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Askm....
I admire the way u treats Ur kids.
They are so lucky to have U as their father.
untuk melalui kehidupan sehingga ke peringkat ini hmmm....
for U, mesti komplikatedkan... Sy sndiri membaca diary U pun da dpt imagine if I were U, fuhh...
Tapi sbgai parents apatah lagi as single parent, anak2 adalah mjdi keutamaan melebihi diri sendiri, itu sy percaya...
Wish U the luck n semoga berbahagia melayari kehidupan bersama anak2.
Pecayalah ada hikmah disebalik semua ini. |
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Post Last Edit by pak_itam at 13-7-2009 17:40
As promised.. my recent letter to Arissa. FYI, we still in conflict. We converse for genuine topic only. Arissa yg pilih... bukan senang nak counter Arissa... hujahnya bikin pakcik berpeluh.. kekadang nak reply surat dia.. pakcik kena buka buku...
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Assalammualaikum my dearie princess,
It has been sometimes I did not send u a letter. My apologies, my routine went haywire. I need to take care a left over with limited time given to counter it. I hope u are fine and doing great beside yr lovely friends. I still in the office while typing out this letter to u. KL is raining and the air-con was too cold in here. What do u had for lunch today and hope u enjoy the food.
Kakak,
I realised these few days, things doesn’t worked out nicely at both of our side. Like I used to tell u, life is about happy, sad, mad and all sort of feelings and dealings. Please don’t think that am be little of u, I knew u smart, u’ve grown up, u got ability to think well and wisely, but please darling don’t be so eager to become an adult.
For your own good sake, please put aside unnecessarily agenda for me. I beg you darling, please.. please.. if the time comes, for sure we will get what we want. And now, most important thing for me is to ensure both u and adik well grown, educated and taken care of. Don’t you worry about me, I am to old to be worried of, even by my own mom.
I always think of u. I miss u so much. I have few things to share for u to meddle with daily activities. Event hough u now far from my eyes, not a blink I’m not thinking about u. There is a time I worried how did u manage any sudden event arises. Were u had someone to share to and refer to? Therefore, please read thoroughly what I am gonna write further.
WHEN u step into yr school, u are supposed to leave everything unnecessarily behind and put on a fresh and cheer face. Here are 7 things that u need to avoid at the school. These will not only help u make a good impression, but will also assist u in advancing yr study.
Extended breaks
One of the most annoying things for yr classmate or roommate, prefect and teachers or wardens is students taking extended breaks where they have to wait for late-comers to start the class. So what if u have a delaying habit and u need to take sometimes to indulge in it? What about those who do not? They will not appreciate it if u take time just to touch up yr look, adjust your tudung and sort of. (I heard someone said, mirror will depreciate yr beautifulness, so jgn deal lelama depan cermin).
Also avoid taking extended recess breaks. More often than not, people use their recess time to go toilet or library; but if u cannot finish a task within this time, do it on yr own time. Never extend yr breaks or late to yr class.
Tardiness
Being late to class once in a while may be excused. But what is not tolerated is coming in late every day. Do not misuse study hours, unless you have a genuine reason for doing so and one that can be excused.
Loud behaviour
People around u are trying to gain the knowledge. They do not need disturbances like loud talking or completely irrelevant discussions. U are not only affecting their ability to study, u are not showing them respect.
Being untidy
U need to keep yr desk, locker and bed clean and also the other areas such as the ironing room, study room, wash room and TV room. Would u like it if someone left used tissue or scraps of food on the floor in the dorm u usually sit at? Extend the same courtesy to other people and clean up after yourself.
Personal issues
Everyone has family and commitments, but when u come to school, you need to leave those behind. There are going to be times when an event arises, but those can be dealt with. If you have family or friends who need to contact or meet you at school, try to keep this to a minimum. Don’t keep talking personal issue at school — it will look like you are not paying enough attention to your study.
Speaking your mind
You have heard the saying “think before you speak”. You will have to bear the consequences of the things you say. So think before you speak at all times. Be wise with your words
Words at times refuse to be announced. They float in mid air awaiting capture whilst still in flight. They lie beneath the surface of the bubbling brook swimming patiently until they are fished out. They parade in the field anticipating the thrust of the rope around their neck as they are pulled in.
They appear in the mist, in the sunshine, in the haze, in the snow storm, in the smoke, in the smog and at any time they will land on the page before your very eyes. Without warning they will strike. Without introduction they will present.
But it is only those whom are aware of the habits of words who will translate the garble into a format that will influence their minds and the minds of others. For there is an ordering that must occur. There is a discipline that must be enforced if any sense is to be made out of the silent commotion that fills our world.
And yet these words - in right order can change the course of history. The pen has always been far more powerful than the sword - words more powerful than wars. So hone your gift if you wish to influence the lives of others. Sharpen your mind by gathering to yourself the very best words that will build your life - an edifice of great wisdom. For these words will feed you, clothe you, water you and enrich you.
They are a school that will befriend you if you treat them with great respect. Handle them wisely and craft the transformation. For rich words add richness to a rich life. And your selective choice of those words, that build strength in your being, will determine whether death or life will fill your days.
Choose the words that breathe life to be your friends. And may they fill the pages of your journals, as well as being those syllables that will habitually pass over and touch the top of your tongue time and time again. For therein lies the path that leads to life - abundant life.
Do not be emotional
Do not express anger too vividly. This is true for senior students who may have an ego issue. Do not let your emotions affect your study moves.
I wrote quite much today (hope u don’t take it as nag). I knew you love to read. Please bear in mind on the above factors. You are what you said and you being what you think. So, think positively and act wisely.
I love you so much. Please do not stop loving and believing in yourself.
Forgiveness is the best medicine for bitter heart
Love,
Babah |
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baca kisah pakcik ni....insaf betul....!!..anyway pakcik...teruskan menulis...kalau kami tak respon tu...bukan kita orang tak baca....tp kadang2...tak dak ayat nak tulis.....
"Forgiveness is the best medicine for bitter heart" <----suka ayat last pakcik ni..... |
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695# KIM.mafia
kawan pakcik nyer tempat kerja tu...satu malam above 1K... KIM ok ker? Govt rate tak digunapakai kat situ... memang mainly tourist jer..
pak_itam Post at 13-7-2009 08:47 
alamak..mahalnyer..baik pi obersi jer dr nak bayar hotel mahal2..bukan nak gi honeymoon:geram: |
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Post Last Edit by pak_itam at 13-7-2009 17:40
As promised.. my recent letter to Arissa. FYI, we still in conflict. We converse for genuine topic only. Arissa yg pilih... bukan senang nak counter Ar ...
pak_itam Post at 13-7-2009 15:32
gd tips 4 her |
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huhu..... |
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Assalammualaikum dan selamat tengah hari semer...
Pakcik malas nak kuar makan.. lepak kat opis aja...Letih minggu lepas masih terasa sampai hari ni..
Semalam pakcik balik umah - sorang. Mak, ayah n Anne kat rumah abg pakcik... Esok lepas kerja baru pakcik nak pegi jemput balik.. Khamis pagi ayah pakcik ada schedule check up dia..
Semalam Arissa call pakcik....lepas tuh pakcik call F... lama juga kami cakap...
Arissa: Assalammualaikum babah.. care to chat?
Pakcik: ws.. y r u askin me that way? Babah kat rumah ni?
Arissa: mana la tahu.. bz.. uncontactable macam last week..got yr letter. Thanks. babah ni serious sgt laaa... marah dengan kakak ker?
Pakcik: serious apa nya... kakak lupa apa yg kaka tulis?
Arissa: ala babah ni... dont want la be like that...have a pity on me laa...
Pakcik: me? pity on u? what about u? Have you?
Arissa: bah, do we have problem? what on earth that made u talk to me like this...
Pakcik: ok.. my apologies.. i dont meant it..
Arissa: i'm sorry too... miss u so much.. when are u coming to see me.. raining season here...
Pakcik: miss u too darling... does everything OK?
Arissa: ok.. can sleep well, eat well...but..
Pakcik: but what? anything bother? that thing again?
Arissa: missing u sooooooooooo mucccchhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....hehehhe
Pakcik: yea i miss u too... see laa weekend ni..tapi babah tak janji...rindu babah ker.. or cant wait for Harry Potter?
Arissa: miss u much.. but.. hehehehhe.... want to watch harry potter too...btw, mak nenek ngan ayah wan OK?
Pakcik: Alhamdulillah, both ok.. dorang kat umah pak long.. babah sorang jer ni... tengah spring cleaning umah dengan semangat nya...
Arissa: Ok bah... ada org nak make call.. talk to u again.. love u so much... hhmmm ada isteri tak laa penat kemas umah sorang2..choww
Pakcik: ehh sempat lagi.. dah lah.. bye.. nite sweet dreams..
Arissa: u too... salam babah..
Pakcik: ws
lepas off conversation, pakcik dok gelak sorang2.. nampaknya angin dah reda... kikikiki semalam pakcik tukar cadar smer2 lam umah tu, sarung bantal, selimut, alas kaki, alas meja... langsir jer tak kutip basuh... bila dah siap jemur.. rasa cam amik upah wat laundry pun ada.. kikikikikiki
Dah settle smer kijer.. pakcik kuar sat... member ajak minum... bosan nyer laa dia ni bini dia outstation... so pakcik kuar laa.. tak la lama sgt.. pakcik tak larat...pakcik tanya kawan pakcik.. "ko tak rasa pelik ker dok umah ngan anak2 kecik tak tahu apa.. pastu ada bibik ... then bini ko takder... tak rasa pelik ker bibik tu ada all access ke smer ruang lam umah ko.. suar kecik ko dier cuci... ishhh aku sumpah tak selesa" jawap dia "habiss kalau nak practice cecewet cam ko, camner nak idop.. tak bini nak buat smer".. then pakcik cakap lagi "ko wat aper?" jawap dia... "arrghh malas laa aku nak wat smer tu" pakcik geleng kepala....ntah laahh pakcik ni memang tak bekenan maid2 ni.. jgn kata indon ker regardless apa bangsa pun... as long as outsider ni... memang pakcik alergic...perfect stranger ... seram...kikiki
semalam jugak pakcik call F.. saja nak clarify text dia pasal "kalau u atau i kawin dulu, do we still friend" pakcik jawap "i tak kawan ngan bini org" kikikikikiki jahat ker pakcik... ntah laa.. macam tak sesuai jer.. ntah...
tadi pagi Anne called pakcik... "babah, adik bosan kat sini.. babah datang laaaa" .. aduhhh kalau laa opis tu atok pakcik yg punya.. gerenti tak p kijer ari ni... |
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Post Last Edit by manakautau at 14-7-2009 13:32
Soalan hari ini buat PI........
Jika hang menerima perceraian hang dan isteri hang sebagai sebahagian dari UJIAN ALLAH pada hang .....apa yang buat hang terus have reservation about having to settle down again?????? Takut anak anak tak dapat layanan yang baik dari bakal isteri kamu itu nanti ka PI????? atau hang lebih yakin untuk menjaga serta mendidik anak2 kamu itu seorang diri...after what you have gone through before this????
Maaf jika Manak menegur hang sedikit......lebih banyak yang hang berkongsi dgn forummer disini...lebih banyak yang Manak perhatikan....whether hang sedar atau tak sedar........you are the good party...your ex...don't seem to be appreciative...........or in other words...the portrayal is as such...your ex....don't seem to be the good party....whether towards your kids or to yourself......
Please feel free to correct me if I am wrong...or if I don't get the real picture...... |
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Dear Manak,
Thanks on yr thought.
Reason being y hard for me to settle down (not that I don’t want to): -
1. belum jodoh
2. for me: fear of rejection, no confidence, low self esteem and avoid repetition
3. for kids: they cant afford to losing mom again (if my new marriage doesn’t worked out)
4. I can take good care of my kids
Pakcik tak rasa pakcik mempotray diri pakcik di sini, sungguh tidak.
Like what I’ve wrote earlier. Not that my ex wasn’t a good person, she is nice – full package. I fallen into her at very 1st time I saw her. Her smile made my heart beats twice faster. How do I describe…. yang sebenarnya pakcik gagal buat dia gembira menjadi isteri dan ibu.
My ex was brought in different culture with pakcik, she was grown up in Europe. We thot love is everything and half passed thru marriage life, both of us realized… sometimes love ain’t enuf. Kami terlalu muda. Masing2 mengejar sesuatu untuk diri sendiri. I fail to make her to believe – yang pakcik kejarkan semuanya demi keluarga. Tanpa pakcik sedar, dia sudah merasa left out and I have to respect her decision because she thinks that the best for her – us part.
Coretan di sini lebih kepada berkongsi routine harian dan permasalahan yang pakcik rasa pakcik perlu 2nd opinion. Perlu pendapat demi membantu pakcik dalam menguruskan anak2 and truly say...Nanti pakcik tulis lagi… sedih aarr.. |
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Dear Manak,
Thanks on yr thought.
Reason being y hard for me to settle down (not that I don’t want to): -
1. belum jodoh
2. for me: fear of rejection, no confidence, low self esteem and av ...
pak_itam Post at 14-7-2009 14:36 
Marriage completes you...dari sudut iman juga ...I know you know this.......
Belum jodoh????? apo usaha hang kearah tersebut?????? Sedangkan I am sure you would have agreed with me....it(marriage) is not under the list of your preference right now, betul????? so are you not trying to be defensive here??????
Fear of rejection?????? Ginilah PI...nih Manak kasi pointer lagi........IT IS NOT why YOU FAILED(in yor marriage) THAT GOD WILL sort of ASSESS YOU FROM........BUT HOW YOU RISE UP FROM THAT ...........fahamkan betul betul ayat Manak yang nih.....
TUHAN tak mengharamkan perceraian walaupun perceraian itu adalah perkara halal yang DIA paling benci......
For all you know......like I said all this while...the reasons your kids are behaving the way they do right now is solely on the pretext of that element of motherly touch that is empty in their life right now....hang tak boleh terlampau taksub dan degil (batu kepala atas ada duduk) dgn ego hang untuk tidak mahu menerima hakikat ini.....
Nanti Manak sambung...nak terberak pulak..........cheers...... |
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hi pak itam...this thread attract me most..(all the while am pasif & just being a silent reader)
i admire yr parenting skills..
tp kan, x puas hati la bab PI tipu dia psl make up mom tu...
i scared nti yr when they find out the true abt their make up mom, dorg jd upset gila cuz all the while dorg idup dlm fantasy.....
nti dia ckp PI ni a liar...& x kan percaya lagi kt PI... |
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one more PI, wlpun PI said "I can take good care of my kids"
yet, the still need love, care,affection from a mother, sbb tu they keep asking abt the mama...
duh duh....pening of being in yr shoe
p/s : am a mother of two oso... |
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Post Last Edit by puanlina at 15-7-2009 14:44
semoga ada sinar kebahagian buat PI dan keluarga.. AMIN... |
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710# pak_itam
hmmm...tersentuh hati baca penjelasan pak itam... |
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Post Last Edit by manakautau at 14-7-2009 13:32
Soalan hari ini buat PI........
Jika hang menerima perceraian hang dan isteri hang sebagai sebahagian dari UJIAN ALLAH pada hang .....apa yang bua ...
manakautau Post at 14-7-2009 13:30 
yeaa...manak dah bersuara |
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Terima kasih atas ulasan2 forumer yg dihormati semua..
Pakcik ni kalau mampu mengalirkan air mata.. rasanya basah the whole t-shirt.
Semalam lepas attend kerja kat luar, pakcik tak balik ker office, terus drive n park kat Lake Garden. Malas pakcik nak berperang dengan jam nak balik umah, walhal dekat dah, jln kaki pun belum sempat pecah peluh dah sampai. Pakcik lepak kat situ, tgk org, tgk budak2 main buai, yg berlari, yg berbasikal dan macam2, ntah kenapa pakcik tak dapat rasakan kemeriahan tu
Phone vibrating
Pakcik: Hello
Arissa: Assalammualaikum bah, am on my way to dining hall saja drop here to call u let q
tenang2 sket.. where are u?
Pakcik: babah kat luar sayang..dah lik kijer.. Are u ok today?
Arissa: superb! Ok bah.. talk to u later.. love u.. daaa
Pakcik: k.. love u too..
Then pakcik teringatkan Anissa…
Pakcik: Salam mak… mak ok? Mai nak cakap ngan adik sat
Mak: ws.. biasa ja…adik dok main di luaq.. hang dok tang mana ni, pukui berapa sampai,
mak masak sayoq labu dengan daun sasin..
Pakcik: wahhhh sedap tu..cek tak larat la mak… esok na..panggey adik sat..
Dengar suara dia yg nyaring datang.. saper tuh nenek… cakap laa adik tgh main…
Anissa: hello…nak cakap dengan siapa?
Pakcik: Hello… nak cakap dengan u laaa..
Anissa: babah ker ni? (nenek kasi kuat adik tak dengar – mak pakcik on loud speaker)
Anissa ni memang tak suka cakap n letak phone kat telinga.. geli katanya.. bila rambut kena telinga..so dia memang prefer loud speaker..
Pakcik: babah mana pulak…I kan peminat u
Anissa: peminat.. tapi adik bukan artist
Pakcik: pasal u bukan artist laa yg I minat tu.. tak boleh ker…
Anissa: errmmm ni babah laaa… igt adik tak tahu ker… babah ni dok main2kan adik ..
takder kerja ker… oklah bye.. adik tgh main …(nah nenek.. soh babah call back..
adik bz)
Gelak pakcik sowang… mood acting dia tak ada la tuuuu… kalau tak… mau smer farid kamil laaa, brad pit laaa.. christiano ronaldo laaa.. smer pakwe dia.. kikikikikiki
Lepas tu pakcik pun balik umah…lepas settle2 apa yg patut.. pakcik lepak depan tv sat… JGN KETAWA yer… pakcik layan citer ugly betty ngan desperade hw kikikik auuuuuww…
Lepas tu pakcik cek CARI sat… bacalahh post post anda smer… setiap perbutiran pakcik halusi dan cuba fahami…
Melayang lagi pakcik, melihat diri pakcik yg dulu dan sekarang…
It was 14 Feb 2003..minggu tu pakcik dengan x bercuti di Terengganu atas permintaan dia. Dah almost due for Anissa dah tu, tapi dia mohon nak jugak2.. bilangnya mahu merungkai semua..Kami tak bawa Arissa. Hanya kami berdua…
Masih kukuh dalam kepala pakcik akan isi perbincangan kami waktu itu… kami berjalan2 tepi pantai…erat tangan pakcik digenggamnya…
Ex: B.. u are the best I’ve ever had…
Pakcik: thanks…cakaplah apa saja.. apa saja yg terbuku di hati syg..biar pahit macam
mana sekali pun abg akan terima..
Ex: I’m sorry, I don’t think I can carry it any longer than what I’ve been ..(dia mula
sebak, dan mengalirkan air mata…)
Pakcik tenangkan dia.. pakcik peluk dia… dalam hati pakcik.. Tuhan saja yg tahu betapa pakcik rasa bersalah melihat merah mukanya menahan tangis… macam begitu beratkah beban yg dia tanggung.. ibarat hidupnya penuh dengan penyiksaan..
Ex: B.. u terlalu OK.. apa saja yg I lakukan…u terima dengan senyuman… sampaikan I
terfikir… adakah semua ini lakonan…u seperti tidak berperasaan… because of your
unlimited kindness to me, made me to become not me day by day… sikap u pudarkan
cinta I and it become such a pity..i don’t love you anymore..and what’s left just…..
Pakcik: (sambil tersenyum) teruskan.. abg dengar ni..
Ex: let me go… u can have our kids… I swear I wont come back… and for godsake please
don’t ask me why… all I can tell u is… I want to have my own life back… ambillah anak
kita, I harap keduanya mampu buat abg ampunkan saya..
Pakcik: (mengucap panjang dalam hati.. mohon kekuatan dengan Allah).. how long do I
have before u.. (tak terkeluar perkataan seterusnya)
Ex: lepas baby ni keluar…
Pakcik: senyumlah sket untuk abg, syg jgn risau… nanti BP tak stable … boleh abg minta
satu perkara..
Ex: apa saja…
Pakcik: sehingga baby ni lahir, kita tak akan bincang tentang ni lagi, kakak tak akan tahu
tentang ni, dan hingga detik itu syg masih dengan keputusan syg, buatlah apa yg
syg rasa terbaik buat diri syg..abg tetap bagi syg masa andai sayang berubah
fikiran… abg janji semuanya akan diselesaikan mengikut hukum dan abg tak akan
aniaya syg… jgn takut, jgn risau..mohon abg, syg jaga diri baik2 dan jgn nangis
selalu abg tak nak baby ni nanti keluar iras mak neng tak pun azean irdawaty
kikikiki
Ex: B.. I am so so sorry
Makin kuat nangisnya dalam pelukan pakcik. Pakcik? Detik itu terasa ombak berhenti menghempas pantai, angin berhenti bertiup, mute, kosong, pause… ntah..
Dari detik itu, kami teruskan hidup dgn masa yang ada..setiap malam pakcik akan tidur macam biasa dan bila dia dah tidur, pakcik bangun, pakcik renung dia, wajah yang buat pakcik rasa dunia ini pakcik yg punya.
Anne was born on 24 Feb 2003, 3 days after she left for her country. Tanpa melihat Anne, tanpa ciuman pada Arissa dan tanpa ucap selamat tinggal pada pakcik…
nanti pakcik sambung, sampai situ saja lamunan pakcik.. lepas tu F call.. lama kami cakap... nanti pakcik ringkaskan perbualan dari pukul 11 sampai 2am.. Insyaallah..harapan pakcik perbutiran perbualan pakcik dengan F akan memberi kefahaman kepada anda semua... |
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isk...sedihnya kalau ibu saya yang buat saya begitu...
tak dapat di gambarkan... |
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Nekadnya dia....
anak2... Baby.....
dramatic....
sedih tak terucap..... |
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Post time 13-7-2009 02:36 PM
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