SPLIT: apa itu DENDAM / REVENGE

Agul

True forgiveness feels so much better actually...

journey7148

some people say forgive and forget.
Others say forgive but i will never forget

Segala-galanya terpulang kepada anda

ct_og

Dendam ada di dalam diri bila diri berharap agar orang tersebut merasai apa yang diri rasa...

seribulan

klise...

KEMAAFAN DENDAM YANG TERINDAH...

generasi2

dlm usia sedewasa ini, aku x pernah maafkan apa yg cikgu aku buat kat aku..wpun dia x tau..tp aku ingt sampai bile2..wpun aku rse aku sudah matang, tp akal aku masih x paham ape rasionalnye tindakan dia pd aku dan kwn2 aku dlu...
jd bhati2lah jika ko sorang cikgu..

busuk ke ati aku..??!!!

ruryelle

Originally posted by <i>generasi2</i> at 12-4-2007 04:15 PM<br />
dlm usia sedewasa ini, aku x pernah maafkan apa yg cikgu aku buat kat aku..wpun dia x tau..tp aku ingt sampai bile2..wpun aku rse aku sudah matang, tp akal aku masih x paham ape rasionalnye tinda ...

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sy adalah seorg insan yg cukup susah utk melupakan kesalahan org lain.bg sy, naturally perasaan dendam mmg wujud dlm diri seseorg.
yang pentingnya adalah bagaimana kita mengawal dendam itu spy tidak merebak dan melebihi akal kita.

p/s bolehkan generasi2 berkongsi pengalaman saudara itu?
personally, sy rasa guru adalah profession yg mulia.
smpai skrg sy x pernah berdendam dgn mana2 cikgu.
yg x suka tu banyakkk....maybe sbb cara mengajar berlainan dgn kehendak sy

Agul

Originally posted by generasi2 at 12-4-2007 04:15 PM
dlm usia sedewasa ini, aku x pernah maafkan apa yg cikgu aku buat kat aku..wpun dia x tau..tp aku ingt sampai bile2..wpun aku rse aku sudah matang, tp akal aku masih x paham ape rasionalnye tinda ...

What happen?

canna

Courage is always greatest when blended with meekness; intellectual ability is most admired when it sparkles in the setting of modest self-distrust; and never does the human soul appear so strong as when it foregoes revenge and dares to forgive any injury.

wei_loon5063

Do not desire that is not belong to you.........

you are born to this world with nothing with you;
you will leave this world with nothing to carry with you as well.

you just live together with this world;
you do not possess anything in this world...

Do not feel angry that if you do not get what you desire....
revenge is the least you want to get........

believe me..........
to ignore is easier than to hate......
hate is painful......

Agul

Where's my reply? :stp:

so wei_loon, you mean we must desire nothing?

wei_loon5063

Wrong.....

We MUST not desire WRONG thing.......

people betray you... you feel angry and want to revenge....... and hate him

why hate him and waste your energy revenge??

live your life... get over it........

ischae

revenge is sweet
but after that it will eat you alive
msti nyesal xsudah
in the end
org yg kite dendam tu jgk kite cari
nk mntk maaf etc

Mansairaku

reminds me of something that i've read before (tak ingat kat maner)

French proverb:
     "revenge is a dish best eaten cold"

Agul

"Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge."

indah1285

Alhamdulillah... setakat ni In tak pernah punyai perasaan dendam...

Dendam adalah sebuah cita-cita negatif. Dendam meronakan energi yang luar biasa besar, membutakan mata, mematikan perasaan, membekukan  jiwa, menghancurkan, meruntuhkan moral, melenyapkan akal sehat. Dendam selalu mendorong orang untuk menyakiti dan bermusuh. Jika dendam tidak dapat dilunasi, jejaknya akan diteruskan kepada warisan/anak/cucu/cicit yang didendami. Ia berlarutan dari zaman ke zaman. Dendam semacam ini dapat kita lihat dalam kisah-kisah kerajaan di masa lalu juga hingga saat ini.

Sungguh bodohkan...?







[ Last edited by  indah1285 at 18-8-2007 07:33 PM ]

True-X

dendam.. wat goes around comes around.. hehehe konsep dendam laa nie.. aku rase

[ Last edited by  True-X at 19-8-2007 01:58 AM ]

andria

Dendam adalah seperti sebongkah batu besar yg diheret di belakang seseorg. Selagi batu itu diheret, selagi itulah langkah akan terasa berat kerana kita masih memikul beban batu yg seharusnya kita lepaskan. Hati2, jgn sampai suatu hari nanti, beban berat batu tersebut membongkokkan bahu, dan akhirnya membuat diri sendiri binasa...

hamizao

Revenge, generally is punishment given to someone who had caused hurt or injustice to onself. It is as old as time. Specially existed even in the tribal days where revenge is a way to claim justice for the person, family or tribe that have been wronged...........to save face ..........or even to show that you are no coward by letting others do as they please to you or your kins. In battles, the Arabs (may be others do too) used to allow the final kill of a person be done by a member of the family whose kin had been killed by the intended victim. So, it is quite a complicated thing but then it was accepted by the society then. Once it was done, "blood debt" settled....case settled.

With the advent of religions, different outlook arose and in the modern context I believe the moral code is more towards forgiving "for they know not what they have done"..........more or less like that lah. Anyway certain injustices still find their way to some "punishment" such as found in the laws of countries. In a way parties wronged get their "revenge" through the courts of justice.

However, the courts do not cover all kinds of "wrongs" and for this people do hold such feeling of emotions such as anger or shame that need to be released. Some may keep a dummy they wallup whenever the feeling comes up. Some still get into fights................all sorts of means to get even...............

Agul

Originally posted by hamizao at 21-8-2007 10:29 PM
Revenge, generally is punishment given to someone who had caused hurt or injustice to onself. It is as old as time. Specially existed even in the tribal days where revenge is a way to claim justi ...

I think there is distinction between revenge and avenge.

my-alja

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
Buddha