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saya masa kecik2 camtu...rasanya sbb kurang kluar rumah kot..mak saya mmg tak kasi lansung kluar rumah..berkawan ngan mak jela..yela mak suri rumah kan.
pengalaman saya tengok anak2 jiran pun camtu...
yang mana mak dia housewife..anak dia timid sgt...mungkin tak pandai bergaul kot...berbeza dgn budak2 yg duduk nurseri..selalu berkawan...diorg lebih berani.
tp taktau la..tu pendapat saya je. |
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Reply #1 my-alja's post
My eldest son is what I would call as an introvert. He prefers his own company than being with other people. He hated school. The early years were such a struggle. I even miscarried once because I went up and down his school stairs so many times because he refused to go to school and would not budge.
Hubby and I tried lots of different approaches with him from an early age. We got him into drama class (Helen O'Grady) to enable him to gain confidence. We believe that being extremely shy will rob him of many opportunities. He's not the type to volunteer to answer questions or even to participate in grpup activities.
Anyway to cut a long story short - hubby and I are relentless in making him control his shyness and try to be more confident. He's so much better now at managing himself in new environment or in crowds. He's an orator, has won spelling bee contests, is a prefect in school, a great big brother to his adik. What more can a mummy ask?
His shyness is also is strength. He's a very sensitive child and emphatises easily. He loves to read and is now reading books normally read by college kids. He's a deep thinker and a good strategist - comes with his preference of solitude. He continues to amaze hubby and me with his thinking. We would be discussing our business problems and he would butt in with something that's completely astounding.
I believe giving a shy kid skills enable them to adapt better in life.
My son also plays the guitar. When things get a bit too much for him, he retreats with his guitar and starts to strum it.
Some of the things hubby and I did / still do where necessary with our son :
- role play of situations (and what his response should be - if its too much then just a smile would do we tell him)
- lead by example (ie we go first and say Hi! or Salam. And he follows suit)
- tell close family such as grandparents not to be critical of our son's aloofness (this is easy cos we have many doctors in the family and extreme shyness could be a medical problem such as Asperger's Syndrome which thank God my son doesn't have)
- compliment him often when he says or does positive things
- enrol him in social skills classes (drama school (for confidence), music (for escapism, swimming (to release nervous energy etc.)
Here is a list of things you should not do to a shy kid : (taken from parenting site)
Embarrass your child in public.
Criticize people in public.
Berate your children when they make a mistake.
Okay lesson on shy kids over now!  |
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Shy boy
CHILDWISE By RUTH LIEW
Children can be painfully shy when among strangers, but there are ways to draw them out.
MY son will be turning four in July. He has been attending preschool since the age of three. Every morning he kicks up a fuss, giving all kinds of excuses not to go to school.
However, once he reaches school, there are no more tears and he is able to participate in the activities. Due to unavoidable reasons, I had to move him to another school and he has been there for a month.
The problem is that he does not want to talk in school or when he is with strangers.
In his old school, the teachers had a tough time trying to get him to speak up. They had to ask repeatedly before they could get him to open up. He would participate in activities such as drawing and colouring, but when it came to singing or talking, he would clam up.
As a baby, my son had terrible stranger anxiety, so much so that we could not visit our friends or relatives as he would cry non-stop.
As he grew older, he stopped crying but would refuse to look at anyone. If someone should talk to him or touch him, he would start crying.
After going to preschool, his social skills improved a little. He would play with children his age but refused to talk to them. When we went to relatives |
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