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cara nak bagi anak2 hilang/kawal marah!!!
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Diffusing anger
Ways to help a young child manage his anger and aggression.
DURING his first three months at preschool, my son who is three-and-a-half, hit his friends when he could not get what he wanted. He doesn抰 socialise much too.
His teacher told us about his behaviour. I realised that it could be because sometimes I spank him. Thus he might have learnt that hitting is a way to get what he wants from his friends at preschool. Now my husband and I try our best not to spank him or yell at him.
When we got his monthly report last month, his teacher said he has shown some improvement. He does not hit his friends so much, and has started socialising with them.
We notice that he can listen and follow instructions better now. When he first started schooling, he had problems following instructions and would do whatever he wanted. His teacher also noticed this.
My husband and I try to do better for his sake. We talk to him when he makes mistakes, and leave him alone when he is angry.
Recently the new principal called to inform me that my son is still hitting his friends and scratching their faces. She asked if my husband and I would like to join a parenting forum during the weekends. I admitted that my son has this problem, and we are working on it.
I know that parenting isn抰 an easy job. It抯 even harder for me as I抦 a hot-tempered person. And I抦 far from my family and friends. But I抦 trying to change the best way I know for my family抯 sake.
We know that our son can抰 change overnight. He needs time. We refrain from yelling and spanking him, and we try to explain to him in language that he can understand.
I am doing my best to set boundaries for him at home. But it is challenging for me as I am a stay-at-home mother trying to cope with house chores and an active and demanding child.
Is my son抯 behaviour so bad that we need to join a parenting forum? Is the school principal being too harsh on my child? |
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Aku selalu cakap kt diri aku sabar...sabar...sabar time anak mengamuk..
tapi ya allah, susahnye nak bersaber ni.... |
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malam tadi saya yang menangis teresak esak sebab tak tahan denganmy son yang mengamuk/menangis dah dekat sejam sebab saya paksa tidur.... minggu ni saja dah dua pagi dia mengamuk taknak bangun tidur pagi2...mlm tak nak tidur... bila nak bangun pagi susah... mulalah buat hal taknak keluar rumah... saya terpaksa dukung dia yang akan mencapai 3 tahun 28hb ni, dari tingkat 5, turun denga dia meronta2...menuju ke blok sebelah, tingkat 2....
Saya tension...stresss... sudahnya mlm tadi saya tampar dia,..... still tak bawak apa2 kesan... di peluk...dia meronta... kuat lagi meraung... dia memang jenis yang tak boleh langsung di tahan kehendak dia... mulalah merajuk yang langsung tak bleh pujukkk.... atau saya yang tak pandai... this is my second child... dengan kaka dia saya tak pernah ada problem macam niii...
Sampai ada bayangan syaitan suruh saya baling je dia ke lantai... sempat saya beristigfar.... terus saya yang menangis tersedu2.... akhirnya dia terdiam..agaknya terkejut... terus tidur... |
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Originally posted by UMMI_MAI at 26-7-2008 11:06 AM 
malam tadi saya yang menangis teresak esak sebab tak tahan denganmy son yang mengamuk/menangis dah dekat sejam sebab saya paksa tidur.... minggu ni saja dah dua pagi dia mengamuk taknak bangun t ...
ummimai..me pun pernah menghadapi masalah dgn anak ke2, betul2 ianya menguji kesabaran kita..bila dia wat perangai ummi sll istigfar je bagi menahan kemarahan. Bila dia tak boleh reda mandikan terus. biar dia kesejukan takpa.. itujelah caranya (petua dari org berpengalaman) dlm Islam jg bila kita dlm keadaan marah eloklah ambil air sembahyang. Ummi selalu set in mine ianya adalah salah satu proses tumbesaran anak2 yg kita kena hadapi. Alhamdulillah dlm 2/3 bulan lps tu perangainya dah berubah dah. Anak ummi wat perangai mcm tu pun masa umur dia 3 thn jg.. |
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Post time 24-7-2008 01:48 PM
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