Nizam_76 replied at 14-9-2022 10:03 PM
Macam mana nak cari skandal? Any tips....
maybe u can start posting new thread. cari skandal..
and please people.. no judging here...
Nizam_76 replied at 14-9-2022 10:03 PM
Macam mana nak cari skandal? Any tips....
Tt dah nekad ke? Xnak bincang elok2 dulu ke?
Entahlah... rasa dh usaha mcm2... tp xder perubahan jgk... dah mula rasa mcm x dihargai dan disayangi la plk...
so kes tt ni xdak solution ke?
hmmm meh nk citer dr perspektif pompuan 40an mcm wife tt ni..
aku rasa aku pun sekapal dgn wife tt..
alasan penat tu memang alasan kukuh yg kami akan bagi bila nk tolak ;P
bukan main2 tau tp mmg penat kalau pompuan yg bekerja + low sex libido..
salah satu sbb ambik perancang..
mmg down terus kecuali lepas period..
tambah kepala pulak tgh serabut dgn masalah kerja lagi la rasa nk mengamuk je bila laki mintak…
so tt boleh try mcm ni;
1) ambik masa utk slow talk tp bukan atas katil lepas you dh kena reject..cari masa yg sesuai..
tanya dia betul2 apa masalah sebenar, apa yg wife you nak & keadaan yg mcm mana paling sesuai..
tak semestinya dh kawin lama you tau kehendak dia..mgkin ada yg dia rasa x puas ati dgn you..so ambik hati dia dulu
2) weekends kan ada 2 hari..
so 1st day weekends tu bagi dia rehat betol2..
dia pun nk rehat tanpa diganggu, dh keja 5 hari berhempas pulas, nk la 1 hari rehat..
so hari kedua tu try la mintak
3) biasa kan balik rumah sembang2 tanya mcm mana kerja dia hari tu..ambik tau sikit pasal keadaan dia..
pompuan ni dia nk tempat utk meluahkan masalah dia..dah luah tu lega la..
you nk something dr dia, you pun kena bg something jgk..yg penting ambik hati dia dulu..ambil berat pasal keadaan dia
tht’s all what we need..we need to talk :lol:
sorry terpanjang pulak..just sharing apa yg aku lalui
SayaSayangMama replied at 20-7-2022 10:31 AM
cuba check isteri buat apa dari pagi? bekerja atau tak? tanya dia apa dia sedang fikir. ada x benda...
baru beklog komen2 blkg..
i setuju sgt dgn you sis..
mcm ni la apa yg pompuan rasa..
laki saja2 buat x nk paham atau mmg jenis tak memahami, tau nk puaskan nafsu depa je..
depa x tau ke yg pompuan ni penuh dgn emosi..
dah tua2 ni blajar la ambik ati bini, lebihkan luahan hati ke hati bkn semata ml je atas katil tu..
satu je yg pompuan nk, komunikasi & ambil berat pasal dia..
mesti dia x berkiranya..
shy79 replied at 16-9-2022 04:12 PM
so kes tt ni xdak solution ke?
hmmm meh nk citer dr perspektif pompuan 40an mcm wife tt ni..
aku ras ...
You treat sex as a chore. LOLLL. And a tedious and bothersome one too.
shy79 replied at 16-9-2022 04:22 PM
baru beklog komen2 blkg..
i setuju sgt dgn you sis..
mcm ni la apa yg pompuan rasa..
On the flip side, binik kalau layan laki ngeseks bagus punya, laki pun on je hal2 lain. Sex is fun. Couples who have fun together are happy together. Hihihi
LadyCarefree replied at 17-9-2022 12:58 AM
You treat sex as a chore. LOLLL. And a tedious and bothersome one too.
Couldn't agree more... Why it has to be a burden..
LadyCarefree replied at 17-9-2022 12:58 AM
You treat sex as a chore. LOLLL. And a tedious and bothersome one too.
its up to you..ada akak kesah
anyway you ni ada spouse ke tak?
kalau takda tak payah sembang la sis
redd_07 replied at 17-9-2022 07:23 AM
Couldn't agree more... Why it has to be a burden..
Kan? No wonder selalu saja ada kat sini samada laki atau isteri yg frust dengan pasangan. No wonder banyak kes curang, kes menyondol semua tu. Jenis yg anggap sex tu bebanan tanggungjawab. Sendiri sextard dan expect husband/wife pun jadi sextard. LOLLLL
Nizam_76 replied at 16-9-2022 07:48 AM
Entahlah... rasa dh usaha mcm2... tp xder perubahan jgk... dah mula rasa mcm x dihargai dan disayang ...
Tt kalau kau cari skandal, menambah masalah kau nanti tau. Kalau bini u ols jenis play victim, abis nanti dipusing kesalahan tala kat kau je, sudahnya apa pun kau tak dapat, siap pakej dibenci kedua belah keluarga. Padahal bukan semua dtg dari kau.
Ginilah.... apa kata kau settle lah dgn bini kau dulu. Tanya dia habis2. Kau tarik tangan dia duduk depan muka kau dan hadap muka kau. Kau ckp kat dia, ini kali mesti mau dgr semua masalah dari both sides, mesti mau settle. Tanya dia, kalau dia tak syg kau lagi, maybe kena cari titik penamat lah. Sebab kau lelaki, dah pernah merasa, jadi ada kehendak. Kalau kau tak redha, dosa gak kat dia. Sampai bila. Mati tu pasti. Akhirat tu pasti. Takkan nak tanggung dosa mengabaikan ni hingga ke hujung usia korang. Apa pengakhirannya nanti hidup korang.
Ginilah pendapat aku TT. Bukan aku judge bab kau nak cari skandal tapi kalau kau single takpe lah, lantak kau disitu, janji kau enjoy dan takde tanggungjawab, dan paling penting tak terikat dgn akad. Ni kau dah kawen pastu negara ni ada undang2. Silap langkah, bertambah2 beban masalah kau. Oh TT ku harapkan masalah u ols ni cpt selesaii ya. Sabaq tt. Sabaq.
redd_07 replied at 17-9-2022 08:23 AM
Couldn't agree more... Why it has to be a burden..
I ols pun tak paham kenapa gitu. It's not a burden, it's a desire, a need. We should enjoy every minute of it. Even the thought of it. ;P
mawardia replied at 18-9-2022 02:38 PM
Tt kalau kau cari skandal, menambah masalah kau nanti tau. Kalau bini u ols jenis play victim, abi ...
Ha. Takutkan dia dgn api neraka. Bagi dia hadis yg tunggang unta nak ngeseks tu.
mawardia replied at 18-9-2022 02:41 PM
I ols pun tak paham kenapa gitu. It's not a burden, it's a desire, a need. We should enjoy every m ...
Hihihihi some people..... kot la pun jenis nafsu xkuat, saper suh kahwin? Kalau nk gak kahwin, kena usaha la. Ni dah macam siksa laki pulak kan? Ikut sendiri je. Baik xyah kahwin.
Terima kasih atas semua komen forumer kt sini yg prihatin akan masalah I ni... I x dapat nk respon setiap komen buat masa la ni. Tp i really appreciate all komen from u all yg komen kt thread ni... Tq so much...So far masalah I x settle lg... tu ja yg I boleh bgtau...
LadyCarefree replied at 18-9-2022 07:26 PM
Ha. Takutkan dia dgn api neraka. Bagi dia hadis yg tunggang unta nak ngeseks tu.
Yg ni la paling awai I dh ingatkan... ttg kena laknat bila x mo lyn tanpa sebab munasabah. Kalaulah dia faham yg ni ja pun. dh cukup... mmg settle masalah....
Perkahwinan bukanlah semata-mata untuk seks... tapi seks penting dalam perkahwinan... tak gitu?
Nizam_76 replied at 19-9-2022 10:49 AM
Yg ni la paling awai I dh ingatkan... ttg kena laknat bila x mo lyn tanpa sebab munasabah. Kalaula ...
Ya. Takutkan is one thing tapi dia kena buat sbb dia nak dan enjoy. Kalau tak, xguna juga.
Ya sex bukanlah segala²nya tapi ianya elemen penting dlm hidup even utk mereka yg single.
Sblm ML ada foreplay x.. ke TT syok sendiri, diri sendiri je puas wife x dpt kepuasan..end up dgn sendiri hilang minat ke arah tu.
shazzee replied at 23-9-2022 11:31 PM
Sblm ML ada foreplay x.. ke TT syok sendiri, diri sendiri je puas wife x dpt kepuasan..end up dgn se ...
Ada la foreplay siap sampai dia klimaks dulu baru mencucuk..kadang dia sendiri yg xnak foreplay suruh cucuk terus ja sbb nk cepat nk tido blk...
1. It is natural for women to lose sexual urges after giving birth. Women can go without having sex for years.
2. As a husband, are you helping her at home??? Are you being productive & lessening her burden by being useful to her(cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, helping in housework & etc)?
3. Are you kind to her? Not putting her down & mocking her body. Are you fat shaming or body shaming her?
4. Are you providing financially for the family or is she the sole bread winner in the family.
5. Do you talk to her? Make her feel loved & appreciated?
Sex works when women feel better. Vice versa for men also.Emotions matter. What you do in the day time to your wife will take affect at night time. Always remember this.