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I need some help and advise here...i know yo all do have experience and best advise..please do so...tpi pd sape2 yg nk hentam sy ..jgn lah teruk sgt..coz i'm not ready to be hentam at the moment ;(
I've been in a relationship with Mr A for 2 yrs and 7 months...i met Mr A via friend of mine..we're in the same ofis but diff. floor...NOne of our officemate tau we're dating..until now...when i met Mr A i was just recovered from my heartbreak...the heartbreak i can say worst coz it was my frst love and i've been dumped with the condition that i was not prepare for it. It just broken my heart..eventhough it's my fault logically but that were all his excuses to dump me...and i dont think i deserved to be treated that way...but that was past...i believe God destined us to find wrong ppl b4 we met right ppl...
Along the relationship with Mr A, i can say ade turun and naik nyer...i believe all relationhsips memg camtu..xde pe yg perfect dlm dunia nie..Mr A is 2 yrs younger than me...Education dia Diploma while i'm Degree..in terms of salary memg different byk la..at first kenal i accepted all his kekurangan and so does he...coz based on previous history i'm looking for relationship yg jujur...frankly speaking kesan pd heartbreak dl tu msh de when i'm dating Mr A..but i never told Mr A my previous relationship...i kept it secret...1st yr of our relationship..i started to see what kind of guy he is...one incident where he told his brother that i xngam dgn his brother's gf..i told him there was misunderstand once between me and his brother's gf ms men futdal but that was dulu and x patut pn Mr A ni sampaikan kat his brother..i frustrated becoz i trust him and he acted that way pulak...we fought and quarelled ..he said dia just nk betulkn keadaan..for me that's not the way....but then we baik balik..and at the same time..i dah feel how can i live with him kalo dia jenis camtu..kalo ade slh fhm dgn family dia he wont back me up rite?? from that moment..his brother started to stare at me differently...i noticed that but Mr A didnt...i just kept quite bout that...then there was another incident where...Mr A mad at me becoz i did not tell him sape yg fitnah abg dia de kept porn pictures...the source yg tell me is my good fren and she saw at Mr A' brother's PC...she wont tell a lie...Actually Mr A's brother worked at the same ofis with ours...tula keburukan becinta dgn org yg ade alibi satu ofis...i really mad at Mr A..he said that dia xkan responsible if his brother x nk tegur me..i said i dont care...she's my fren and i believe her more than i believe his brother...then the quarell berlanjutan for about a week...but then again we berbaik...but at the same time again..i feel like i cannot go on with him but i berlengah2 to decide ...until now his brother is not ok with me...
when our relationship enter 2nd yr..it worst me more..it makes me decide to end the relationship soonest possible...when i mentioned bout hantaran value nowadays dia suddenly mengamuk by saying" haa berapa byk lg yg awk nk ...ckp la??" sedih bl dia ckp mcm tu..mcm la i nie nk sgt duit dia...i just nk discuss and that's what relationship all about...communication is important..kenala discuss kan.. ;(.after that i dah x ckp lg psl hantaran...even psl kawen..and another incident is i bought a house early this yr and the price about RM300K...what frusttrated me the most is he's eagerly asked and pushed me to put his name in the S&P...dia kata malu la dia kalo org tau umah tu gf dia yg beli not him instead...how can i if i'm the one who paid the downpayment..if we're sharing tu len la...ianye lg mguat kan rs tuk mnta putus...my heart mcm dh tawar to the relationship..i didnt listen to him....Mr A de baik nyer..dr segi listening to my problem he's good but tu pn after i complained he's not a good listener...he has nothing actually only a motorcycle EX5...he met my mother once and my mother like him coz bese la dia pndi amik ati...but the real story i never told my mom...
ms tgh de perasaan tuk putus tu...Mr B came in to my life...Mr B is an Engineer at my ofis and we're in diff. floor jgk but in same project...Mr B rajin ask for help from me smpi i nek bosan tlg dia...Mr B is 1 yr younger than me...and de 1 time tu..Mr B eagerly nk belanja coz i've helped him many times before nie..i refuse and tolak cr baik coz i pkr i still with mr A and it would hurt MR A's feeling but i didnt tell Mr B i had a bf ms tu...Mr B beriya nk belanja smpi set reminder kat email for the date....since dia beriya i said ok la y not...Smpi ms belanja tu...we're talking like we've known each other dh lame...seriously..we hv same topik to discuss..i started to feel the spark and lpe diri time tu dh de bf...i enjoyed talking to Mr B...Mr B cam x segan to tell his story...dr x kenal who he is smpi i dah tau.siblings dia brpa..adik dia sme umur brpa..he's eldest in family..hutang ptptn brpa...course ape dia amik ms matrikulasi...dia praktikal kat mane sblm nie...for 1 hour conversation mcm2 yg ktorg share...
after the treat tu...we continued to email2 kat ofis ....from there..i started to like him a bit and it makes me strongly to end the relationship with Mr A right away hoping that Mr B is my new hope..
I ended up my relationship with Mr A on the first day of pose aritu..bulan bek i telah memutuskan silaturahim..i know x bek buat camtu..but tu je time yg i rs de kuatan tuk bt sbb kalo delay lg..akan megeruhkan keadaan and menyukarkan tuk i bertindak...off course Mr A cannot accept it and he accused me having affair with other Guy la..i nie materialistic la..nk kekayaan la....mcm2 lg..but i never responded to him becoz i nk end up with Mr A secara bek..i xnk musuh2...i sdih when i end the relationship but x la sdh sgt mcm first heartbreak..
Ms pts dgn Mr A tu... Mr B still email2 and we're talking and sempat tukar2 no fon sbb wktu tu i ajk dia mkn byk b4 pose and he agreed...Mr B gave his number...ms keluar dgn Mr B we talked very much..and i know MR B likes to run..he has joined so many running and he did tell me if dia de larian..and smpi i rs Mr B got some feelings for me too...sbb dia da tanyer i nk kawen bl la...tanyer my mother keje ape la...and dia igt some info psl i yg i x sgka dia akan igt...tu sme mguat kn lg my feeling yg Mr B likes me...pe yg mguat kn lg my feelings is day before leave for raya...he's said " i'm leaving now sbb nk teman kwn shopping ry...we'll meet in a week time..tata and selamat Hari Raya"..and he jsut knew my birthday in January..and he said he will think of somthing nanti...U ALL RS MR B DE FEELINGS TOWARDS ME X BASED ON MY STROY NIE?
We continued sms ms ry..it began nite b4 ry..he wishes slamat raya and it continued until 5th of raya...along the sms tu..terkantoi dia confess he's scared of commitment..dia de few the ones yg x mnjd b4 nie...smpi dia xtau pe yg dia nk cr skrg nie...dia kata dia nk get married by 30..after da 1 house and a car perhaps...i'm surprised and sad..rpe2 nyer dia xde pn feelings for me...now i wondered y he treated me like he likes me????a guy won't wish gudnite to somebody yg dia just known for 2 months rite?? A guy xkn sms everyday ms pose just to wish selamat berbuka pose rite? A guy wont wish "jln laju2 sket kat parking and hati2 blk tu" rite?? A guy wont wish " drive carefully blk tu" rite kalo dia xde feeling kat seseorg pempuan tu??
i'm confused now with Mr B..after i read his FB..ianyer mguat kn lg yg i nie yg terperasan lebih!!! He told his frens his going to get married by 30 after got 1 house and a car..same he did tell me...and some more he said in his FB..he'll grab je sape2 pempuan yg de dpn mata dia ms umur dia 30 nanti!!! huhu...so frustrated...byk la bnda kat FB dia yg mgukuhkn lg he's not ready for any commitments...but the question is y is he acting like he likes me??? y?? or is he memg good at talking and dia memg treat sme pempuan cmtu...i asked him y b4 this and he said he dont know y...huuu
Now i feel said coz i ended up relationship with Mr A and i hv nothing with Mr B...Mr B now no longer sms or even email me...he just kept quite or he started to realize that he's giving hope to me..and he shud run away...i feel so sad..i dont know i sad coz i dumped Mr A or i did not get Mr B...the reality is i sad MR B did not comeback after all....ni la dikatakan ...yg dikejar xdpt..yg di kendong berciciran.. ;(
I hv to face 2 heartbreaks at the same time...worst than the first one!! |
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Mr. B is the man , llaki yg xnak kawin awl tu xsmestinya xde perasaan utk menyayangi & disayangi, mmng dr gaya Mr.B tu dia mmng suka kpd TT, lgpun TT da bnyak tolong dia, tp mungkin bile da lame knal TT , ada perngai / tingkah laku TT yg buat Mr.B tawar hati pd TT |
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waaa pjgnya citer.. bahasa rojak lak tu.. terus pening nak baca...  |
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Reply 2# H4dRi
i think so...but tu tidak adil...if he's looking for perfectionist...i dont think he could make it...dia pn x perfect mane tuk tawar hati pd sy...i'm just being myself but he's not instead...bunyi mcm i cannot accept the fact sbb rs dipermainkan ;(...u know how it feels rite kalo dah start ske seseorg tu... |
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Post Last Edit by sun_moon at 18-9-2011 21:59
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Reply 3# hainina
tepksa memanjg kn cite kalo x bunyi mcm back up diri sndri...huhu |
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memang panjangggnnggggggggggggg... |
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bgla masa kat en B tue....kat FB nie kadang2 men letak je status..
jgn mudah nk heartbrokn setiap masa....teruskan mcm biase...ade jodoh..ade la...ape yg nk sedey2... |
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u suka Mr.B skang ni? do sumthing utk tambat hatinye, if bfore this B slalu sms wish gudnite sume, so ape kata u plak yg mulakan pasni. tnjukkn yg u ambil berat kt dia...yg A tu xyah igt la kn .. |
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Teruknya Grammar BI ko nih. Dah la Grammar teruk, guna Bahasa Rojak Buah pulak tu.
Merangkak aku baca nak paham.
Weih... Lain kali, guna BM sepenuhnya la ataupun guna Standard English.
Memandangkan aku poning membaca dan payah nak paham, aku setuju je la dengan komen2 forumer yang positip dan aku tak setuju je la dengan komen2 forumer yg negatip. |
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kalau u suka mr B, jangan give up, u tetaplah hantar sms ucap
selamat pagi ke, email ringkas just sekadar tanya khabar....
dia dah pernah rapat dengan u.. so
atleast perasaan kat u dah ada..
kena gilap aje...
yang mr A tu memang berbaloi ditinggalkan..
so jangan rasa sedih tuk itu.... |
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Post Last Edit by KarTell at 18-9-2011 22:38
well, take your time kepalang. First of all, i have to ask, what were your aim when you dumped Mr.A? coz u had enough with Mr.A or to get to Mr.B?
If u dumped him in order for you to start a new life without him (coz he's a dick), then good for you. we do not need that type of being in our life.
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If you dumped Mr.A just to get to Mr.B, what are you trying to prove? You cant live without him or Mr.B is better than Mr.A? OR are you trying to tell everyone that you can live by yourselves and you NEED someone (a man) by yourside?
My best guess, the feelings that you have for Mr.B is just a rebound. Those who were heartbroken used to experience this kind of feelings where they thought that they found a new hope but instead it was just merely a game of mind.
You ditched him, Good. Now, survive and learn from your past. Your future is still a mystery, so dont lose hope. |
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juling bijik mata membaca citer ko nih...ades
my advice : just 4low ur heart! skrg ni ko take time dulu...relax jap...huhuhu..pas dah rasional baru leh decided ape yg patut dibuat....
ape2 pon gud luck...be strong
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Post Last Edit by kepalang at 18-9-2011 23:27
Reply 12# KarTell
well, take your time kepalang. First of all, i have to ask, what were your aim when you dumped Mr.A? coz u had enough with Mr.A or to get to Mr.B?
[Kepalang] i had enough wif Mr A..Mr B is just a coincidence...i admit Mr B came at the right time when i need a strength to dump Mr A...but unfortunately i fell for him...i agreed with u that Mr B is just a rebound...in order for me to heal my feelings i fell for Mr B too fast w/o thinking rasionally.
If u dumped him in order for you to start a new life without him (coz he's a dick), then good for you. we do not need that type of being in our life.
[Kepalang] Yup that is the main reason y i dumped Mr A.
BUT
If you dumped Mr.A just to get to Mr.B, what are you trying to prove? You cant live without him or Mr.B is better than Mr.A? OR are you trying to tell everyone that you can live by yourselves and you NEED someone (a man) by yourside?
[Kepalang] I'm trying not to prove anything..i just need the strength to dump Mr A and Mr B came in coincidentally...and i fell for him too fast...I cannot say Mr B is better than Mr A based on the period i've known him...may be at the moment its true i cannot live by myself and need replacement...but it seems that it didnt work out...it sad me more...
My best guess, the feelings that you have for Mr.B is just a rebound. Those who were heartbroken used to experience this kind of feelings where they thought that they found a new hope but instead it was just merely a game of mind.
[Kepalang] i agreed wif u..MrR B is just a rebound....
You ditched him, Good. Now, survive and learn from your past. Your future is still a mystery, so dont lose hope.
[Kepalang] Thanks a lot KarTEll. Best advise so far. U open my eyes and mind a bit. |
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Teruknya Grammar BI ko nih. Dah la Grammar teruk, guna Bahasa Rojak Buah pulak tu.
Merangkak aku b ...
musangdurjana Post at 18-9-2011 22:24 
sosi pun bc suku dah pening.. cemana la korang leh abeskan
boleh x buat 1 bahasa jerk.. kenapa nak campur2.. ko rs ko standard level high ke bila ckp english rojak nie?
kalau nak kasi org paham tolong la buat pemahaman yang baik.. supaya org pun boleh la bantu seadanya... |
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Lupekan je la mr A. Nanti kalau kawin dgn org mcm tu nak ke sume bende awak tanggung dan suatu hari tibe2 TT letak thread psl nak divorce tapi fikir anak bederet  . Taknak pun kan.
Mr B ni pulak tgk perangai mcm tak matang lagi je kunun nak kawin umur 30 dan2 kalau umur 20+ ni katekan awak ditakdirkan kawin dgn die, tak ke masalah tu kawin dgn org yg tak bersedia. Cari mr C pulak |
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Reply 14# kepalang
Think Twice, Think Wise  |
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macam 'haram' karangan anda, sila baiki pada masa akan datang  |
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TT boleh tackle die lagi...penah tanye tak die nak pompuan camne?
kalo die nak pompuan pandai masak...
TT belajar la masak...buat la kek...ape2 la..bagi kat die ke...
nanti terdetik dlm hati die...susah nak dpt pompuan camni...
mesti die akan consider TT untuk jadik bini die...
takpun dpt memikat lelaki lain a.k.a Mr. C lak...sape tau kan..
kalau anda hilang die pon tak bermakna anda takkan jumpe yg lain kan..
pastikan anda tak hipokrit..semata2 nak pikat org je...
lagipun tak rugi belajar sume tu...tu skill kite bole gune sampai bebile.. |
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Category: Cinta & Perhubungan
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Post time 18-9-2011 08:50 PM
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