sifat2 keabangan dan kekakakan

my-alja

salam

elo semua, me pernah jumpa kawan me punya anak yg penuh dgn sifat2 keabangan dan kekakakan....

tapi my son takde lansung sikap camni...cemana nak didik ye ...yg dia tahu, dia makan mesti dapat bykkk...tgk tv mesti dapat the best spot ...nak membaca pun lepas dia berebut buku yg adik dia pegang....jgn sekali-kali nak suruh dia beralah....

adik dia lari, dia tahan dgn kaki....tergolek adik depan mata, dia gelakkan...nak kata me yg jadi contoh kat dia...tak pernah pulak wa tahan kaki bila laki wa jalan...kekekekek

dok citer sgn kawan2 yg sama perangai cam my son, katanya....anak nie dah lama sgt hidup sorang2 dlm dunia dia.....btol ke?...atau some people are born with this "quality!...

white pearl

alja... anak saya kembar.. dua2 perempuan.. sekarang dah enam tahun..

yang saya perasan... si kakak mmg semulajadi ada sifat kekakakkan... dia beralah sgt dengan adik.. dan sgt protective terhadap si adik...

kalau makan, kakak mmg nak yang byk dan yang paling best.. tapi kalau adiknya merengek nakkan lauk yang dalam pinggan dia.. dia akan cakap..

'takper mama... bagilah dekat adik.. kakak tak kisah pun.."

kalau kakak bergaduh dgn adik dan kakak nangis... saya mestila naik angin dengan adik... baru jer nak pukul kaki adik sikit... dia dah menjerit..

"mama please... jgn pukul adik.. kakak tak sakit pun.. kakak promise taknak gaduh dgn adik... mama jgn marah adik yer..."

kadang2 sedih tgk.. walaupun sebaya tapi dia beralah sgt.. kalau beli baju lain2 kaler.. dia akan bagi adik pilih dulu.. dan dia ambik yang adik dah reject.. sebab tu sekarang bila dah besar.. saya bawak jer diaorang shopping sekali and let them choose warna n pesen apa yang diaorang nak.. fair n square...

tapi si adik.. mmg takkah beralah... kalau dia kata nak.. dia ttp nak.. tak kira apa jadik..

camner nak pupuk tu tak taula alja.. sebab maybe jarak umo anak u jauh kot... dan abangnya dah besa manja, so,dia macam nak protest kat adik dia...

KakFie

Originally posted by my-alja at 12-6-2007 09:06 AM
salam

elo semua, me pernah jumpa kawan me punya anak yg penuh dgn sifat2 keabangan dan kekakakan....

tapi my son takde lansung sikap camni...cemana nak didik ye ...yg dia tahu, dia maka ...

Alja, your son umur berapa?  Berapa beza umur dgn your doter?

my-alja

Originally posted by KakFie at 12-6-2007 10:51 AM


Alja, your son umur berapa?  Berapa beza umur dgn your doter?

..taklah jauh sgt k.fie...cuma 4thn  beza ....2-2 bulan june(party is coming...hhihihi)
son 6 thn...doter 2 thn

my-alja

btol lah white..camtulah anak kawan yg me kenal tu....sgtlah sayangkan adik....

pernah gak jumpa kakak yg takde lansung sifat kakak ...padahal dia dikelilingi oleh2 adik yg ramai (4 org)...dan jarak yg sgt rapat....

admire btol tgkkan anak2 cam anak kembar white tu....cemana lah nak ajar my son mengalah...bukan dgn org lain, adik dia yg cam jepun tu aje...wakakak

my-alja

sesapa ada tips nak dikongsi pasal anak2 nie...

tolong and terima kasih

macademia

my no2 ada sifat sisterly kat adik2nya. But not my no1. (Padahal my no2 playful, my no 1 serius type)

But my no1 masa tahun lepas (12 tahun) dia start to change and act like kakak, monitor adik, nasihat adik, tegur adik.....

Few months ago i eavesdrop dia nasihat adik no 2 dia suruh belajar betul2, (after she found out adik dia merosot in exams) Lama gak dia bagi syarahan kat adik dia.....

So maybe some kids start lambat kut.....

[ Last edited by  macademia at 1-10-2007 08:58 AM ]

bbakar

most of the time i don't have problem with my 6-year to act like a big sister.  i insist my kids address each other ikut pangkat.  so, kalau the adik call the older one by anything other than "kakak", she normally will not respond to him.  to me, the title carries with it a lot of respect. so, she will have to act with respect to carry the title.  i told her that because she is a big sister, sometimes she will have to beralah dengan adik.  But to me beralah doesn't mean the adik gets his way all the time or he gets to bully her.  It just means that he gets to play with whatever it is that they were fighting for first.  Cukup lima minit, or by the time we get to the next stoplight, he have give it up for kakak's turn.  Bottom line is I told my kids, everything they have are mine.  Their books are mine, their toys are mine.  I just let them use it for now.  Kalau tak reti share, I can give it back to kids who knows how to share.
also, i tend to treat my kids as a team.  so, kalau they don't help each other with cleaning up, or if they pick fights with one another etc, both are denied good treats.  tak kira siapa yang mulakan dulu.  but physically hurting each other is not tolerated at any rate.  memang kena teruk dengan i kalau one get physical with the other.  
at my babysitter place, since she has about 6 kids to care for daily, each day, one kid will get to be the BOSS.  On his/her day to be the boss, the special kid get his way (within reason).  so far it works for her.  Giving each kid a turn for your attention will only help I think.

my-alja

i pun cam u, anak2 address themselves ikut pangkat gak...

but sharing part, i think i would try like ur approach...i rasa kekadang yg abang nie suka gak mengusik, yg adik nie tahan gak diusik...cuma mulut dialah yg tak tahan nak dgr

nor5014

Abangnyer 5 tahun. Adik 10 months.

Abang tuh kadang2 angin nakalnyer nauzubillah. Tapi saya perasan dia memang sayang adik dia. Adiknyer la ni dok belajar jalan. So, dok jadi tukang sepah kat rumah. Abih ditaburnya mainan @ buku abang2nyer. Bila adik sepah, abang kemas. Hobby adiknyer sepahkan cd2 daddynyer. Abangnyer gak yang tukang kemas. Ni ayat biasa bangnyer leter ker adik ' adik, jgn la sepah nanti daddy marah' Tapi bila dah asyik dok sepah jer ayatnya jadi macam ni 'adik! jgn la sepah. Tired tau abg kemas. Scold nanti!'

Kalau time dia dok nyakat adik dia sampai nangis2 kami akan ugut nak hantar adiknyer balik tinggal dengan tok/wan dia, abg akan nangis2 tak bagi hantar. Pastu dia kan p dekat adik and say ' Adik, abang sorry ek' (Mintak maaf la tuh)