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Berapa orang anak yg kita ada : Quantity vs Quality
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The conversation i had with a chinese friend last night prompted me to start this topic.
My friend kata dia hanya hendak 2 kids. Kalau more pun mungkin 3, itupun jika the first 2 dapat all boys or all girls. Pada dia and most of her friends, siapa ada anak ramai2 ni, tak dapat nak besarkan anak dgn cara ber'quality".
I asked her, berquality ke one of our friends, anak hanya 2, tapi dia jumpa anak hanya on weekends? padahal rumah babysitter hanya 2 kilometer dari rumah.
Taknak cakap lebih pasal hal ni, I know where she's going at.
Since I was small, I nak ramai anak. But I stopped at 4 after i acknowledge that i sendiri cannot handle more than 4, I have not the strength to have more. Yang 4 orang ni pun dah naik mengah. But having said that, I would accept if ada rezeki lain.....
Tapi kadang2 dalam keadaan tension dgn kerenah mereka, terpikir jugak, maybe if I have only 2, I would be handle the situation better, I would become a nicer person and muka tak berkereot selalu. (Ini time tension gila la....like yesterday... hehe)
But then I terpikir, macamana pulak kawan i yg ada anak 9 tu.... she seems to handle it nicely. OR does she?
So.... just nak tanya, anak you all berapa orang? And u plan nak max berapa orang anak2 u? And how and why u came to that figure? |
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hi mac....
my plan is to have 2 +1....2 kids are planned, 1 is merely "additional "...the dream will come true if my hubby willing to coma back at 6pm everyday from his office and no more o/station
why?...i dun like to get stuck, my ideas of having a family ...is to have fun and to serve the best..jadi bila cakap pasal "have fun" nie.....i can handle easily when hubby is not around, tambahan lagi me tak duduk dekat dgn mana2 family...totally up to me from A to Z, senang kalo nak rancang holiday(nie totally selfish to some people) ...but i like to have a mobile family, senang nak usung, senang nak pack, senang nak jalan2....senang nak pegang tgn, sorang satu...
having said that, me buat semua sendiri from A to Z, dr anak keluar sampailah sekarang nie...abah dia cuma peluk waktu bersih, bergurau waktu anak2 comei...yg busuk, masam, kelat semuanya myself...penatlahhh
and i plan to do my own things bila anak2 nie dah masuk sekolah semua, nak capai balik my own dream yg selama nie terbantut sebab anak2...jadi i dun like to see myself as a mother who has no life without her kids....jadi rasanya 2 cukup kot!...kekekk |
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I plan to have 5....tader la ramai sgt...
having less children doesn't mean you'll have more quality children...... |
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zaman sekarang ni terlalu bnyk cabaran n dugaan nk didik ank...quality vs quantity..alasan je tuh..
me planning 2 je..pair..klau lebihpun 4..
sekian. |
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3..4 kot.. |
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Mac ingat lagi.
When I had 1 child..... rasa macam still single.... coz I still can go anywhere I want, 24/7. Sebab ramai yg tukang sanggup nak babysit anak i. I can sit with my baby for hours, layan2 dia, belek jari dia, gosok her smooth skin.
When 1 had 2 children. ok lagi..... life is still great, pergi movies, my movement was not restricted by my 2 babies. Life becomes interesting tgk anak2 membesar. They can be very cute and funny.
When I had 3 children. Dah rasa patah kaki sikit2. My elder 2 dah aged 6 and 4, I cant seem to be able to dedicate my hours with them as much as i want. Bec nak jaga no3. Tapi still ok lagi..... The house is full of Peter and Jane books.... ABC books bersepah2..... tried to spend as much time mengajar esp bila baby tgh tidur. My days mmg penuh dgn diapers, baby food, muntah, etc.
When I ada 4 orang..... hah dah jatuh tersungkur..... to entertain my no1 yg baru masuk std 1, layan my no2 yg a bit lasak, adik setahun masih berdukung........... and another newborn baby!!! I tak nampak dunia for almost 4 yrs...... Bila yg no4 tu 5 tahun, baru lega sikit....
And now..... with the eldest being 13, no 2 being 11, no3 being 8 and youngest being 7..... I am planning to live live to the fullest! Kaki dah tak terikat lagi.... I'm freee.... yipppee....
And then my friend had to ask me "You taknak tambah lagi sorang ke?"
Hehe......
P/S Sorry for this crazy posting.... i ni nak demam kut?? hehe |
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Reply #6 macademia's post
ish tatahu naper, baca experience u sis, i terbayang myself akan jadik mcm nie (kot)??
bcoz seriesly masa baru kawin dulu, i nak anak sorang ajek.... bcoz membayangkan possibility2 yg i wudnt have time for myself, nak give great cares to the babyis not an easy job, cost to raise a child is not cheap nowadays, adn the list goes on...yada...yada.............. but after going thru experience of having 1st baby, i find it, eh not bad jugak ada baby nie...and life become so much interesting than before...
penah have vacation with my single-lady frenz, and i rasa mcm boringgnyer...mlm2 nak tido tue, tadek saper yg i nak peluk gomol gurau senda or sakit pala dengo sora budak menangis. saiko ker aku nie? hahaha
seriesly, if given the choice utk jadik single lady or married couple, i choose being married...
erk, back to the topic, berapa orang anak nie, i guess mine ikot kemampuan pada waktu itew...
mcm dulu me nak sorang, but after going thru, eh rasa tak serik pulak...mau the other one...prolly kalau after having 2 kids nanti and i found out that i can manage to raise another living, insya allah will tambah from time to time...(tgk kemampuan dr pelbagai sudut pada waktu itew...) cant tell so much, for time being.....
[ Last edited by tina^^ at 9-8-2007 03:15 PM ] |
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Reply #1 macademia's post
Kalau dulu masa bersuami, i impikan anak yg ramai maybe 3 to 5. but jodoh i tak lama after my son baru 1 year plus i dah bercerai. so smpai skg i menten berdua dgn anak I shj, umor anak pun dah 7 tahun. Utk ada lagi mungkin xde dah kot. i nak fokus pd dia seorg. Cuba berikan yg terbaik.
[ Last edited by ButterCup at 9-8-2007 03:17 PM ] |
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spidernfly This user has been deleted
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i plan to have 2 ..... and alhamdulillah.... was blessed with 2 in one short.
so... maybe........ if ada kemampuan, and if we do really decide to have another go to do it alllllllllllllllllllllllll over again .... we might want another one la kot....
but as for now..... 2 is more than enuff. |
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Semua ikut kemampuan masing- masing ...Kak Yan nak sorang lagi...baru2 ni Kak Yan tipu hubby tarikh period sebab kami merancang sendiri , tak ambik any ubat but semalam period datang la pulak...mungkin dah tak subur macam dulu or sebab tipu cik abang...kalau lekat tentu best coz suka sangat baby.. doakan supaya Kak Yan berjaya pujuk hubby ya...kalau tak terpaksa ku buat plan B or C pulak la.
anak2 Kak Yan quite active , naughty sometimes but I still can handle them...dah biasa. |
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Originally posted by yantisa at 9-8-2007 09:16 PM 
Semua ikut kemampuan masing- masing ...Kak Yan nak sorang lagi...baru2 ni Kak Yan tipu hubby tarikh period sebab kami merancang sendiri , tak ambik any ubat but semalam period datang la pulak...m ...
anak2 brapa tahun kak yan? |
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Reply #10 yantisa's post
aminnnn kak yan....
dah berapa usia suami akak...kekadang lelaki nie, bila dah masuk 40thn...dah taknak lagi sebab takut dia dah bersara, anak masih lagi bersekolah...logik jugak kann |
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some men, masuk 40 dia nak tambah branch............ |
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Originally posted by macademia at 9-8-2007 02:55 PM
Mac ingat lagi.
When I had 1 child..... rasa macam still single.... coz I still can go anywhere I want, 24/7. Sebab ramai yg tukang sanggup nak babysit anak i. I can sit with my baby for hours ...
mac..
baca citer you buat i terfikir utk having another baby lagi...
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Originally posted by nashra at 9-8-2007 10:00 PM
mac..
baca citer you buat i terfikir utk having another baby lagi...
hehe..... apa salahnya, anak you brapa orang? their ages? |
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Post time 9-8-2007 12:26 PM
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