercinta then putus. Seminggu lebih ...
 
Why don’t people recover fastIf someone insulted you badly in front of everyone and then you punched him in his face you are more likely to feel relieved than if you went back home and did nothing. Whenever an emotion is stored, suppressed or not expressed we feel bad. As soon as we channel this stored emotion we experience a relief provided that we channel it correctly. After breakups, alongside the pain people experience there will usually be a lot of stored anger inside the person’s heart. Instead of channeling this anger correctly people do the exact opposite and express sadness, depression and helpless by: - Listening to sad music: Romantic songs...etc
- Visualizing: Visualizing everything returning back to its norms and so they feel more helpless. In my book, The ultimate guide to getting over depression i explained how helplessness can be the direct result of waiting for something to happen instead of taking the initiative. When you wait for thins to return back to their norms you will feel helpless.
- Bargaining: Trying to call him, stalk him or even wait for his contact
How to recover fast using angerI call this "Anger triggered recovery" Instead of trying to feel down, helpless or sad you will take control of the situation by projecting your stored anger towards that person. Don’t worry, you aren’t even going to contact him but you will use your mind as follows in order to direct your anger towards him:
- Right choice of music: Right after a breakup you shouldn’t listen to "my immortal", "the reason" or "I am still here" but instead you should go for "pushing me away", "From the inside" and "points of authority". Such songs won’t only allow you to channel your anger correctly but they will make you feel in control instead of feeling helpless (see How music affects the brain mode and mind)
- Helplessness vs control: When you wait for something to happen , like waiting for your old lover to call you, you feel helpless while when you take the initiative, decide to forget him and even channel your anger you will feel in control
- Don’t stay angry forever: don’t worry your anger won’t be there forever, as soon as you recover and return back to your normal state you should stop listening to angry music so that you don’t develop resentment. The anger triggered recovery is a very powerful method but you should only use it for few days then return back to your normal life so that you don't suffer from side effects
kredit to http://www.2knowmyself.com/How_to_get_over_someone_fast
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Post time 29-1-2014 06:38 PM
变色卡
nk jgak aku pun
