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Author: takhasusi

Suami tua panas baran,suka maki

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Post time 20-9-2021 09:40 AM | Show all posts
airisa replied at 4-8-2021 08:30 AM
kejadian tak jawab pun cuma pembakar isu saja ... yg menjadi bahan bakar tu dah lama terkumpul dan ...

mesti ada perkara yg tak habis nk di luahkan , maybe laki ada perkara yg dh lama pendam ni
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Post time 20-9-2021 12:44 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Wah tahan you kena maki dan ungkit2. I memang tak suka orang maki2 atau mencarut sebab memang dibesarkan dalam keluarga yang cakap elok2. Cakap aku engkau pun tidak dalam keluarga. Dan anak2 pun tak pernah cakap yg maki2 atau carut2 ( sepanjang pendengaran I).
Kalau I mungkin bercerai lah sebab dimaki dan diungkit2, tapi pastikan nafkah anak2 dia tanggung. Cuba cari kerja yg boleh menampung hidup.
Tapi terpulanglah pada awak , kalau boleh tahan, teruskan ye
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Post time 23-9-2021 01:46 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Orang tua kaki maki ni takkan berubah..cayala..dia duda ke sebelum kawen ngan u? Dah terbiasa hidup sorang that's why Jaga anak pun xnak. Kalau u nak cerai sgt paling penting buat kira2..belanja sebulan u 3 beranak cukup tak ngan gaji skrg. Buatla spreadsheet, paling byk belanja of course sewa rumah ngan kereta, masuk bil api air internet makan pengasuh etc. U can start by surveying rental houses, tengok area mana u nak and berapa sewa on average..then nak sewa rumah agent akan mintak 2.5 month deposit, u kena take into account unless u direct nego ngan landlord mintak kurangkan depo. Paling senang carik rumah fully furnished takyah sesak kepala pikir nak beli perabot etc. Cuma maybe u kena keluar duit beli cadar, langsir etc.

Kalau rasa xmampu time being start kumpul duit dulu, katala by the time anak sulung u 12 tahun adala duit kan..anak2 dah besar sikit ok je u duduk bertiga. Kalau mampu sewa condominium, security ada pool ada utk anak2..try to see the bigger picture then u zoom in on the tiny details what u need lepas cerai, u start from there ..hope this helps.
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Post time 24-9-2021 09:48 PM | Show all posts
pawie replied at 2-8-2021 03:32 PM
bercerai tanpa persediaan...adalah menyakitkan
tetapi bercerai dengan persediaan....adalah menyeron ...

best quota chuols
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Post time 24-9-2021 09:50 PM | Show all posts
iols dgn husband pon 18tahun beza.. selepas tahun ke 10 perkahwinan.. baru faham rentak....
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Post time 31-10-2021 07:16 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Bukan ke laki tua ni romantik ke..kwan aku parents die kawen dgn pompuan muda..dgn mak die malas ya amat lah semua sruh mak die buat tpi dgn bini muda perghh kemas rumah,masak,cuci bilik air,urut kaki bini muda..hari2,bini muda up kt story psal tok laki rajin..

Nasihat iols kalo rase x de sefahaman brcerai lah tpi kalo masih sayang try bincang..
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Post time 10-11-2021 03:10 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
TT bini muda @ amik laki org kah sebelum ni? Saja tanya kot laki TT menyesal tu yg smpi ungkit2 tu..tanya je
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Post time 7-12-2021 02:25 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Edited by mummyslove at 7-12-2021 02:28 AM

Hi, saya forummer lama. I'm single mom for 15 years. Kalau gaji you 6k, don't worry you can survive financially.

Batin tu, everyone is different. Ada yang okay je not having sex in their life sebab dia content with other things in life.

Ada yang kawin semula. Some wanita, berani cakap nak cerai je online. But have no courage to do it betul².

Alot of things will change in your life. Be prepared for that. And also if you think bercerai will solve your problem. Better think again. Dia tak pukul but he does give you mental abuse. Orang mcm ni akan abuse you for years even after divorce. Trust me.

Selepas 10 tahun divorce I still get harsh messages on my fon. I still cry every time dia send mesej tak apa². Almost became suicidal juga. But I manage to find talian kasih online and luahkan.

Suddenly the abuse stopped, after my father past away. Someone from my siblings told him to stop. 10 years hockay.

And I was stalked on Facebook, no matter how many times I change account. Lastly, I stop looking for who to block. Biar je. Sebab he finally learn to become a silent stalker. And dia jadi stalker till his last dying breath.

Dia baru past away, last year of COVID-19. Bila you cakap tawar hati, make sure your reasons to part ways is strong enough.

Jangan menyesal nanti. Bila dah berpisah, ego will be the barrier separating you for ever. Sometimes it's okay to berpisah sebentar to access your feelings. Stay separated. Live life as though he isn't around and see if you can survive. Then and only then you should proceed.
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Post time 7-12-2021 02:46 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Paling penting buat solat istikharah. Kita buat istikharah bukan masa nak kawin je. Nak berpisah pun perlu. Takkan  rugi seorang Muslim membuat keputusan selepas istikharah. Allah akan lorongkan pada jalan yang betul.
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Post time 7-12-2021 09:08 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Edited by mummyslove at 7-12-2021 09:11 AM
takhasusi replied at 6-8-2021 02:46 PM
okay, pakar psikologi  aku try cari..aku ada tengok tadi, ada yg offer online consultation, myb bo ...


Sorry my reply sebelum ni I just baca your first post. Bila dah sampai this page, I rasa you belum bersedia nak bercerai and kalau boleh tak nak cerai.

You nak dia berubah. Find a marriage counselor. Paling baik cari yang bukan dari pejabat agama. Cari yang private, the one you kena pay per session.

Pejabat agama ni untuk kalau you nak bercerai. Dan mereka cuma tahu hukum hakam agama, dia tak tahu how to treat underlying psychological problem.

Lelaki yang abusive verbally sebenarnya ada underlying issues in their subconscious. Pengalaman growing up, seeing those things as normal, menyebabkan dia tak rasa bersalah maki hamun orang.

Pergi bersama, not you alone. Itu pun kalau dia nak berubah. Kalau x nak you will be fighting this on your own. And masalah takkan selesai.

Kalau dia tak nak pergi, ambil borang cerai dan simpan di rumah. Make sure he knows you have it. Maybe dengan cara tu dia akan cooperate to solve this problem together.
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Post time 1-1-2022 05:11 PM | Show all posts
takhasusi replied at 3-8-2021 02:07 AM
aku pernah discuss dgn dia, tapi biasalah lah, dia akan blame aku semula, semua salah aku..byk kal ...

you are just married to narcisstic / chauvanist ..

dua dua ada silap dalam marriage.. laki kamu tu hold the grudge lama dah, adakah kamu sentiasa ambil kesempatan ke atas duit beliau? contohnya kamu berat nak share the financial burden?
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Post time 5-1-2022 09:39 AM | Show all posts
masa merajuk tu bikin body kasi lawa la,nt dia pujuk la balik
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